(Not so) New Mums: Hand holding while we work on new bodies.

[Greenrabbit]

I filled the last thread, so here is the new one!

Hi everyone, I'm new here

Just a general question. I've recently had a baby (3 months) and the weight doesn't seem to be shifting, in fact I'm pretty sure the scales look like I've put on weight I don't understand it. I eat healthy, I don't eat sweets or drink fizzy drinks, I walk everywhere. I regularly walk up and down 3 flights of stairs including chassis, car seat/ carrycot which is not easy! I just don't understand how the weight isn't coming off? Is this normal?

Congratulations Rachey!!!! How exciting. You must tell us all your plans. My wedding was on a tiny budget but we had the best day and it was the marriage bit we were in to, not so much the wedding (I hate being the centre of attention).

God, Daisy I'm so sorry to hear that about your DH, you must be very stressed. Definitely ditch the diet for the week. Has he got an appointment yet?

Hi Cellar, I'm not sure why you haven't lost lots of weight. Have you looked at your snacks? I remember grazing on lots of sugar and carbs when my babies were 3 months old. And really your body is still healing at this stage so don't be too hard on yourself.

Weigh in day for me tomorrow. I'm not sure how well I did as I fell a bit of the wagon today and probably buggered up all my hard work. My goal is 1 lb but I'm hoping for 2.

I'm on the slow and steady buzz too Green, I've no intention of going back on carbs until Christmas although I will have to see how I do as we have a few birthday parties for our friend's kids and I'm terrible at picking at party food. I'm terrible with alcohol too, not excessive consumption, I just really enjoy some at the end of the day.

hi all I have been moonlighting.
I started a thread about what to wear in style and beauty and everyone has been amazing trying to help me find a dress for my friends wedding in 3 weeks.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/style_and_beauty/2704738-i-m-too-fat-to-wear-this

Welcome cellar Congratulations on your baby. Are you breast feeding? I found myself hungry the whole time I breastfeed Im surprised i lasted a year :) Snacking is my down fall. and carbs :( are you counting on MFP?

Sol dont worry I will pick all your brains and bore you all. We are planning for october 2018. When are you weighing in? I am a huge supporter of no carbs......maybe that should be a name for our new thread? :)

daisy im sorry to hear of your streeful time. I keep my fingers crossed for some good news.

Be back soon have to go back to work.

Sorry to hear about your DP Daisy. I hope you get a referral and some positive news soon.

Hi Cellar. I don't have much advice that hasn't been said by Sol and Rachey. MFP is useful and try to drink lots of water too. But don't be too hard on yourself, it sounds like you are doing everything you can.

How did your weigh in go Sol? I'm not actively counting carbs, but I've avoided bread and pasta this week.
I've actually felt much better for avoiding alcohol on an evening. I kept treating myself to a couple of glasses of wine/couple of G&Ts once I'd finally got the children to bed. Mornings have seemed easier and I've been sleeping better. (If I can keep it up is another matter!)

I was 4.5lb lighter at WW today. I'm pleased with that.
I've done another fast day today (my 4th since last Wednesday). It's been okay.

I've just had a look at your thread Rachey. YOU ARE NOT FAT (I'm not keen on the dress though, sorry). I like your swallow tattoo too. I would go for the Orange Asos dress.

I mean the Warehouse dress.

Hi Rachey and Sol I breast fed for the first 4 weeks but he became so fussy and crying constantly I had to give him the bottle. I never understood it, he was latching on fine and was getting milk then he would fling himself off and scream the house down. I don't think I eat a huge amount like today I had a sandwich and a coffee at about 3 that's it! I know that's not good but I just don't get that hungry.

Sometimes I get quite light headed and dizzy so I don't know if something else is going on? It's only started happening recently. What's MFP?

evening all,

green congrats on the amazing loss. how have you been? are you doing ww or low carb/fasting?

thanks for the compliment, yes the outfit was awful, looked far better online. The orange dress wasnt any better, didnt fit me well and the length was all wrong on me. I am really struggling to find something nice. and it doesnt help that ive been eating so much junk im feeling very bloated.

sol how are you doing? hope you have had a good weekend?

cellar my fitness pal is an appt where you can track your cal intake ect. I highly recommend it. The dizziness might be down to not eating enough? dont be so hard on yourself, it takes time.

daisy how are you? keeping my fingers cross for some good nes for your dh.

like i mentioned i havent been dieting but im still exercising. I am still at 10st 7lb. Im going to really focus on my diet after my friends wedding in september. I have looked into getting a personal trainer. I know i will not lose my jelly belly but i can always change my shape alittle bit. (i hope)

we have already started thinking of wedding plans even though we have over two years we are on a tight budget (trying to do it under 10k) so we thought the earlier we plan the better we can budget. (in theory)

That's a shame about the dress Rachey. Have you seen anything else?
I know someone who has had a personal trainer for a couple of months, you can really see the difference.

I've not had a healthy weekend. I was going to fast today, but I've woke up with a cold so I'm not feeling great. I'm just going to stick to WW points this week. DH is supposed to be taking a few days off and we are thinking of going away for a long weekend. So that will obviously mean lots of food!

