Need to lose weight before ttc no2!

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I thought I'd start a thread as it's likely there are others in the same position.

Gave one DD who is 2.3. Would like to have another child at some point in the non too distant future but firstly I really need to lose weight, as

1. I'm far too heavy at the moment and my knees and feet have started to ache with the strain etc. I really don't think I'd cope physically being pregnant at this size
2. I have PCOS and the erratic periods that go with it. Weight loss supposedly helps with this (no personal experience to date) My plan at the moment is to be sensible - more home cooked meals with plenty of fruit and veg, and less processed crap! I really don't eat well, especially lately (I work evening shifts, and we moved house 3 weeks ago - I h Ave been grabbing what i can, when I can!)

I shall technically be starting on Monday, as I will be spending some of this weekend meal planning. But as of first thing in the morning I shall be starting on 3 meals a day instead of constant grazing!

It's great to read this and know that we're not alone in this
Temptation is calling me today but I'm refusing to give in, I think it's all part of normality of daily life kick starting again.
I've been grazing all morning so had an early lunch of sticky chicken and cauliflower rice, then I'm making mushy pea curry for tea, it sounds gross but tastes divine!

I have a fitbug somewhere. Have no clue where it is, but like yellow we don't have many rooms with boxes unpacked. Perhaps I'll find it this weekend (will have our new wardrobes by then, so a lot more boxes/suitcases will be unpacked!!). You can log all food via fitbug website too, but I don't subscribe anymore. Still works as a fairly accurate pedometer though. I want to get back in habit of logging all food on MFP - I have the app on my phone so shouldn't be too hard.

you aren't fat, you just have fat, and fat can be lost - I love that!!!

I weighed this morning, for the first time in a while (about 2 months perhaps) - I think that alone will make me stay away from snack cupboard today!! I now weigh more than I did when my DD was 3 days old

Baby napping, I'm going to hunt quietly through boxes, as they are all in the room next to his.
I need to go and buy more fruit and veg.
So far I've had a banana, as I need to take meds first thing, a small mushroom and ham omelette, that ds stole some for actual breakfast slightly later and had a baked potato with tuna for lunch, that I left most of as I was full. So rather than keep eating I just chucked it.
Dinner will be chicken, rice and veg. On a smaller plate.
Does that sound ok? I have no idea anymore.

Yellow, that sounds fab to me!

Cold and koalas, well done on resisting temptation!

30 min walking on the treadmill and I'm shattered, but those trousers will be less tight next Monday . So far today I've had lots of water, a salad with chickpeas, cottage cheese and olives and a small tub of grapes, plus several cups of tea. I was waiting to feel hungry to have breakfast but didn't, so missed it, but not sure that's a good idea either? Didn't really feel hungry for lunch either but have done ever since I ate . Not sure yet what's for dinner, it's dh's night to sort that out.

Yellow, did you track down your scales? I fished mine out this morning and it was a bit of a shock!

Thanks tango, and well done you for your treadmill walking.
I have found the scales,
I fear to stand on them. Think I will do it in the morning and write the horrible number on a piece of paper and stick it where I have to see it as a reminder and hopefully the joy I seeing the numbers go down.
I may it not be going to a wedding in March so would need something nice to wear, and want to feel good in it
(it's no kids, and we haven't left ds with anyone before so dh might just go by himself)
I was previously slightly happy about this as I didn't want to go being so fat, but even if I don't go, I still want to look better.

Ooh march wedding would be a fab thing to aim for though if you can make it yellow. Do you have someone lined up to look after DS if you decide to go?

What kind of day has everyone else had?

Hello all, may I join? I am in the exact same situation as OP - down to exact age of DC and knee / foot pain! I think I weigh more than when full term with DC, which is hideous. I was big to start with, lost the pregnancy weight itself quickly but then put on a fair bit again eating cake on mat leave. Lost a bit before going back to work 15 months ago but since then have been steadily gaining again. I have a high stress job and just seem to graze on crap to get through the day.

I actually like healthy food as much as unhealthy, it's just the discipline of not snacking and eating chocolate to make myself feel better... I am not sure I can do it in a sustainable way, tbh, unless I break the link between food and comfort.

