Need to lose weight before ttc no2!

[ColdFeetWarmHeart]

I thought I'd start a thread as it's likely there are others in the same position.

Gave one DD who is 2.3. Would like to have another child at some point in the non too distant future but firstly I really need to lose weight, as

1. I'm far too heavy at the moment and my knees and feet have started to ache with the strain etc. I really don't think I'd cope physically being pregnant at this size
2. I have PCOS and the erratic periods that go with it. Weight loss supposedly helps with this (no personal experience to date) My plan at the moment is to be sensible - more home cooked meals with plenty of fruit and veg, and less processed crap! I really don't eat well, especially lately (I work evening shifts, and we moved house 3 weeks ago - I h Ave been grabbing what i can, when I can!)

I shall technically be starting on Monday, as I will be spending some of this weekend meal planning. But as of first thing in the morning I shall be starting on 3 meals a day instead of constant grazing!

Haha! You all moved in now TakesTwo?

Yes but still getting sorted and unpacked!

If I take DD to park by myself she's normally just on swings and slide - on the odd occasion that she has legged it (normally when I say its time to go home) I have been able to catch her! lol
Oh we are going to get DD a playhouse for our Garden!! I might order one this weekend once I have done the banking and paid some money off of the credit card. That's going to be DD's birthday present too, but she will get it early (she's 3 in September ). Going to do it up for her and put all of her kitchen bits in it.
Yes, my mum and dad are very hands on. They ask to have her all of the time. She goes to their house once on a weekday for dinner, just so they get to see her, and we normally see them on a saturday as well. She normally stays overnight about once a month. Mostly prompted by my mum!!

It must be lovely to have a big house takestwo - it made such a difference to DD when we moved from the flat to our house. She spent the first couple of months running up and down the hallway, enjoying the freedom! lol

Right, I have now been off the pill for 5 weeks. I have checked my dates and discovered that last time I came off the pill it was 7 weeks between coming off the pill and first AF. So I definitely won't be POAS any time soon. I think I will give it till 8 weeks, and will POAS then if still no AF. Will try not to think about it too much in the meantime.

I felt really crap the first half of this week, especially in the mornings. Just felt tired, had headaches etc, and zero motivation. Today I feel like superwoman/mummy!! All because I have started my day with a smoothie!! I did yesterday as well, and it meant I ate a lot less crap. Today I have a spring in my step - I have even cut up some bananas and strawberries and popped them in the freezer ready to make some homemade ice cream......check me out!! haha

Well done on the smoothies cold - they sound great! (As do your parents!!!). Love the Wendy house idea too.

It is lovely to have so much space and I fully intend to enjoy it while it lasts (going to be a shock to the system when we come home!!).

My parents are fab! They like to help us out where they can, but have DD more than we need them to just because they love spending time with her!

The smoothies are yummy. They aren't homemade ones, just Asda's own, but it makes such a difference to start the day with that instead of nothing!!

How long will you be out there for?

So......AF made an appearance today while I was at work. But its very light. So light it seems to have stopped now that I have come home. And since I have come home my belly has popped out. WAY OUT. I look about 4 months gone. But it looks different to the bloating that I get when my stomach is upset. its lower down......don't know what to think! lol I feel a bit excited but not sure why.....

Oh god. My appetite and desire for chocolate/crisps/biscuits seem to have returned with extra

Is your appetite still back with a passion takestwo?

So AF is still with me. I thought it had finished yesterday afternoon, but it came back this morning. Pain was horrendous on Friday - my lower back was absolutely killing me. I started the day spending ages in a hot shower, and was then constantly pottering around the house. It was truly horrible when I got to work and had to sit still for more than 5 hours . I cam home and put hot water bottle on my back and opened a bottle of wine!

So, somewhere I have a piece of paper with my weight and measurements from 2003- I was 16. I know I weighed 9st 7 and that gave me a BMI of about 24.5 or something, but I would love to know my waist and hip measurements!!
To be honest, I'm probably not that bothered about themeasurements, I know I my weight and that I was a size 12 and I'm very unlikely to be either again, but it's really annoying me that I can't find it!! There are still some things that I haven't found since we moved house. It's really starting to irk me.......need someone to sort out my house, create me a little office space, then I can sit and organise to my hearts content!!! Then I'll finally know where everything is and I can relax!!!

