New Year, New Thread #16 For Paul McKenna's Losers!!! He Can Make Us Thin!!!

[Solo]

Happy New Year Everyone!
Welcome to thread #16 of the Paul McKenna's I Can Make You Thin weight loss system.

The Golden Rules that will aid you on your journey with our like minded friendly support system are:

1. Eat what you WANT
2. Eat when you are HUNGRY
3. Eat CONSCIOUSLY
4. STOP eating when you are satisfied

HELPFUL TIPS!
Lots of chewing; at least 20 chews per mouthful.
Ask yourself "am I really hungry?" have a glass of water to see if it's real hunger or just thirst; wait 15 or 20 minutes if you can, before eating something to see if it's 'gone off' after a drink. Listen for your 'full signal' and leave at least a mouthful on your plate at every meal. Eat your favourite thing from your plate first so that if you get to the full signal, but have your favourite food still sitting there, you aren't going to 'make room' for it because you love it, it will have already gone.
Admire something about yourself every day in the mirror.
Try to move more; dance around the living room or walk to school...use the stairs...small things, but good things! :)

This weight loss system is about re-educating your body; learning to listen to it and in doing so losing weight and inches. After all, eating a meal is not a competition, it's about enjoying what you are putting into your mouth and body, but not feeling bloated and uncomfortable (or guilty) afterwards!
Many people have issues around food. Many of us have been brought up by the 'clear your plate' parents of yesteryear which leave us feeling guilty if we leave even the smallest morsel of food, but we are working through this guilt or any other hang up we may have, and we are learning to leave a bit on the plate; return to it another time if we really want to or even feed it to the dog or the bin!
So!! forget diets; they may work for a while, but they aren't permanent solutions. This is a new way of living for your brand new life!! Let's get lighter for those summer outfits!!

The Paul McKenna system really works and is easy to maintain; we just need to change how we treat food and ourselves.

I've C&P'd our previous threads links as they are helpful.

Here are the book choices on AMAZON which is all you need to get started! they aren't compulsory, but they do help! it's something to refer to and listening to the cd's can really focus you.

This is the tapping technique EXPLAINED - this can be useful to combat cravings.

You don't have to buy the book and CD, but we have found that they do help and somehow they keep you on track, so it would probably be a good investment and will cost you far less than a couple of trips to WW or SW meetings, so do consider having them in your life.

Please feel free to join us, whether it's 10lbs or 10 stones you want to lose; it's very doable.
We are friendly, supportive and successful, but we're not hungry and that is a great way to feel when you are dropping dress sizes at the same time!!! so come on in and start living your new life today and make 2015 your year to drop a dress size or several...if we can get those lbs off a few at a time, just think how we could look and feel for the sunny summer time!!!
Some of our thread members are also doing PMK's Hypnotic Gastric Band and although this thread is not about this avenue, we will still be supportive of our friends partaking of this, so don't think we won't be there for you. I'm pretty sure that the Golden Rules will be just as helpful in this process as the I Can Make You Thin process so get stuck in

Here is a link to Freedom From Emotional Eating which may give some insight into why we do this and help us beat it.

Ps. Could we all try to sign in at least every few days so that someone is 'there?' We have established that it's no fun talking to ourselves and also that if there is a new joiner, it's good to say 'hello and welcome' to them too.

Ok! Let's Focus and See Ourselves wearing that body we desire! learning to love ourselves is an important daily step, so let's become LOSERS in order to be WINNERS!!! 1lb at a time....

Sorry Milli, I did indeed mean Solo, hope I didn't offend anyone, certainly didntr mean to. Solo, well don on being 5 pounds down, that is fantastic, you are right we will get there. Have felt in a better frame of mind today

Breakfast - Cereal
Mid morning - Found that just half of a breakfast biscuit satisfied me
Lunch - Cheese and onion pasty - didnt eat it all, cookie

Going to do some steps now before I go out tonight. May have a snack but will see how I feel when I have drunk a cup of tea.

No not at all.