So as usual I didn't even manage 2 weeks of my plan! I'm going to get serious next week. Plus once DD2 starts nursery I will have more time to exercise and plan/prepare food properly. But that won't be until the end of September)
I had been doing a fast day on Monday and Wednesday and a mini fast (under 1000cal) on Friday.
I wasn't counting carbs, but I was trying not to have bread/pasta/rice.

I hope everyone is okay.

Sorry not been around - life very hectic with one thing or another. Will try and catch up later in the week.
Hope everyone good.

ps am fat

Sorry just read last couple of posts have to say, Many Congrats Rachey so excited at a thread wedding!
And super well done on your loss Green You can't fast when you have a cold. Hope you feel better soon.
Waves to Sol How was your weigh in?
Welcome Cellar
Sorry to hear about your worries with DH Daisy Hoping for positive news for you.
Hows things Myship ?

So are we trying to be skinny for Christmas {grin}
x

Morning,

sorry have been so busy with posting on the other thread about what to wear I have negated this thread. Please forgive me

I never knew I would get so worked up on what to wear.

beyond welcome back, we have missed you.

I'm not dieting at the mo as I know pretty soon the next two years are going to be so consumed with me exercising and losing weight I'm going to become so boring.

Can I ask your advice what do you all think of this dress? I have back fat thou but on the plus side it's comfy

Hi everyone!

Apologies for the silence. Still waiting for DP's referral so things are very tense here. I have lost 2lbs though since I last weighed in.

Congrats on the loss, Green! That's great.

'Ps am fat' made me laugh, Beyond!

Rachey, I think the dress looks lovely. You are most definitely not fat! And your little one has beautiful hair.

Hope you're all well

daisy Congrats on the 2lb loss. I bet they are, is the referral for further test/scan or is it to find out the results?

I didnt know ds2 crawled into the picture :) both dc's have very blond hair.

We're not 100% sure. The lump was spotted in an X-ray so DP then had a MRI which has come back inconclusive. He's now having another scan (I assume another MRI). Hopefully somebody will also have a chat with us then to shed a bit more light on what's going on.

Well your DS2 is a gorgeous little photo-bomber, haha!

Why can I not stop eating?

Hi All,

Daisy I hope you get some answers soon, you must be very stressed. Please feel free to come on here and vent if you want, this thread isn't all about dieting - we're all here for you.

Rachey would you try a fitted style from the 50's or a big skirted retro number. Your figure is amazing, I'm so jealous of your waist - my boobs sit atop my stomach like a pair of feckin googly eyes on a cartoon head. NOT CUTE! Also my budget was 2000 euro for our wedding, so if you need any cost cutting tips feel free to ask.

Green congratulations on your weightloss, that's so good. How are you finding weight watchers? Are you going to go away for the weekend? Are you bringing the kids or are you and your DH just heading away?

Beyond how are you getting on? Is work still being a pain? Yes we're trying to be skinny for Christmas, I mean it's tradition at this stage

Cellar it sounds like you might be eating too little, you need to eat more and more often. Light-headedness is not good, please take care of yourself.

As for my dieting?
I've had a few days of being really careful and then a few days of being really shit. We have had a few family members staying so we have had lots of food in the house and there has been lots of eating - but not much cooking or low-carbing. I haven't put on a pound so that's good but I'm still an enormous fatty.

I am hoping that when DS2 starts school I can work out in the morning and do some food prep. I feel stagnant. And fat...very, very fat.

Evening all,
sol thanks for the compliment. I have decided against the dress and have picked another. Have attached.

Has it been nice having family round? Have you done anything nice over the holidays? Wow how the hell did you do it with a budget of €2000?

daisy yes please feel free to moan, groan vent and chat on here. I hope you get the results soon so you both can move forward.

green sounds great a weekend away. I'm sure whether with kids or without you will have a great time.

beyond hell yes to slim for Crimbo. Have you done much with the dc's for the holidays?

cellar how are you getting on? Still feeling lightheaded?

mship how are things with you?

My appetite has been through the roof these past few weeks. I just can't stop snacking. I am really going to get back on the old diet soon I just need to find the motivation.

I'm loving the thought that you have some enormous dress stash that you keep raiding Rachey. When is the wedding you have to go to?

We cut lots of cost by making our own invitations (they were written from the perspective of our kids and they were inviting people, we even created our own font on the computer as the kids were tiny and it was easier to do than have to write the whole thing out).

I got my dress from Coast (they do a selection of limited edition dresses only available from their Bond St. store but you can ring and order them and get them delivered to your house. Returns are dead easy if you don't like it and you can be guaranteed your dress will be less mass produced than normal).

We got married in a registry office, neither of us are religious so there was no need for a church.

Reception was in a gorgeous private room restaurant in an amazing Hotel, immediate family plus spouses and kids and Grandparents only for the meal and then Aunts, Uncles and friends for the evening. Our families are enormous when you count everyone. Our total guest list for the whole lot of them was 280 people (Aunts, Uncles, Great-Aunts and Great-Uncles, Cousins and their kids and spouses). Everyone completely understood when we told them why we were scaling it back, I think they were relieved they didn't have to buy us presents.

