New Year, New Thread #16 For Paul McKenna's Losers!!! He Can Make Us Thin!!!

[Solo]

Happy New Year Everyone!
Welcome to thread #16 of the Paul McKenna's I Can Make You Thin weight loss system.

The Golden Rules that will aid you on your journey with our like minded friendly support system are:

1. Eat what you WANT
2. Eat when you are HUNGRY
3. Eat CONSCIOUSLY
4. STOP eating when you are satisfied

HELPFUL TIPS!
Lots of chewing; at least 20 chews per mouthful.
Ask yourself "am I really hungry?" have a glass of water to see if it's real hunger or just thirst; wait 15 or 20 minutes if you can, before eating something to see if it's 'gone off' after a drink. Listen for your 'full signal' and leave at least a mouthful on your plate at every meal. Eat your favourite thing from your plate first so that if you get to the full signal, but have your favourite food still sitting there, you aren't going to 'make room' for it because you love it, it will have already gone.
Admire something about yourself every day in the mirror.
Try to move more; dance around the living room or walk to school...use the stairs...small things, but good things! :)

This weight loss system is about re-educating your body; learning to listen to it and in doing so losing weight and inches. After all, eating a meal is not a competition, it's about enjoying what you are putting into your mouth and body, but not feeling bloated and uncomfortable (or guilty) afterwards!
Many people have issues around food. Many of us have been brought up by the 'clear your plate' parents of yesteryear which leave us feeling guilty if we leave even the smallest morsel of food, but we are working through this guilt or any other hang up we may have, and we are learning to leave a bit on the plate; return to it another time if we really want to or even feed it to the dog or the bin!
So!! forget diets; they may work for a while, but they aren't permanent solutions. This is a new way of living for your brand new life!! Let's get lighter for those summer outfits!!

The Paul McKenna system really works and is easy to maintain; we just need to change how we treat food and ourselves.

I've C&P'd our previous threads links as they are helpful.

Here are the book choices on AMAZON which is all you need to get started! they aren't compulsory, but they do help! it's something to refer to and listening to the cd's can really focus you.

This is the tapping technique EXPLAINED - this can be useful to combat cravings.

You don't have to buy the book and CD, but we have found that they do help and somehow they keep you on track, so it would probably be a good investment and will cost you far less than a couple of trips to WW or SW meetings, so do consider having them in your life.

Please feel free to join us, whether it's 10lbs or 10 stones you want to lose; it's very doable.
We are friendly, supportive and successful, but we're not hungry and that is a great way to feel when you are dropping dress sizes at the same time!!! so come on in and start living your new life today and make 2015 your year to drop a dress size or several...if we can get those lbs off a few at a time, just think how we could look and feel for the sunny summer time!!!
Some of our thread members are also doing PMK's Hypnotic Gastric Band and although this thread is not about this avenue, we will still be supportive of our friends partaking of this, so don't think we won't be there for you. I'm pretty sure that the Golden Rules will be just as helpful in this process as the I Can Make You Thin process so get stuck in

Here is a link to Freedom From Emotional Eating which may give some insight into why we do this and help us beat it.

Ps. Could we all try to sign in at least every few days so that someone is 'there?' We have established that it's no fun talking to ourselves and also that if there is a new joiner, it's good to say 'hello and welcome' to them too.

Ok! Let's Focus and See Ourselves wearing that body we desire! learning to love ourselves is an important daily step, so let's become LOSERS in order to be WINNERS!!! 1lb at a time....

Blimey!! It's Wednesday already!!! .

Thank you all; yes, I'm sure that eating is all kinds of comfort, but stepping on the scales doesn't make any of us happy when we are out of control around food. I am not in control atm. I must change this and stop comforting myself with food.

How are you all? bub that's a fab loss there! mrs are you doing ok after your 2lb loss?

Really sorry, I'm a bit all over the place right now and it may look like I'm ignoring/missing individual people out, but it's not intentional.
I am going to attempt to do better all round!

