Paul McKenna's 'I Can Make You Thin' Thread #15...The New Beginning!

[Solo]

Welcome to thread #15 of the Paul McKenna's I Can Make You Thin weight loss system.

The Golden Rules that will aid you on your journey with our like minded friendly support system are:

1. Eat what you WANT
2. Eat when you are HUNGRY
3. Eat CONSCIOUSLY
4. STOP eating when you are satisfied and full

HELPFUL TIPS!
Lots of chewing; at least 20 chews per mouthful.

Ask yourself "am I really hungry?" Listen for your 'full signal' and leave at least a mouthful on your plate at every meal. Eat your favourite thing from your plate first so that if you get to the full signal, but have your favourite food still sitting there, you aren't going to 'make room' for it because you love it, it will have already gone.

Admire something about yourself every day in the mirror.
Try to move more; dance around the living room or walk to school...use the stairs...small things, but good things!

This weight loss system is about re-educating your body; learning to listen to it and in doing so losing weight and inches. After all, eating a meal is not a competition, it's about enjoying what you are putting into your mouth and body, but not feeling bloated and uncomfortable (or guilty) afterwards!
Many people have issues around food. Many of us have been brought up by the 'clear your plate' parents of yesteryear which leave us feeling guilty if we leave even the smallest morsel of food, but we are working through this guilt or any other hang up we may have, and we are learning to leave a bit on the plate; return to it another time if we really want to or even feed it to the dog or the bin!
So!! forget diets; they may work for a while, but they aren't permanent solutions. This is a new way of living for your brand new life!! Let's get lighter for those summer outfits!!

The Paul McKenna system really works and is easy to maintain.

I've C&P'd our previous threads links as they are helpful.

Here are the book choices on AMAZON which is all you need to get started! they aren't compulsory, but they do help! it's something to refer to and listening to the cd's can really focus you.

This is the tapping technique EXPLAINED - this can be useful to combat cravings.

You don't have to buy the book and CD, but we have found that they do help and somehow they keep you on track, so it would probably be a good investment and will cost you far less than a couple of trips to WW or SW meetings, so do consider having them in your life.

Please feel free to join us, whether it's 10lbs or 10 stones you want to lose.
We are friendly, supportive and successful, but we're not hungry and that is a great way to feel when you are dropping dress sizes at the same time!!! so come on in and start living your new life today and make 2014 your year to drop a dress size or several...if we can get those lbs off a few at a time, just think how we could look and feel for the sunny summer time!!!
Some of our thread members are also doing PMK's Virtual Gastric Band and although this thread is not about this avenue, we will still be supportive of our friends partaking of this, so don't think we won't be there for you. I'm pretty sure that the Golden Rules will be just as helpful in this process as the I Can Make You Thin process so get stuck in

Here is a link to From Emotional Eating which may give some insight into why we do this and help us beat it.

Ps. Could we all try to sign in at least every few days so that someone is there? We have established that it's no fun talking to ourselves and also that if there is a new joiner, it's good to say 'hello and welcome' to them too.

Ok! Let's Focus and See Ourselves wearing that body we desire! learning to love ourselves is an important daily step, so let's become LOSERS in order to be WINNERS!!! :)

Another good day. Hav'nt eaten much today. Solo I am not weighing myself as getting on the scales usually leads to me feeling bad about myself and I will try and stay off for as long as possible whilst doing this. I will be going by my clothes though. I weight about 13 12 at the moment and am size 16 on the bottom and size 14 on the top. I would like to lose at least half a stone by mid june if not more. We shall see.

Yay! back on the laptop!!

Crap day today. I've been constantly hungry. Tried not to indulge, but
Blood tests were 'satisfactory' which is great! but does not explain why I feel so ill...hate hate hate going to the GP's at the best (worst?) of times, but I may have to go again.

Bindi that is fine about the scales. I am a scales kinda gal, but right now I hate them!

Ok Solo..what do you mean when you say you feel ill. Expand upon that a bit.

Could it be hormones? As in peri or even meno?

And did you do the CD? This wont work if you don't actually do it Lol!!

I upgraded my phone and accidentally deleted my Paul app then kinda gave up...

Solo...BBB you both said you would listen to your CDs Tues or Wed. Did you do it?

Hi everyone I'd like to join you all if that's ok. I've had ICMYT book/cd for yonks (refound recently, currently lost again). I've wanted to lose 2 or 3 stone since dc2 was born - 4 years ago - I'm about 11 stone. I tried low carbing, which worked and was great but found it unsustainable as I eat very little meat and couldn't face another omelet.
Anyway, I do feel it should be somehow easier to maintain an ok weight without all the faffing about with allowed/not allowed foodstuffs.