The majority of our budget went on the food and drink, just over 1000 euro (I can't remember the exact amount). We had a 3 course meal, lots of wine and a tab behind the bar and then food for our evening guests. I bargained a bit on costs, I was quite brazen and they were happy to work with me. Don't be afraid to haggle.
I had a flower girl and my son was an unofficial Best Man. Suits and dresses from H&M, got both for about 65 euro. Shoes were about 50 euro from Schuh.

DH got married in a suit he had had for years - he never wears suits and the suit was gorgeous so I kind of thought there was no point in buying a new one for him as no one really looks at what men are wearing.

My SIL made our cake as a wedding present.

My mate paid for my hair and make up the morning of the wedding as a wedding present.

We didn't have a band or DJ. The function room had an amazing sound system so we had an ipod with a huge playlist on it hooked up.

My Mum's friend did my flowers, button holes and tiny posies for my flower girl. Again as a wedding present.

We got our rings in the sale. DH's was 70 euro and mine was 400 euro. Both were less than half price and that included insurance for 5 years. I have fallen down the hole of looking at wedding rings on Etsy and there are some absolutely stunning ones for really reasonable prices.

Sorry that this post has been very long. I think I have forgotten a load of stuff.

Morning everyone.

Welcome back Beyond . How has the last week went? I am also (very) fat, so of course I will be joining in with the get skinny for Christmas push.

I hope you are okay Daisy and your DP gets his scan soon.

The redress looks good Rachey. I went crazy ordering dresses for a wedding last year. I ended up with loads to return. It's a pain when you don't have time to go to the shops.

I know how you feel Sol. I seem to be in a rut of being really good for a few days /week, then being a complete pig.

We went away with the DC, it was nice. I made a pig of myself of course.

So the diet starts again today. I've no idea what I'm doing. I was thinking of Exante, but now I'm thinking maybe a fast day? Can you believe I dreamt about eating cake and was thinking 'I've ruined today's diet before I've woke up'!

It's now been 2 weeks since the referral was made for DP so according to the NHS's 2 week rule he should have heard something by now.

This morning I've spoken with his GP twice and 3 different departments within oncology. They are all essentially trying to pass the blame to each other. I'm usually a pretty calm person so to be feeling this angry is making me even more on edge than I already have been.

I hope you're all doing well and will respond properly when I've finished making all these infuriating phone calls.

Oh, and I've lost a quarter of a pound this week. A loss is a loss!

Any news yet Daisy? Well done on your loss

Having failed miserably at starting any type of healthy eating, I've decided to start properly on Thursday. It will be known as 'Slimtember-Christmas is coming'.

Where has my super long post gone?!?

I will post later. Off to a music festival with dcs today. Hoping the weather holds out.

daisy any news on your dh? Must be such a stressful time for you.

green I will join you for slimtember I've let myself go this month.

sol wow that sounds amazing job to get it so under budget. I will be posting lots through the next two years

beyond how's the last few weeks of the holidays going for you?

mship all ok with you?

Love 'Slimtember', Green!

Hope you and the DC's enjoy the festival, Rachey

I'm at my wits end. Totally drained. I can't sleep, I feel so sick I can't eat. This is hell.

Been constantly on the phone with DP's GP and the hospital. GP has advised he doesn't feel the tumour is cancerous. Hospital have advised they think it is and we're waiting for a referral to a sarcoma specialist which is absolutely terrifying. I hate not knowing what's going on.

I tried to arrange to pay for a private MRI. It was 500 and something quid. I had it earmarked for my son's ISA but figured he needs his Dad more than the money. They wouldn't even take my sodding money because even if you pay for the scan you still need the GP referral first. If it weren't so serious it's so ridiculous it would be funny.

Sorry to rant and thank you. Can't bring myself to speak about it in 'real life'.

Thanks daisy the boys loved it. So much going on for the little monsters and it was free. Arts and crafts, bouncing castles, music, bubbles.........
We are going to go back next year even if the line up isn't great just the atmosphere and seeing the boys enjoy themselves was enough.

I hope you and your dh gets some answers soon. Please feel free to rant as much as you like.

green I'm loving the slimtember. I hope you have enjoyed the holidays, when does your youngest start infant school?

sol are you enjoying the last of the holidays? When do the schools go back in Ireland? Am I right in thinking your youngest is the same age as my eldest (just turned three)? Are they already attending nursery?

beyond how was ur bank holiday?

Ds1 is going to two nurseries this September his 15hrs will be taken 5 days a week for 3hrs at a speech and language therapy school and while I'm at work stay at his original nursery, i hope ds1 can adjust to the change as I won't be dropping him off or anything. The only downside to this is that we still pay full days at nursery even though he is only there from 12.30.

I've really let myself go these past few weeks not eating properly snacking and picking and eating lots of carbs have made me pile on the pounds and bloat out. I need to focus and sort it out. I think once summer is out the way i can start eating better.