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Anybody fancy losing a stone and a half by Easter?

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MercuryRising · 27/12/2013 09:30

I have just weighed myself and the results were hideous. I need to start taking some steps to shift some pounds - the first one being moving away from the Christmas chocolates. Does anybody fancy joining me?
It is 16 weeks until Good Friday so losing a stone and a half is very doable. I am a ww monthly pass member but haven't attended meetings regularly or followed the plan properly since the Summer Blush
Please come and motivate me.

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JokersGiggle · 20/03/2014 08:21

I need a rant so feel free to ignore me if you want.
I'm really ill, my temp hasn't come below 39.6° but dh still went out. He hadn't been on shift yesterday, just being lazy in bed and reading up on some sort of trauma case study book. So he says "wow babe you look awful! Just off to the pub with X and Y, won't be.long" . I admit the I was feeling vulnerable and needy so for the first time ever I asked him not to go. He doesn't go out often, maybe once a month, and when I had the MCs I didn't need to ask, he just stayed with me. anyway he said "I know you've got a ranging temp but I've just had enough of sick people, call if you need me" (he left at 5)
Turns out I did need him and his phone was off (I know there is signal where they were). so I was really ill, shaking, starting to hallucinate cos my temp was do high. So when I heard him come in the front door at 3.30am I locked him out of the bedroom, didn't want to be disturbed and was comfortable taking up all the room in the bed (he's 6ft 3 and a space hog when he sleeps). Felt really let down by him. He didn't text or anything to see how I was, just turned his phone off. Turns out that I phoned and left a message at the ambo station looking for him at just past midnight, I don't remember doing it. So dh slept on the sofa and is pissed off but a bit apologetic. Anyway....now he is furious as the guy I left my message with about needing dh and not being able to find him has just called to see how I am and tell dh off! They like me as I often bake for them and chat with then after s hard job.
Dh now feels that his work have sided with me! And that I shouldn't have called them. I'm refusing to apologise as if I was so ill to hallucinate, call someone looking for him, and not remember it it just shows I shouldn't have been alone! He was gone for ages, being out for a couple of hours would have been fine but he was ages with no text or anything.
Still feel crap today with high Reno r but not dip high. Dh has said he's furious with me then stormed out to go on shift. But his mates have stopped off to see how I am and have said others week t be dropping around through out the day to check how I am as I look awful. Being honest I an happy with people popping in, my friends are at work and can't do that. But i'm worried how dh is going to react if someone says anything about it Sad lately he's been very unfeeling and hard and he just can't see where my emotions are coming from.
Should I be apologising to him like he says I should be?

ferrar · 20/03/2014 08:50

Oh dear.

I would be inclined to apologise along the lines of "if I wasnt ill, I dont think I would have done that. Sorry for doing that, but I didnt properly realise what I was doing as I was not thinking at all straight".

I have been married for a long time. There are times imo, when an apology is needed, even though it wasnt totally the other person's fault.

ferrar · 20/03/2014 08:54

fwiw. I know builders who dont want to build when they are home, cooks who dont want to cook at home etc.

Never thought about medical people who dont want to do sick people.

And again, fwiw, and I dont know how old you are, I did find that when nearer the beginning of marriage, the worst let downs were when you felt ill, and the other person was less than sympathetic.
It is get overable, but it sure hurt at the time. And when both persons were in a better frame of mind, I found that it did need to be thrashed out a bit.
Thanks

ferrar · 20/03/2014 08:56

For Joker's sake, Rufus, I wont mention what I ate at my 9pm wobble. Though it was ok, yesterday was a good day for me.

Hello Frantastic0. Are you a poet? and dont know it!

JokersGiggle · 20/03/2014 09:55

He was do caring before being s paramedic. We've been.married for 4 years and he's getting slowly worse but he just can't see it! He thinks he's being reasonable and when I bring it up he just says "you over reacted, stop being silly and we won't have these problems"
He also hates me seeing his work mates, will.leave me out of work Get togethers ect. Last summet he said he was going to the pub but the next day I saw another paramedics wife who asked if I was feeling better and it was a Shame I missed the bbq as everyone was there. Spoke to dh and he said he left me out as Children would be there and he didn't want to upset me after the latest MC.....I work as a nanny! I'm with Children for 40 hours per week! They make me happy. Dh knows being with children makes me happy so it was a rubbish excuse to leave me out. There have been other things too.... Like refusing to let me go to some work mates wedding reception as he just wanted to say a quick hello...he was there for hours Abbe cane back drunk.
why won't he let me near his work mates and their families? When I do see them I fit right in and can see myself being close friends with some of the other wives as we have a lot in Common.
sorry about having another rant Sad

JokersGiggle · 20/03/2014 10:09

MC was 3 months before the bbq

ferrar · 20/03/2014 10:14

Rant away.

Sorry about the miscarriage. That is hard.

Do you think that he is jealous that you get on so well with his work colleagues? Or feels that you get on with them better than he does? or is trying to keep his work life separate from his home life?