But I really want to do it for my gorgeous DS. I don't want to be hobbling along, I don't want to embarrass him... Or worse, not be around to see him grow up. I would also absolutely love another child but I am almost 40 and it took a long time to conceive last time so I don't know if it is possible, given that I need to take the time to lose at least a couple of stone first. I just don't think I could take the strain of a pregnancy on my creaking knees!

Anyway, would be great to cheer each other on. Kerry, so sorry for your loss, I can't imagine how hard that has been for you.

it sounds as if you have had a really good day takestwo!

welcome birding. I don't have a high stress job, but I do seem to graze on crap to get through day too. I think half the problem is that I work evening shifts and I have not yet worked out when is the best time to eat yet, so my meal times are all over the place!! Then when I get to work I have far too many hot chocolates from the vending machine (only hot drink I drink from the machine, and there are no facilities to make your own hot drinks). I need the hot drinks at work at the moment as well, as they have the blasted air con too high! I felt rubbish at work earlier!!
birding i don't think my knees/feet could take another lb of weight, let alone another pregnancy!

I have struggled today. Any ideas of how to suppress appetite? I have wanted to eat all day, though never feeling starving before hand, and not feeling satisfied afterwards. I think some of it is psychological, and some of it may be craving sugar etc.
What do you ladies find nice and filling foods?

Tango, we have a few options for people to watch him, we just don't really want to hand him over. He's a really easy baby but don't think we would enjoy ourselves at all.

Not bad day at all, just did some just dance on the play station and haven't eaten any crap apart from a bag of quavers, and haven't drank any fizzy juice only water.

Scales tomorrow...

Welcome birding!

Cold, sorry you had such a hard day. I usually use drinks to suppress appetite. Not always successfully though. On the drinks front, does the machine dispense hot water? Could you have hot bovril or even marmite and hot water (surprisingly good if you like that kind of flavour). I find they can give the feel of having eaten and satisfy the savoury/salty craving (crisps, cheese).

Yellow, if you don't want to leave him then don't. I couldn't understand people telling me after dc1 that I must force myself to spend time apart from them. I went through 9mths of pg and birth etc. I will spend time with them if I want to! That absolute need to have them with you eases over time, but it's completely individual.

Ended up cheating last night and getting takeaway salad from M&S at the station for dinner as was v late, but I managed to resist the chocolate mini bites so I'll claim that as a successful day

Ps good luck for the weigh-in!

I think it would be easier if ds could talk more,my Inlaws are in their 60s and not my style of parenting at all, or dhs as it seems either,as they seem to think a toddler should stay still and not wander about in his own house. And they don't really pay attention to what ds wants, just what they think he should, if that makes sense.
My mum is fine,but would be too tiring for her all day, she's offered to do trial runs if I change my mind, but not pushing it as she never left me or sibling with people.
But we shall see
So I weighed in,
wasn't as painful as I thought, I'm a stone lighter than I was in August as I had put it in the notes of my phone, so slightly better starting point than I had thought.

Yey yellow!! That's good news on the starting weight

How did everyone do today?
I've been researching lots of recipes and have just done a food shop, actually thinking about what I'm buying rather than just buying what I always buy. Also tesco had £15 off so used them instead of asda or aldi like I normally do. So had to take more time over it.
Watched all of the hairy biker diet show when baby was napping and have saved lots of recipes.
Thou it is slightly disheartening when you see that other people weigh lless than you and look loads bigger, or am I actually loads bigger than what I'm seeing?

Yellow, everybody carries their weight differently so just because someone else looks bigger doesn't mean you are bigger than you think. It is hard though isn't it? My self-perception is really tipsy turvey. I feel like my formerly skinny slef but just carrying a bit of extra baby weight, but actually if I'm honest, it's much more than that Still, we are all on the road to our goals and that's what I'm trying to focus on. I'm feeling slimmer already and I know it's only the bloat decreasing and the fact I've been eating much less than my previous gorging, but I'm holding on to that feeling of progress

How often are we all weighing? I've set myself weekly goals but I'm weighing once a day (first thing in the morning) to give me the will power to stay motivated. Sunday is going to be my 'weekly weigh' target day. I've set myself a 3lb target this week. How about everyone else?