I need a house organizer too cold! All I have is a house of disorganizers!! Me included

Yep appetite still well and truly back but I weighed in on Friday at -18lbs so I'm pleased with that. Now to try not to pile weight on me as the bump inevitably puts on weight.

Sorry to hear af has been nasty fingers crossed it is nearly done now. What a pity over the bank hol weekend too. Did you manage to do anything nice?

We didn't do much this weekend. Chilled out, saw my parents, went for a walk in a local country park on Sunday, then along the river yesterday, in an attempt to feed the ducks.......ddidn't find one!!! The river normally has loads and yesterday had one solitary goose! Do wish we had done a little more but we are off work next week anyway, and plan to go to Chessington, and the beach then.

Af all but finished now. Had period pain all weekend really, but was nothing compared to Friday. Hopefully it's not like that again. If it is ill be taking pills straight away, and maybe getting the tens machine out of the loft!!

I have spent most of the day crying, or trying not to cry. Dd was picked up by my mum at 10 this morning to visit family (i have to work this week), and I burst into tears as soon as I closed the door. I spent the few hours before work keeping busy with washing and ironing, and was down in the dumps throughout my shift at work. I stupidly thought I might get to spend some time with dh tonught.....I don't know why I get my hopes up. He was still doing something when I got in, he soon went off for what turned out to be a really long shower, and he started to fall asleep as soon as he got into bed really. He managed to stay awake for a little while as he realised I was crying.

I really miss Dd. House is too quiet in the day without her. I'm uses to not seeing her after work but I still check on her a couple of times before I go to bed. I normally get loads of cuddles every day from her. God this is an insight into what my life will be like when she goes to school/nnursery!!

dh doesn't get it, and to be honest I don't want to explain it to him right now. I just want him to get away from me......
I feel sick. Don't know what to do with myself......

Well this thread has gone quiet!! How that everyone is okay and the absence is just down to busy life's. ...

So, near the end of our week off. it's been great. Have managed to do days out to Chessington and the beach etc which have been lovely, but to be honest I even enjoyed a visit to supermarket the other day! It is so rarely the 3 of us that it's been really nice for us to all been doing same things/be in same place and eat meals together etc. Dh and I spend our life tagteaming!!! It will be lovely when we no longer have to work opposite shifts, but thats a few years off yet!!

I'm on cd16 now. Don't think I have ovulated yet though, so think my cycle is at least 5 weeks long.

I'm also starting juice plus on Monday. It's a meal replacement shake thing. Got to get back on the diet wagon and lose a few pounds stone

So sorry Guys! I've been so ill with all day Sickness since we went away How are you feeling now ColdFeet? Your Week off with DD and DH sounds lovely. Hope your getting all settled in now Tango Sorry that I have missed loads out. I just don't have the energy right now

oh bless you marking hope you feel better soon. pop back when you feel up to it xx

I'm not sure if anyone else is still reading this thread, but thought I'd cone back and do a quick update.

So I'm officially at the beginning of the two week wait. Well I assume it will be a two week wait. Even though I have irregular periods I'm assuming there is always 2 weeks between ovulation and period.
I am feeling fairly optimistic. Had a fair amount of ovulation pains / sensations. Dtd at the beginning of the fertile windows, night before ovulation day and morning after (I think)
Started juice plus diet. Very hard to get into. Need to experiment with adding different things to the shakes as they are vile on their own. But they are very filling, and they are helping me to eat a lot less. I shall keep persevering, needs must and all that. Still desperately need to lose weight........

I'm still here ColdFeet. How exciting for the 2WW. My fingers are crossed that you get good news at the end of it. Have you felt that your hormones/bloating has calmed down a bit now? Glad to hear that your getting on well with Juice Plus. That is one that I have never tried. Have you lost much weight on it yet?
I have my 16 Week Midwife App today, so I weighed myself this Morning, just incase She asks. And I'm still 14 St 4 lbs which is what I was when I found out I was pregnant! I have gone up and down so much in the last 4 Months, but as the Sickness is now subsiding to every few Days, instead of a few times a Day (!!) It seems to be evening itself out. I'm eating big lunches and Dinners, but not really snacking in between as not much Food appeals to me atm. So fingers crossed for only 2 Stone more put on in the next 5 Months!

