Anyone else with alot of weight to lose?

[HenriettaPye]

Today is a big day for me, a turning point! I've always been 'big' however have just been getting bigger and bigger. I want to lose 6 stone- starting from today.

Anyone else in the same boat who would like to swap inspiration and tips? Today I've planned to eat healthily and go for a nice long walk

So exciting to think of all of us in new dresses next year. I am truly inspired by those who have already lost so much. I'm also going to try to address some of the mind issues I have with food by working through the pink CBT book, title escapes me at the moment. It does all feel like an enormous and almost unachievable aim though. How do you get over all the previous failed attempts and convince yourself you will do it this time?

Evening everyone, evening prayer

If you do use scales here's an idea that I'm using. Get a jar, put a marble in for every lb you want to lose. Get an empty jar and at your weekly weigh in, take one marble per lb lost from the full jar and put it in the empty jar. It's a good visualisation of progress

I want a new dress too!!

prayerbook, when you find it, do you think you could post the name of the pink CBT book? I'm intrigued.

Ooh, I like the marble idea one tired mummy. Might do it with dried beans instead of marbles. It would cost a fortune in marbles!

onetiredmummy I do the jar thing but with pennies instead of marbles.

Jealous of you going on a cruise Sirzy, I really want to go on one. If I lose enough weight, I might sneak into your suitcase

it is something I have always wanted to do, my parents have done a few and they look lovely so as I am 30 in January and graduate in June I thought it was the perfect time!

Right, pink book CBT is called "the Beck diet solution Weight Loss Workbook". Another MN recommendation a few years back. I know so much of my weight issue is to do with emotional eating that it seems sensible to do a little self help alongside my practical strategy. It sounds like you may have cracked the mental strategies clarinet.

I have too many emotional issues associated with food also! I feel I am going the opposite direction this time, obsessing about my weight and calorie intake. For example I'm really disappointed with my 2lbs off this week, even though I know that's a healthy loss! And calorie counting, I have to watch myself as also ebf my young baby and can go too low. I know this sounds odd but just wish I could develop a straight forward relationship with food, not skipping from one extreme to the other!!

I know what you mean yellow, I had to stop calorie counting for the same reason it was just getting that bit too obsessive. I have the exercise obsession at just a decent level now making sure I do 30-60 minutes a day but again I go through phases where that gets obsessive.

I guess its down to personality and trying to control that as much as trying to control what you eat and do.

sirzy I feel my exercise obsession creeping in now. Started running and feel bad if I give myself a night off. I think having a baby and toddler helping keeping me grounded as have to keep healthy to bf baby and can only go running when get a chance, otherwise think I'd be out every night. On plus side giving me the focus to lose the weight I suppose!

I'd like some of this exercise obsession you speak of

I have lost 2 of the 6 stone I want to lose over 2 years, with a 10lb gain in there when I fell off the wagon
It looks like I am falling off the wagon again. I'm not sure if it is holidays or watching other members disappear in front of me but I have put 3lb back on in two weeks.
I can't wait till the kds are back at school so I can cycle most days and be more active.
Plus I need to stop being at home where I eat all the fecking time

I think I'll look for that book on Kindle Prayerbook, thanks.

I'm on myfitnesspal but don't know how to add people on it . I'm ZoeC1990 on it but don't really use it much as I'm on slimming world, though I might do properly soon.

One of the reasons I'm interested in the pink book, prayerbook, is that from what I know about CBT, I've been doing CBT-type things this time around. Food and weight have been a big emotional scene for me since childhood, and I've yo-yo dieted since I was 9. I've had two reasonably successful diet 'episodes' - got down to about 10 stone once in my early 20s, and to 11 stone 4 in my late 30s. Mostly, though, I've just lost a few pounds at a time, then given up. The big change this time is how much kinder I am being to myself, especially when I have a food disaster (usually involving cake and/or ice cream) - in the past I beat myself up so much about falling off the wagon and felt so bad that I just had to eat more cake to get over it, and then bang went the weight loss. This time I've managed to convince myself that I can re-start after a bad day or days. And that eating cake doesn't make me a worthless person, which I prove to myself by having planned 'indulgence days' fairly frequently. So I'm intrigued to read the CBT book and see whether some of the strategies I've used are similar to the ones they recommend. Plus as my goal gets nearer, and I get more confident that I'll make it, I'm starting to worry about the rest of my life and whether I'll be able to keep the weight off for good! So anything else they have to suggest would be welcome.

Mia if you have added me on mfp it hasn't come through to me, send it again and I shall add you.

Oh and he is quite scrummy isn't he, I think I shall keep him

People will have to add me on MFP as I've no idea how to do it

I can really identify with what others have said about a terrible relationship with food. I use it as an emotional crutch, a reward, a consolation prize, an act of rebellion, you name it. I genuinely feel aggrieved that I have to work so hard to be slim and so most of the time I think b*er that, I'll be fat instead. Except that thinking is massively flawed as I hate being fat and loads of people have to work hard to be slim.
I think I have a bit of a victim mentality about it all tbh and self sabotage constantly. Plus it feels like an addiction I can't conquer. But if I take this one day at a time and perhaps even one meal at a time, maybe I can finally beat it?

You've just described me prayerbook. We can conquer this :)

Just added you isaac. Good day here today, super long walk pushing ds in his pram and fairly good day for food with the exception of a sneaky latte! Hoping for another good day tomorrow but as I'll have no time to go walking I'll have to start the Gorilla workout so I might be a crumpled heap by this time tomorrow!

That pretty much sums me up as well, prayerbook. This time I'm trying my best to accept that I'm addicted and work with my weird habits around food instead of trying to eradicate them completely and beating myself up for my addiction. I've ordered the pink book from Amazon - thanks for the tip.

Lego, just had a chance to look at the 30-day squat challenge.

Looks insane.

I'm in

Just dropping into say Good luck and You can do it everybody! You all sound like such a supportive bunch. I've lost 5 stones since February 2012 doing first normal calorie counting in MFP (which really educated me on what normal portion sizes should be - what an eye opener!) then 5:2. I still want to lose another stone but with a BMI that's dropped from 36 to 23, I'm in no rush.

The key advice I can share is be patient, be consistent even through the bad times. Not all of you will keep losing 2lbs a week. Weightloss might slow down, you may even gain some weeks. 7 months into my weightloss journey I stalled at 168lbs for 4 bloody months - gaining and losing the same few lbs. But I didn't give up; I just carried on being aware and careful and somehow, come January of this year I started losing again.

Another thing, if you're logging calories, is to give yourself some leeway. My calorie limit was 1800 calories (I never crashed dieted as that isn't sustainable; could never survive on 1200 cals; besides I love my food too much) but I'd undereat that during the working week and overeat that on the more sociable weekends. The important thing that worked for me was balancing my eating out over the whole week.

One more thing (honest!), after a year I no longer have to calorie count because I've finally learned to intuitively eat normal healthy portions. So calorie counting doesn't have to be a life sentence.

Once again, good luck everyone!

Well done bssh!

I have done my half hour on the wii already, now about to have a bowl of porridge. Going to start the squats later!

havent been here for a few days - sounds like everyone is doing great! I weighed myself again this morning and am optimistic for a nice weight loss tomorrow on my 'official' weigh in day. My aim for next week is to get back to the gym/pool and get some exercise added in.

Just nowvI am offto do the weekly shop - fun!

Well done safyre

I have a rest day today, the only one of the week so will be be careful with the cals today.

Have a good day everyone x