Listened again today, but once again Dd interrupted me! and I found myself with a memory coming out of PMK's voice! and it made me cry...

New man? yes, just maybe. Hoping to meet him on Thursday. He's going to drive over 200 miles to take me to lunch! and I'm bricking it. What on earth will I wear?!

Dark wash slim fit jeans, Ankle boots with a heel, nice long top/tunic, long necklace, some new makeup and glossy lippy and glossy hair. You will look great. I remember what you look like

Sorry the memory made you cry. :(

for Solo and Milli I'm sorry you've had such a stressful time, both of you. Solo, I hope you have a lovely lunch on Thursday and enjoy the reunion in a couple of weeks.

Octopus You're doing brilliantly, well done

Thank you Poirot is it ?

Oh goodness, sorry, I forgot to say about my name change! Yes, I was Poirot.

:) I cannot wear slim fit jeans; they look dreadful on me...it's bootleg all the way! or I look as though I'm a genie entering its bottle!! anyway! he has to work now, so I'm off the hook for a while I guess!!!

For some reason, I'm even hungrier than before I listened and I'm not impressed at all.

The memory I had was completely unrelated to PMK except that I was slim and carrying my toddler Ds out of the house. Weird really! he hasn't been 2 for 14 years!

Nice name Queen :) thanks for the flowers.x

How are you all doing?

Poirot I knew it was you cause your always so lovely

Hows everyone doing on this lovely snowy morning. Solo - hope your lunch goes well. I am mixed but probably doing slightly better at being mindful, think it will take me a while for my weight to drop. Had a very active day yesterday, ate:

1 piece of toast with peanut butter
1 biscuit
1 Chocolate chunk cookie
Half a twirl bar
A Wispa Gold bar
Quarter of a twirl bar
Bag of Jalapeno Pretzels
Some pasta with bacon, tomato pasta sauce and mushrooms
Some dry Tuc biscuits

Think I responded to hunger on the whole, lots of exercise Found on Sunday that I didn't eat all my dinner, had crumble for afters but left a bit of it. This morning had one piece of toast (the crust my favourite bit) with peanut butter. Think I am going to get there very slowly, focusing on being more mindful and more exercise and hope that losing the bit of weight with follow

Solo I'm sorry the date isn't happening this Thursday. Hopefully it'll be rearranged for sooner rather than later.
Can you give yourself permission to stuff yourself for a day? Would that kickstart you so you can try again with PMK the following day?
Could your memory have been inspired by PMK's suggestion of picturing yourself slim?
Thank you It's the name of a song by my favourite band, and it is also a slant on how I feel about myself, sort of.
I'm not getting on brilliantly, although I am trying to stop eating when I'm full and only eat when hungry. I'd say I'm having a 40-50% success rate. Which is better than none, and I'll keep at it! I wasn't well for a few days last week, and it completely messed my appetite up. I think I'm eating less than I was before though, which isn't a bad thing.

Solo, thank you for saying such a thoroughly nice thing about me - you've made my day! How are you?

Octopus It's a good thing for weight to drop slowly, it means that it's more likely to stay off and you're losing it sensibly. I think you're doing really well, personally. Definitely better than I am

beauty Did you mean my comment about you being lovely?? I seem to be getting mixed up with Solo at the moment

Darn it! Milli, yes I did mean your comment. I'm so sorry! I knew it was you, and I had your name in my head when saying thanks. I've no idea why I typed Solo instead.

I'm interested in the Paul McKenna approach to eating but I have some questions which has always put me off and it's very possible I'm over thinking this. but I'm very interested in mindful eating.

So you're only meant to eat when you're hungry - how does that work with a family? Does it mean as a rule you don't sit down to eat as a family? That's going to be a problem. I normally spend about an hour making the evening meal - if you only eat when hungry do you only start cooking when you are hungry? Or are you trying to predict when you're hungry cooking something and then waiting for hunger to hit?
Do you stop eating when you feel full or when you are no longer feeling hunger - I stop feeling hunger after the first couple of mouthfuls but would need to eat much more to feel satisfied....at which point do you stop?
I am never hungry when I want sugar, I always just want sugar, I assume this means I never get to eat sugar?
Finally I am never hungry when I have a glass of wine - does this mean no wine either?