Hungry now, going to have a sandwich :)

A book I read many many years ago was very interesting as to why we gain weight and find we cannot lose it. Sometimes its not the weight that needs to go but the mental attitude that is causing us to stay overweight.
Here is part of what I read..........

From the day we are born, and we move through life, we develop certain behaviors and attitudes to help us get what we want. We all develop certain behavioral and thinking patterns in life as a method of responding, reacting, or just plain getting through specific situations. This process goes on our entire lives, not just in childhood. However often childhood coping methods can carry over into adulthood, often with complete unawareness by the person.

Here is a small list of some of the reasons that people carry around extra weight:

• To keep a partner
• To avoid a partner
• To get attention
• To deflect attention
• To avoid certain activities
• To ensure certain activities

In her book, You Can Heal Your Life, Louise Hay says that the probable causes of excess weight are: Fear; need for protection; Running away from feelings; Insecurity, self-rejection, Seeking fulfillment, and others She goes on to say, “Fat is related to Oversensitivity. Often represents fear and shows a need for protection. Fear may be a cover for hidden anger and a resistance to forgive.”

According to Louise, fat in the arms can mean “anger at being denied love.” Fat on the belly can mean “anger at being denied nourishment” and fat on the hips can be “lumps of stubborn anger at the parents”. Even fat on the thighs can be “packed childhood anger, often rage at the father”.

The next time you find yourself angry or frustrated, spend some time thinking it through and seeing what it is you are really afraid of. It might be of not getting what you want, of being used, of being ripped-off etc.

Everyone is different, and this is a really personal part of the process. There are no right and wrong answers here! This is really getting to know yourself on a level much deeper than you have probably ventured before.

These are some of the top fears I discovered in my own self –examination process:

Fear # 1: Being Abandoned. By staying fat, which I believed was preventing me from getting into a relationship, I was then protecting myself from potentially being abandoned one day.

Fear # 2: Not Being Good Enough. By staying fat, which I believed prevented me from getting a better job, I was protecting myself from not getting the job because I just wasn’t good enough.

Fear # 3: Not Being Likeable. By staying fat, which I believed was the reason people at social events didn’t talk to me, I was protecting myself from the possibility that I just plain and simply wasn’t likeable.

You are afraid of something, even if you don’t think you are. You are human, that means you have fear, probably for more than one thing. Awareness and realization usually come along in small increments. Each day you may learn something new about yourself and how you cope with the world. And as this new knowledge begins to pile up, you will find yourself (your autopilot) naturally making changes in how you think, react and behave.

The weight you lose will be more than body fat. You’ll feel lighter emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

By Louise Hay.

Hmmmmmm...

Hmmmmmm...?

I'm still ill here and am finding I'm not eating until stuffed and eating slowly but am eating little snacks here and there when I'm not hungry...

Hopefully I'm not doing too much damage and hoping to get back fully in to it when I'm feeling fine!

I'm finding it hard to get into the mode to be honest, same old need to get focused. Finding that I feel guilty if I don't leave a bit of my meal or whatever I am eating, find it hard to have the willpower to do this for some reason. Also feel that in focusing more on food I am overthinking it all and doing less well as a result. Need to just stay in reasonable control until I am properly in the mode, but feel that at the moment I am seeing it as another diet when I'm not and I am rebelling accordingly, sorry for the waffle.

Octopusdon't spend so much time trying to leave food on your plate as a rule. I don't. I just stop eating when I am happy I can stop without feeling hungry. You can always go back to it later. It doesn't need to be so hard, honest.

Hmmmmm Maybe! possibly...

I agree with Millli Octopus :) stay with us and it will come. I'm having a tough time getting into it too atm. But it will come!!

What your trying to learn is your hunger signals. Can you remember a time when you were in a place where you lost your appetite? When you just didn't want to eat. Although you weren't interested in eating there probably did come a time when you just had to eat. Your body would have made you eat even if it was just a couple of bites and then you stopped because your hunger was sated.

lol Solo......very Woo it was.

Who Millli?

I know my hunger signals; that's not my problem sadly.
I just need to stop comfort eating and wanting/craving certain textures of food.

