Paul McKenna's 'I Can Make You Thin' Thread #15...The New Beginning!

[Solo]

Welcome to thread #15 of the Paul McKenna's I Can Make You Thin weight loss system.

The Golden Rules that will aid you on your journey with our like minded friendly support system are:

1. Eat what you WANT
2. Eat when you are HUNGRY
3. Eat CONSCIOUSLY
4. STOP eating when you are satisfied and full

HELPFUL TIPS!
Lots of chewing; at least 20 chews per mouthful.

Ask yourself "am I really hungry?" Listen for your 'full signal' and leave at least a mouthful on your plate at every meal. Eat your favourite thing from your plate first so that if you get to the full signal, but have your favourite food still sitting there, you aren't going to 'make room' for it because you love it, it will have already gone.

Admire something about yourself every day in the mirror.
Try to move more; dance around the living room or walk to school...use the stairs...small things, but good things!

This weight loss system is about re-educating your body; learning to listen to it and in doing so losing weight and inches. After all, eating a meal is not a competition, it's about enjoying what you are putting into your mouth and body, but not feeling bloated and uncomfortable (or guilty) afterwards!
Many people have issues around food. Many of us have been brought up by the 'clear your plate' parents of yesteryear which leave us feeling guilty if we leave even the smallest morsel of food, but we are working through this guilt or any other hang up we may have, and we are learning to leave a bit on the plate; return to it another time if we really want to or even feed it to the dog or the bin!
So!! forget diets; they may work for a while, but they aren't permanent solutions. This is a new way of living for your brand new life!! Let's get lighter for those summer outfits!!

The Paul McKenna system really works and is easy to maintain.

I've C&P'd our previous threads links as they are helpful.

Here are the book choices on AMAZON which is all you need to get started! they aren't compulsory, but they do help! it's something to refer to and listening to the cd's can really focus you.

This is the tapping technique EXPLAINED - this can be useful to combat cravings.

You don't have to buy the book and CD, but we have found that they do help and somehow they keep you on track, so it would probably be a good investment and will cost you far less than a couple of trips to WW or SW meetings, so do consider having them in your life.

Please feel free to join us, whether it's 10lbs or 10 stones you want to lose.
We are friendly, supportive and successful, but we're not hungry and that is a great way to feel when you are dropping dress sizes at the same time!!! so come on in and start living your new life today and make 2014 your year to drop a dress size or several...if we can get those lbs off a few at a time, just think how we could look and feel for the sunny summer time!!!
Some of our thread members are also doing PMK's Virtual Gastric Band and although this thread is not about this avenue, we will still be supportive of our friends partaking of this, so don't think we won't be there for you. I'm pretty sure that the Golden Rules will be just as helpful in this process as the I Can Make You Thin process so get stuck in

Here is a link to From Emotional Eating which may give some insight into why we do this and help us beat it.

Ps. Could we all try to sign in at least every few days so that someone is there? We have established that it's no fun talking to ourselves and also that if there is a new joiner, it's good to say 'hello and welcome' to them too.

Ok! Let's Focus and See Ourselves wearing that body we desire! learning to love ourselves is an important daily step, so let's become LOSERS in order to be WINNERS!!! :)

Well done Solo!

I think my clothes are a teeny tiny bit looser. I haven't been following the WOE properly at all, but I have been trying to eat less and stop when full, with a very small amount of success. I definitely haven't lost actual weight according to the scales, but I can vaguely see I have something approaching a waist now, sort of.

Baby steps.

Well done you!! PM :) as you say; baby steps!

Im doing ok. Had a wobbly on the weekend where my mind thought "diet" "starve" but then common sense prevailed. Although I don't do it I still get the pull sometimes when Im feeling particularly down on myself.

On a more foodie note, bought some of the bakery Morrisons mince pies and bakery Stollen today. The Stollen was just cooling after coming out of the oven and then the baker man wrapped it for me. Well two actually. Mmmmmmm!!!!! haha.

Mmmmmmmmmm...Stollen!!

How are you all? I'm guessing you are all preparing for Christmas?