Queen that's fine :0 really! I'm in no great rush; I've been single for years now, so a few more days/weeks or even months doesn't matter. Yes to the slim memory. I was listening to the HGB cd and it was the visualising your front door bit that did it. I saw me walking out of the house into the porch and I saw a slim me carrying a little Ds.

Silver hi :) I will attempt to answer your questions.

Cook as normal for the family and include yourself in the amount you cook if that is what you want to eat. If you aren't properly hungry when your family sit to eat, then sit with them and have a drink of say water or tea/coffee.
When eating ~ eat slowly, chewing many times, considering and exploring the food in your mouth ~ sounds weird, but when I do this, I treat the mouthful differently somehow and enjoy it more. Eat until you feel satisfied, but not full, but learn what your full signal is...it could be a sigh for instance which is what my signal is. If you aren't sure what it is, you can always stop eating for a while (10~15 minutes) and see if you are still needing to eat.
With regard to the sugar thing, could you try chewing gum? or having a cup of luxurious hot chocolate? or sucking a boiled sweet? I know it's not the same as chomping on a jam doughnut or a Mars Bar, but it may be worth considering.
As for wine...Paul McKenna says we should try not to drink alcohol at least for a couple of weeks if I remember properly, but if you want to drink it, then do. Whilst we don't talk calories on this thread, you should consider that there is no nutritional value to wine, but it's still loaded with calories. After a while on this way of eating, you should start to want good foods; fruit, veg etc.
I hope that's helped and that you'll join us Silver :)

Silver Welcome
I would say that I find it best to stop eating somewhere between a few mouthfuls and satisfied (not full) If you were to stop after those few mouthfuls when you lose the true hunger then you could always go back later and eat some more if the hunger returns.

I don't always eat with my family if I am not hungry but I tend to prepare dinner when I am hungry. If I want a cake then I have a cake but sometimes I only need a good mouthful to feel satisfied. Sometimes I will have lunch and stop after I am satisfied and then have cake but only a mouthful. Not sure if that made any sense.

I posted the other day then came back on today to find it hadn't posted! Sorry if you thought I'd gone AWOL.

I don't think I'm following the rules as strictly as I was for the first two weeks but I'm still trying. I am definitely eating less than before and eating more slowly (as my hubby says I'm now having a mum portion rather than a dad portion!)

I am happy that this is for life though and don't plan to ever go on a diet again. It might take longer this way but so be it!

Bub your doing brilliantly. It's a learning curve but when you realise that diets have made you lose touch with your own hunger signals and food choices, it's quite an eye opener isn't it

Thank you Milllli and Solo for answering my questions, I've always wondered how it was managed practically but it's what I feared though, eating as a family is very important to us - more important than losing weight....it's central to our home life. I just couldn't not eat dinner and then eat a chocolate bar instead - I'd have to hide my eating from the dcs....hiding my eating wouldn't feel normal and the dcs wouldn't understand why I was having Choc for dinner while they were eating proper food. I don't think I could hand on heart eat whatever I felt like.

I think I'm going to eat slower, chew properly, eat till satisfied.

Thank again.

But eating slower and stopping when satisfied is what we do. I don't have a chocolate bar instead of dinner. Why would I do that. As I said I tend to prepare dinner from scratch when I am hungry which is generally around meal times, especially if I havnt eaten in between meals. Eating as a family is important but so is teaching children that they do not have to eat if they are not hungry just to please others nor do they have to clear their plates. To eat when not hungry is how I used to abuse my body.

Good Luck Silver

Watching Katie Hopkins My fat story and she lost her weight eating only when she is hungry and eating whatever she wants. Go her.

She lost three quarters of a stone in two weeks eating whatever she wants when she is actually hungry. I have actually enjoyed this.

Thanks Milllli, I'd eat a bar of choc or a pudding rather than dinner if I lived alone and could get away with it!