Sorry, meant for Octopus .

Thanks Milli, unfortunately the only time I lose my appetite is when I am really ill or under very extreme stress (I am normally a comfort eater). I am hanging on in here though, not giving up and really appreciating the food I do eat. Unfortunately 2 pounds up which is a bummer, nevermind.

Hi Octopus. So when you have stopped eating under extreme stress, do you remember how you only ate when truly hungry at that point? I had the worse time Christmas eve when one of my immediate family was rushed to hospital with a serious life threatening condition. I couldn't eat. No appetite, yet when my body seriously needed food I had to have a few mouthfuls of something. My body made it non negotiable.
Now I know that is no way to live, with that level of stress but to me it shows the difference between eating for hunger and eating for other reasons. Last year was stressful and so many things occurred that really threw me and made me question everything in many ways and was hard and there were times that I stopped eating then too, but there were times when I probably ate a little for comfort. I try and remember that feeling of real hunger when I struggle to know if and when I am truly hungry. After the events at Christmas and most of January I also gave myself a talking too and made a conscious decision that I don't want to have another year where I am still a stone over where I have now decided I want to be. I know that this is only my experience and we are all different of course but it is something I am determined to see through and succeed. I am the only one that can make it happen but I have to do it to make it so.

Yes you are right about me being the only one that can make things happen. I know how hunger feels in terms of stomach rumbling so maybe I can use that as my barometer. I haven't given up, just know that this is going to take time. On a positive note, I am doing well on the exercise front with my steps and feeling more positive and energetic as a result 22,953 today

You are doing brilliantly. Just because a couple of pounds have gone on, doesn't mean that next week they will still be there. Could be hormonal or water retention from eating salty food.

Truly dreadful week here. My bras hurt like hell and I just know that I won't fit into anything I already have for the big family reunion coming up. I have had a bit of an emotional few hours and even had a cry for no particular reason. I do think I'm a bit depressed tbh and I'm not sure what I can do about that.
I think I'm going to detox for a couple of weeks and also listen to the cd's and follow PMK.

I'm possibly/probably meeting a new man for the first time next week (eeek!) and I should be far from depressed (he makes me laugh and smile), but I am.

I don't want to be fat anymore.

I have had a truly dreadful last month Solo as you will read above. I am going to lose this stone and then see where I am after that. When is your reunion?

Sorry yours is crap too Millli :( I think I've probably gone up another half stone, so back to about the worst I've been.
Reunion in 2 weeks.

You know, I read your post above Millli and went to answer it, but it went out of my head sorry :(. I'm almost 51 and can't remember my name half the time (slight joke, but only slight).
Hope your family member is ok now?

Are you a night owl too

Hope you are feeling better today Milli, it might be worth having a word with your GP if you feel depressed. Is there any way that you can get yourself something to wear for the family reunion that you will feel better in, for what isn't worth I think you are doing really well. I am also prone to depression (on citolopram at the moment, which unfortunately think may have made my weight go up a bit) and one thing I personally find helps is walking lots, take care x

I'm not depressed Octopus. Just had a stressful time.

I used to be a night owl Millli but now, I just get caught up on the internet and don't get enough sleep because of it. Silly and I must stop it.

I think Octopus may have meant me re depression etc. I won't take anti depressants. If I got so bad then I would and I have been there before, so know how far to let it go before seeking help:)
Not going to buy another outfit. I hate shopping for a specific item for a specific do; I find it stressful. I will fit into my planned dress! there!! I've said it :)

I have done two things today. I stepped on the scales and that was actually good news. I am 5lbs down. I have no idea how tbh, but I am relieved. It makes me back to where I was 2 weeks ago.
I also listened to the HGB cd. Dd was under strict instructions to leave me alone, but she interrupted me about 10 minutes from the end .

I will get there. You will get there. WE WILL GET THERE! :)

Solo good that the scales showed that you are 5lbs down. Get some spanx and wear that outfit.

Sooooooo......tell me about the new possibly man please. More details ?