Are you using the app ledkr ? Click the friends icon, then add friends at the bottom, then email, then write in the user names.
I've added the new people too.
Am a bit cross with it today though. I do a lot of spinning, and was playing around with other exercises and worked out that it thinks a spinning class (where I quite regularly push myself so hard I almost throw up/get a really tingly head) is the same as cycling at a moderate effort on an exercise bike. I think that's a bit wrong, but think it gets exercise calories all confused. Anyway, rant over.
Steamed butternut squash sounds like the work of the devil himself - did it taste like hot melon? I find it's better to roast it with chili flakes which balances out the sweetness. In fact I eat so much chili/spice when we're dieting as I try to substitute volume with flavour.
Healthy Recipes on BBC Good Food is a good place to start for inspiration. We like things like:
Chapati Wraps
Prawn Pilau
Couscous salad
And if I want comfort food
Soup with fish finger croutons
There's loads on the site and you can filter by calorie content/main ingredient/course etc. It helped me lose three stone a few years back.