I'm doing ok with regards PMK I think, but there's a;ways room for improvement!

Well as I mentioned in my last post, I didn't do too well last weekend. sometimes its hard not too be down on myself. Felt sorry for myself that no one responded though .

Don't take it personally though Millli :) sometimes I lose my train of thought about what I've read and about what I want to write; that's the nature of my illness though, so I usually accept it for myself, but forget that most people don't remember I am ill as I don't mention it often. Trouble is, it really affects my thought process and sometimes, it can take a long time to type a message out. Sometimes, my brain misdirects my fingers and I end up deleting letters/whole words because I just can't hit the right keys. I'm even doing that now :( but it can make me not want to actually type anything much.

I hope you are doing better now? :)

To be honest Solo you seem to write so much more on your other threads and interact more. Not stalking.......lost thread and put your name in search bar. Sorry you have trouble posting because of your ME. I have my own difficulties too even though they are not something I talk about. Im going to leave the thread now because its not working for me. It is only the internet after all and its not good if I am taking it too personally is it. Good Luck everyone.

Millli I have been here through thick and thin over many threads and sometimes I want to deal with other areas of my life. I won't apologise for that and I won't apologise for being unwell and for mentioning it on occasion, but I don't think I harp on about it particularly.

Sometimes on here, I really don't know what to say next, but I try to encourage everyone as I go along, as does everyone else; that's what we do on here and we do it well I think... I may sometimes miss posts or if my brain is foggy, I may just not be able to answer as everything takes energy.

You Millli, seem to be one of the most 'sorted' on here, so I'm not sure what the problem is really.

Anyway, I can't force anyone to stay, but you know you are always welcome on the thread. Everyone is :)

Milli, I'm sorry you felt bad that no-one responded. I only check in occasionally myself, because I don't do at all well!

Your post about having a wobble at the weekend didn't come across as you needing a boost, sorry. It honestly looks like you had a slight wobble but dealt with it/got over it and that you were quite pleased (rightly so) that you'd not let it get to you. And then your paragraph about stollen was pretty cheerful, so I guess anyone who read it assumed you were ok. I'm sorry I didn't see it as the request for encouragement it obviously was. That sounds really sarcastic - I promise it isn't, I genuinely mean what I say!

When you say "diet" "starve", do you mean you feel like not eating anything, or like bingeing? I personally feel like the latter - not eating anything is unthinkable to me, unfortunately!

Hello PM :) nice to see you again. I am not doing great either last night but I want to do better and I will

So, I now don't know whether to begin a new thread when this one gets to the end or just not bother? I think I'd like to keep them going as I do know from experience that ICMYT works and it's nice for everyone to have 'somewhere' to go and write thoughts down etc.
Perhaps you will all give me your ideas?

Right, I'm off to continue my other bits of life. I'm hoping that if I can sort out my home, I will continue to feel better and the weight will start to fall again. I think I have had low level and unrecognisable (to me) depression since the end of 2008 when my life changed so drastically and negatively, but having had severe depression before, I really didn't notice it.

Over the last couple of months, I've felt a little better and I think it's joined to the other parts of my life that I'm starting to deal with. Feel free to stalk me have a look at my other threads if you want to know more or PM me :). I think weight gain is very often linked to other things we deal with in our lives.

Have a good day. Eat what you want to eat, but only when you are really hungry, chew well and stop when you are satisfied :)

Solo You are absolutely right, weight gain is so often linked to other things in our lives, whether they be negative or positive.

I'm sorry you've been suffering with depression so long - it still has an effect, even if it is low-level, as you've described. It's a positive thing that you've recognised it for what it is though, and I'm glad you're starting to feel a little better.

Do you think it would help if you stopped worrying about weight for a while, and just concentrated on sorting out other things? Then you could come back to the whole WOE when you've got one or two things back on track and you're feeling more positive and able to get into it?

Having said that, I would love for the threads to continue; despite my lack of progress, they are very encouraging and it's a sort of comfort knowing that they are here, if that makes sense. However, don't feel obliged to - only do so if you have the time, energy and inclination!