JokersGiggle · 20/03/2014 11:04

I honestly don't know. He gets on well with all of them. DVD e he gets on with the family I work for. I think he's doesn't like that if children are around I'll give them attention, not all my attention to him. He says it would be fine if they were our children but I shouldn't spend half an hour holding someone elses baby (so the mother could use both hands to eat!)
The first MC he was supportive, 2nd not so supportive, 3rd and 4th he was completely unsupportive. "out was just a blob of cells" he kept saying. He didn't go out with mates but took no time off work. Its hard cos tests show there are moo reasons why i'm having MCs Sad just bad luck.

He just won't acknowledge there is a problem. He'll listen to me then say "move on" or "hopefully you'll have better luck next time; not "we", he says "you" like he has no part in it!
.....sorry for another rant......

JokersGiggle · 20/03/2014 11:05

DVD = and lol. Auto correct thinks "DVD" fits better in sentences than "and"

ferrar · 20/03/2014 11:12

! at auto correct.

My guess, fwiw, is that the MCs are hurting him a lot more than he is letting on. And he is trying to protect himself again by now saying "a blob of cells". And he is sort of distanceing himself to protect himself from his true feelings. And perhaps he is deep down thinking that it is is fault in some way? And he may feel less like a man?

You are probably right unfortunately about him being a bit jealous of the attention you are giving to someone else's child. Not sure what you can do about that.

Perhaps also, it reminds him of what it could be like with a baby of both of yours?
Perhaps also

ferrar · 20/03/2014 11:13

Ignore the last perhaps also.

JokersGiggle · 20/03/2014 11:53

I do think he's emotionally hard to protect himself. He used to struggle a lot with death on his job ect. Just feel like i'm his wife so he should let me in Sad
He's always been like that when i'm with others children, especially new borns, even before we decided to ttc.
Should I write him a letter to read while i'm at work? I don't know - does talking about it make him sad so he pushes me away? Would having time to read it in private then time to think after, then seeing me later be a gentler way? But if he gets upset I want to be there for him.
Really want to cover our problems and sort them out. Feels like I've kept quiet for so long I can't stay quiet any longer.

ferrar · 20/03/2014 12:57

Do you mean a letter about what happened overnight?

Or a letter about the MCs?

Wouldnt hurt for both perhaps?

JokersGiggle · 20/03/2014 13:16

I think a letter covering it all.
Maybe in a few days I could post it here to get peoples views - I don't want to sound accusatory or like i'm blaming him so would like understanding people to proof read it

RufusTheReindeer · 20/03/2014 14:43

Hey you two!

Sorry you are having a poo time joker

I know men aren't brilliant with MC's and I think posting the letter on here is a good idea

Hope you are feeling a bit better today

ferrar went to southampton today and realised that I have my voucher for a free coffee and cake at john lewis Blush

bluepen · 20/03/2014 20:04

And did you have it Rufus? Am imagining the c words. [am the "f" poster]

RufusTheReindeer · 21/03/2014 08:55

bluepen. Oh yes!!!!! I did leave a quarter of it. Go me!

Went to the pub last night so I'm going to have to stop eating today!!!

bluepen · 21/03/2014 10:30

A little bit of what you fancy does you good.

I had a chinese though my husband bought be the wrong one by mistake so it ended up being less fattening than it would have otherwise done

RufusTheReindeer · 21/03/2014 10:55

Oh no!

I was talking to my friends last night and after 1.5 stone it is noticeable that I've lost weight (after last night and this mornings chocolate! I've probably gained it back) and I was in skinny jeans!!!!!!

And I said that even though I may gain back following holidays etc I think I have found something that works for me.

I threw my slimming world books away a few days ago, I don't need them now...I know what to do

Going to look bloody stupid tomorrow if I've gained aren't i Grin

bluepen · 21/03/2014 11:16

Well done you.
I do think that we somewhat have to find our own path to losing weight and keeping it off.
My DH is also losing weight. But we agree that my way and his are different and we cant really help each other.
The only good thing is that, when shopping, I dont buy as many tempting things. So there are nott so many of them in the house in the first place.

FrantasticO · 21/03/2014 18:46

Made it to Friday!
Weekend whoop!
Having a salad and a vino tonight
Back at it tomorrow!
Managed attack yesterday so not my fave

Rufus skinnys are the way forward...I have some I NEED to get back into...Grrrrr.

Jokers hope your feeling better today, sounds like you've had a time of it.

Blue...agreed a little of what ya fancy is good I struggle with the little

Ferrar hello! I'm not a poet unfortunately! Not even a piss artist!

Anyhoo dutykids call

Good luck everyone

JokersGiggle · 21/03/2014 19:19

Hi everyone
Well done all!
I'm better today Smile getting dh drunk to talk over our problems..... Seems the only way that works with him Hmm

bluepen · 21/03/2014 19:20

o.....k.... Hmm Smile

bluepen · 21/03/2014 19:22

Fran. Strangely, I found that I can do the little.
I have found that it is the taste that I am mostly after.
I would find it personally difficult to live on a bland diet.

RufusTheReindeer · 22/03/2014 10:18

Gutted! I have gained a pound!! Sad

I have let the MFP slip a bit so after today (all you can eat Indian buffet for tea) I will start being really strict again

A pound gain once I am at target isn't bad...but I'm not bloody there yet! And it's now 3 lbs to lose before Easter...it's Easter though isn't it? Not the start of the hols

Still first maintain or gain since I started in January and that's very good for me!

How is everyone else doing

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