Oh marking I'm sorry that you have been so sick glad to hear it's slowly getting better.

I'm okay hormonally / emotionally at the moment, and I'm a lot less bloated but that's probably because I've been avoiding wheat and processed food. I haven't lost much at all yet. I haven't continuously stuck to it so far, but it has helped me to drink more water, cut out the fizzy drinks, and eat less than i was before. So I'm heading in the right direction, and hopefully making long lasting changes so ill be healthier and have more energy in next pregnancy.

Aww 16 week appointment - does that mean you get to hear heartbeat today? Xx

Thank you. I was sick earlier, but hadn't been sick for 2 Days before that, so it's getting there!
That's good. But a shame you havn't lost any from cutting out Wheat. I thought cutting that out was meant to make you loose weight! Sounds like your in a good frame of mind for it though.
Yep, managed to hear a kick and the Heartbeat quickly earlier. 20 Week Scan in 3 Weeks, where we shall find out if were having another DS, or our first DD!!

I don't think cutting out wheat alone would make you lose weight - not if you're still eating double cream with your strawberries, or loads of cheese with your jacket potato lol.
Also, I haven't really cut it out completely so far. Just been avoiding it. I haven't avoided it too well today as I took a sandwich to work! whoops!!
Must try harder tomorrow!

Awww yay - exciting!! I can't wait to do midwife appointments and scans again

Nothing like locking yourself in your own bathroom, because you don't want your husband or child see you crying, or even know that you're upset. I feel utterly shit about myself today .....

Oh no ColdFeet whats up? Hope your feeling brighter today

In a weird way I am hoping this is part of pms. I've had extreme mood swings in the past but normally get incredibly angry for no reason. Though some actual issues have played a part this weekend, so maybe that's why it's depression instead of anger.
So on Saturday whilst dh and I had some rare alone time, I broached the subject of why our sex life has changed. We still have sex, but lately I feel it's always initiated by me. I can't remember the last time that I felt dh really physically wanted me, and was really passionate. When I asked him about it he really didn't say much. Just said it would help if we saw each other more often. I said there has got to be more to it than that, and what can we do to make him actually want it more instead of just reacting to my advances. He just kept saying I don't know. The only thing he could suggest was me wearing sexy underwear etc.
so I'm fine during day Saturday. But late in the evening something kind of snaps so that I start to withdraw from him, I'm quite happy that he falls asleep on the sofa. As soon as we wake up yesterday, I don't really want him anywhere near me, and kind of use dd as a buffer. By the time I've been awake a couple of hours I have convinced myself that although my hubby loves me, he no longer fancies me, and finds me hideous as I am so fat. Vow to never be naked in front of him again, and not to initiate sex to see how long it would be before he wants it.
leads to me feeling horrifically bad about my size for the rest of the day and the impact is has on me being a wife and mother. Worst still is I actually contemplate telling dh that he should leave if he no longer fancies me. This man is my best friend and soul mate, and I don't want him near me, and seriously considered a life apart yesterday. He noticed something was up but I fibbed and said my ibs was playing up.
managed to avoid him all day really as my parents were over, and once I went to bed I curled up in a little ball as far away from him as possible.

So far today I just feel really numb.

This is why I hate being off the pill...........

Oh gosh, sorry to hear your feeling all of that. Are you feeling better today? The Pill has a lot to answer for! Have you spoken to DH about how your feeling? That might help as He can reassure you.

Feeling a little better today. Still low but not as irrational, do not as likely to burst into tears.
I haven't spoken to dh about it. Not really had the chance. I text him yesterday to warn him I think period is on its way as I am feeling low and irrational but didn't go into specifics so he can't really comment.

It's not the pill to blame. The pill normally keeps me sane!! Lol this is just female hormones (though mine are obviously a little more extreme)

Plan for today-be a good mum. I will do as little housework as possible, and spend as much time as possible with dd before I go to work. Got about 4hrs left for today :-(

Well af is here. My moods seem okay now. Though I have been taking it easy this week - housework and ironing etc all piling up. Oh well. Fortunately I now have a desire to blitz the house!!!

Thankfully back pain is not as bad as last month. Had to take a couple of pills to get through work, but I think rubbish chair contributed to that!!

That was a 49 day cycle. Fingers crossed next one is shorter!!