I am going to combine ICMYT with MFP, as I definitely need some sort of guidelines at the moment. So I'll 'Eat what I want to eat, but only when I are really hungry, chew well and stop when I am satisfied', and then plug it into my MFP.

DS asked me the other evening if I was having another baby, because my stomach looked like there was a baby in it Think that's a big hint I need to get my (large) arse in gear! I worked out this morning that I actually have enough extra weight for 12 babies (average 7lbs)! 12!!! Oh, the shame...

PM :) thank you. I will keep the threads going, because I feel the same way. I find it comforting too.
I am dealing with other issues that are I think, making the comfort eating win over my common sense about food stuffs and the completely ridiculous comfort eating I do at times. I do wish I'd realised that my depressed state was there and that it didn't have to be as severe as it was in the past to still be there. But, it has started to lift, and I think it is connected to the hoarding I began back in 2008 (in the style it became!) and sorting it out has brought a better frame of mind. It's all mental health and I think a lot of weight gain is connected to mental health, so...:) let's all get better!!

I will start a new thread when we get to around the 950 mark.

Let's try to keep posting.

And...dare I say. Lets get those 'babies' out! I have 3 or 4 to go...! and we'll do it together. :)

Hi Solo. How was your weekend?

What you have said about ridiculous comfort eating resonates so much with me. That is seriously what has gotten me in the mess I'm in - I eat constantly for comfort and because I'm bored. And I suffered with depression for a long time also, and I am finding it nearly impossible to break the habits I got into then, despite being fortunate enough to have mostly beaten it.

It's great that you are feeling in a better place, I guess as both a cause and a result of you sorting out your hoarding situation. Onwards and upwards, when & where possible.

Yes, lets get better mentally and physically and get rid of those 'babies'!

Very busy weekend PM what about you? :)

Me too PM :( I don't drink alcohol more than a couple of times a year, don't smoke and I don't go out much, so food is my go to when anything good/bad happens. However, I am really going to kick it to the kerb as it doesn't make me feel good for long and it has nasty consequences attached to it and my hips etc so it's got to stop.

We can and we will do it :) I'm convinced that we will! :)

Good day so far!!!

Hi Solo. It's been a busy few days for me, sorry I haven't been on this thread.

Well done on your good day yesterday!

I wasn't quite as good, although I did choose melon & grapes instead of a cakey afternoon treat yesterday. And I left some of my dinner...

Thank you and well done on your good choices PM :)
I was a bit annoyed at myself this evening for eating something that I didn't even really taste as I ate it far too quickly. Not going to do that again.

Isn't it weird how we do that? We turn to eating for comfort/pleasure etc, but we don't always actually let ourselves enjoy it, which would bring a lot more pleasure!

Again, another reason why eating the ICMYT way is better - you have to concentrate on the food so that you do enjoy it.

I hope the rest of your weekend went well (in general I mean, not specifically food-wise).

I know! crackers!!!

Yes, a reasonable weekend thank you :) yourself?

I have been analysing things again for myself and I think that I am having trouble visualising myself slim again and I know you are supposed to be able to do that. I should be able to as I was once very slim indeed, but I can't, so need to work on that.

Are you all set for Christmas and NY? I am not! and here I am Mumsnetting! typical!!

Catch up soon :)

Not a bad day today! :)

Well done on yesterday, Solo!

I know exactly what you mean about visualising yourself slim again. Would sticking up an old photo of your slimmer self on the fridge help?

Have you managed to get everything sorted between Monday and now? I'm as ready for the festive season as I'll ever be. To be honest, I'm just looking forward to a whole week off work!

I hope you have a lovely Christmas, enjoy yourself as much as possible and don't worry about weight loss. Savour every mouthful

I doubt a slim pic would help tbh. I just need to sort my head into a positive one again :)

I am as ready as I can be. I am going to Mums tomorrow; she is only 8 miles away and we will be there again on Boxing Day for Dd's birthday. Only problem could be that my clutch has decided to die! and it might not get me there and back twice. Can't stay at Mums as she has the floorboards up for work...not good!

Ooops! posted too soon.

Merry Christmas to all members of this thread, past, present and future