So I will do the 20 x chewing, leave a bit on the plate, and energetically look for the book so I can play the cd to myself.

Hello,
Was on the thread for a few months but fell away and into bad habits again in a big way, would like to rejoin the fold! Think I've been hoping it would keep working without doing any havening or listening to the CDs - but obviously it won't! Weighed myself this morning and am a horrendous 14.5 stone. Don't think I'll do weekly weigh ins as I think that is too "diety" for Paul - some weeks it may be fast, some slow, it shouldn't matter.
Will get lo off for his nap and then hopefully ignore the housework and so the trance.. Hope you all have good mornings

Hi Doctrine Welcome back. What made you give up (other than losing app?)

Welcome Lord. Going lower with carbs 150g to 100g is good for lots of ailments as you can still eat a variety of food but going low as in bootcamp is unsustainable for life isn't it. And all that butter, cream and excesses of cheese and coconut oil......mmmmm!. Although I eat butter, cream and coconut oil I just wouldn't be happy eating them in excess as they would play havoc with my tummy. The thing I love about this way of eating ( which I have been doing for over 10 years now) is that if I want something and im genuinely hungry for it, then I eat it and stop as soon as I am satisfied. For me that usually means a couple of spoons and then I reassess where my hunger is.

Igggi...hello and welcome back. This woe will work without the havening and CDs if you are really really good and just live by the 4 golden rules each time you eat (like a naturally slim person would) buf for most of us we need the extra help. I myself love the Gastric Band CD as it really seems to help me get the "satisfied" feeling quicker. I now also listen to the Emotional Eating CD to address why I eat for reasons other than natural hunger.

Some of us are weighing in as we have set ourselves some big goals and mini goals as we have big events coming up that we would like to lose some fat for. So that is why our lovely Solo has called this thread the new beginnings thread.

Anyway, please stay with us. TooBig has lost 13lbs in a month on this and she is my current inspiration....take a bow TooBig. Most of us manage to maintain in between losing weight, I myself do that but we are all determined to not go back to diets because they don't work and you only end up back in the same place or worse months later.

Look forward to chatting to you all . I tend to be on this thread most days and am always here for support

Thank you Bindi, have listened to cd and ate lunch with the listen while you eat one. Also worked out how to download the trances onto my new phone, which should help! Feel more positive already

Hi all.

Welcome back igggi and doc, you sound motivated!

I've ordered FFEE. I've been putting it off but I am struggling to remember to do the havening and find myself EE. I know I have issues with food due to my mother's attitude in my childhood so I hope it will help.

Go Igggi.....

I find it good to listen to the cd every day for the first week or so as it has a cumulative effect the more you listen to it.

Hello all,welcome returns and new posters.

I got the emotional eating at last. They didn't leave it yesterday when they tried to deliver but apparently today it was OK to do so.

Will report back when I have read some of it.

Glad to hear about the blood tests were normal Solo but it must be a pain in the proverbial, not knowing what is wrong.

Hello everyone. I've 'visited' PK before. The first time I did ICMYT years ago I lost half a stone very easily. Then I had another baby, moved house and never really got back to it. I then 'installed' the gastric band last year but if I'm honest I didn't focus on it. I've been a bit like a firework that's shot off in all directions. Ive flirted with 5:2 and SW but I think the basic PK mindful eating/diets don't work ethos has never really left my subconscious.

Anyway, I've had a very stressful year. Dh and I have been trying to put our marriage back on track after I stumbled across him about to embark on affair. My self esteem has taken a huge battering - I believe my weight is a lot of where my unhappiness comes from and it's been a loooong problem for me (not just this last year). Dh wants me to be happy and I do feel happier but the self image/esteem is a real thorn in my side.

I'm 14 stone 10. Size 16. I'm also about to embark on a consultation for a breast reduction (36HH boobs) which is something I've considered all my life.

Wow, this is huge ramble sorry.

Anyway, on Wednesday I started FFEE with PK. I have listened to the trance twice and have watched the Havening DVD just today for the first time. I do feel less hungry all ready and a bit 'different'. My only problem is that I'm finding it hard to recall emotions and times that I wanted to over-eat so that I can use them with the Havening technique. I can remember painful memories but can't be sure they made me eat. When my marriage was rocky I had no appetite. I'm worried my 'feelings' aren't appropriate

Anyway, that's me. I'm going to try not to weigh myself for a good while as I'm terrified of feeling failure if nothing's changed. I'm just going to try and do it and see.

Nice to have a thread here x

Hi Harry....Welcome. It sounds like you have had a real assault on your self esteem with your husband having feelings for another woman. Feelings that threatened not only your relationship with him but your whole view on your world. What you thought real and normal was turned upside down and you probably didn't know who you were anymore. Im so glad that you are both together and working to repair your relationship. You can go on to have an even better one than the one that broke down, different but better.