Ps lunch yesterday was sushi and salad and dinner last night (batch cooked so likely to be dinner for a few days!) was chilli made with

Yeah I suppose so, it's just weird really.
Sounds like a positive start for you tango,
I'm going to weigh in on a Monday and just see what happens rather than doing goals.
Just really working on enjoying the food I am eating at the moment and eating cleaner, I feel a lot better and seem to have more energy.

'Eating cleaner' is a good way of looking at it and more energy is very welcome. The return to work sleep deprivation is kicking in here. I don't know how people with jobs, houses to run and kids ever manage to get a full night's sleep (do they, or am I just imagining that everyone else is more efficient at it than me?)

I'm a sahm now so no idea, I'm afraid. But used to do 12 hour shifts with an hours commute each way, before dc, and there was never enough hours in the day to do everything.

Hi everyone, sorry for not checking in yesterday. I did check up on the thread when I was tucked up in bed but decided I needed to try and get to sleep earlier, so put my phone away!

I hardly call a takeaway salad cheating takestwo lol. I hope you get back to your normal sleep pattern soon. I work evenings, and thankfully DD is not an early riser. It's only saturday morning that I need to set my alarm for work, and thats a killer! Esp after working Friday evening. I am a night owl!!

I've been re-watching Hairy Dieters this week yellow. I really like the look of that Cassoulet!
I know what you mean - with me I think I am in denial about how big I am. I know what the scales say and what jean size I am, but that still doesn't translate to my mental image of myself.

I'm also trying to eat cleaner. Well, avoid as much processed sugar as possible, and eat more fruit and veg. I really struggled on Monday but haven't wanted as much of the rubbish today and yesterday. I actually ate one biscuit earlier on! That might not sound great for someone who is on a diet, but for me to eat one and leave the rest in the biscuit jar is a blooy miracle!!
Vending machine at work doesn't do just hot water I'm afraid, but I might start a campaign for one. I have heard a rumour that one of the kitchens has a kettle in it! So I have added some cranberry and raspberry tea bags to my asda order to take into work. I am going to try and just drink water/flavoured water throughout the day, with normal tea at home and fruit tea at work. I need to try and wean myself off the pepsi max and hot chocolate!!

Sounds like a good start cold feet.
I'm making the cassoulet tomorrow in my slow cooker, so will see what it's like.
I ate a mince pie today, but have pretty much ate salad all day, so justified it that way.
Well I had scrambled egg for breakfast, ham and some salad for lunch and a wrap with chicken and salad in it for dinner. I'm drinking loads of flavoured water and not drinking Pepsi max like i did before, and only eating when I'm hungry.
So hopefully this will all help.
I'm going to brave the swimming pool with ds for the first time next week. I have bought a new tankini top as the other one was far too booby, which would he a good distraction from the rest of me, but ds is bound to make me into a flasher, so better safe than sorry.

Very committed to my cassoulet making tomorrow, just went downstairs and into the freezer in the garage to get my chicken thighs out to defrost...in vest top, pants and bare feet.

More committed to cassoulet than I! I've added sausages and chicken to asda order and forgotten the beans! Oh well that wasn't planned for tomorrow anyway.
I think tomorrow's food delivery might just be the healthiest we've ever done. Tons of frozen vegetables, some fresh fruit and veg, water, chicken and lean mince. The one treat I have put in is some frozen yogurt. And that's 420 calories for the entire tub! (And DH will probably eat most of it)

Good luck at the pool! It will be a long time before I brave swimming again. 90% of my clothes do not fit currently, and I'm sure swimwear fits into that category! I'll take her in a couple of months when I can fit into swimming costume or tankini again. (Plus DD decided on holiday that she doesn't like swimming pools, so a visit to the pool may be a 2 man job!)

Ha ha! I love the idea of committed cassoulet cooking! Sounds delicious! I haven't seen the hairy dieters, is it worth a look? We're still going on the chilli here and salads for lunch. Porridge with fruit and yoghurt for brekkie today and scrambled eggs with tomato and onion yesterday.

I think I've got past the initial sugar cravings - veggies like carrot have started to taste really sweet it's the psychological battle now not to give into the temptation to Hoover up the last if the Christmas food. I might have to go against my waste not want not resolution and throw them out as I'm not sure I could replicate your one biscuit achievement cold, I'm very all or nothing!