But on to your weight. Im a size 16 and a few of the others are too. I have also had an issue with my perceived body image all my life. Shame really as I look back and remember being size 8, 10, 12 and 14 but felt fat at all those sizes. (Mother issues). I haven't done the havening but I know some of the other ladies have so hopefully they can help you with that. I do the Gastric Band CD and the Emotional Eating CD and have also started doing the Confidence CD. I find them really good and I do lose weight and then maintain (its important to "maintain" to break the lose/ gain cycle). I think the emotional eating for me comes when I feel bad about myself or my weight or my body after weighing myself. I then panic about being "fat" and my mind starts thinking of starving or fasting or low carbing or some other such diet. I don't do it though but the panic and the urge to "diet" still happens until I calm down and realise that the only way Im ever going to eat normally and lose excess fat is if I be mindful of what my body really needs in terms of energy.
So I really hope you stay as posting on here is one of the things that keeps me going with this.

Faith...how you feeling?

Huge thanks Bindi. This sounds like a really supportive place.

I've had issues with food all my life too (mother and father issues!). I always thought I was fat too but was a lovely size 10 at 17 when my dad told me I was getting fat.

I think I have a lot to unravel really.

Hi Harry very nice to meet you. I've only just joined the thread too.

Also doing the PmK Emotional Eating . I've been amazed at the difference in me since doing the Havening on the DVD (yes it does feel a bit silly, but works) and working through the CD.

When you do the Havening, if you struggle to pinpoint the emotion, you don't need to think of why or what the emotions are. All you need to do is think of the sensation you have when you are triggered to eat. It doesn't matter why you do it.

With the exercises on the CD, some of the things that came out for me were not what I expected. I didn't concentrate of specific things, they just popped into my head. I feel more positive now and have not been craving foods like I used to at all.

That's helpful TooBignow thanks. I've not got any further into the CD yet as I've only just started so I'm hoping to pinpoint something maybe. I think I got a bit confused when PK talks about the 'stressful event' that is the underlying route to EE. I guess I was thinking that I should have some big trauma in my past or something. I have lots of little things I can recall but I can't pin point when I started over eating.

I think I mainly over eat when I'm tired, stressed out or trying to procrastinate over work (I work for myself at home so this is easy!)

I'll keep listening. I had a tiny portion of pasta for dinner and left some too. I can't believe that I'm not hungry! I even bought a load of treats for DH as he's hurt his back and I'm not tempted.

I work from home too harry and food is often too available isn't it ha ha.
TooBig I paid homage to you earlier...did you see?

If I'm patchy, it's because I'm still away. solo I know exactly what you mean. It's awful when bloods are 'normal' but you feel rotten!

Honestly Bindi? I feel rubbish. I'm still ill with what the nurse practitioner diagnosed as labyrinthitis. Every time I think I'm better I get another wave of it. I also feel sicky and bloated . I really think I need a sugar detox when I get home.

Hello harry, great to have you on board. It sounds like you've got the hang of it. I'm similar - I started and lost nearly a stone in a month by Pauling and running (trained for a 10k) but got ill and it all went to pot. Had a baby and while the pregnancy wasn't too bad, the breast feeding hunger and sleep deprivation sugar cravings took their toll. I'm currently about 13st 7lb, size 14-16 and I'm 5'4". I feel unhealthy. I'm ready to change!

Harry I don't think you need to think too hard and analyse why you started eating too much. Just go with the flow! I've always had a bad relationship with food, and so do my sisters. They aren't as big as me though. If I manage to get my weight down, I will buy them both a copy of the book!!

I have found that I'm full sooner if I listen to the CD while I eat. Have started to serve myself less food, knowing that I won't eat it all.

Have been food shopping several times in the last few days and didn't buy any naughty foods, and didn't want to.

Bindi, sorry I missed it! I had worked out how to find the end of a thread up in Threads I'm On...and ended up going right to the end!! I'll work out how the forum works in the end.

ahhhh! TooBig we don't have any naughty foods on here. None of that talk (ha ha). PM and Mindful Eating books tell you that all food is just food, not naughty not good, just food. Only when you see all food as equal and you can eat whatever you really want can you totally let go of good and bad foods. I know that when I have honestly let go of good and bad that I tend to actually not bother about cakes and chocolate etc unless of course it is absolutely amazing cake or chocolate. I only put foods in my mouth and eat them if they are the best I have ever had. If not then I don't bother. I am a bit of a foodie and love food and eat loads of veg and salads, cheeses, olives, nuts etc.

Faith, sorry your feeling lousy. Its an inner ear infection isn't it?

I Just got really busy and no time to think! Had a few days off this week and am feeling better.