Motivational Monday! Lets keep positive and get those lbs off!

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Its tomorrow.

Lets make the most of it!

Positive thinking only ladies!

Whatever weight/height/BMI newbies always welcome!

Hi everyone! Hair , thanks for remembering. I am back on it, so far so good today but I have a lot of overeating to counter! Thought I'd posted this morning but it mustn't have submitted.
Will catch up properly later, but oblomov I'm so sorry, that sounds awful and no wonder you're struggling with motivation. What is wrong with some people? As sloth said, you're among friends here.
I'm actually looking forward to restarting shred. I can't believe that . I have a feeling this afternoon will lead to tired, motivationless snacking so I'd appreciate a kick at about 2pm. Thanks :o

Well, it's a maintain again, which is good, I suppose.

Would've liked to have hit half a stone gone though, although if I can do it before holiday next week I'll be happy.

Hi all, I got DH to weigh in on the wii (and do some exercises), depressingly, he has a BMI of 26 (mine is 35), and he weighs less than me despite being 8.5 inches taller.
Given that he has a desk job which he drives to, he eats cake, chocolate or biscuits most days, he drinks about twice the alcohol I do, and his portion sizes are almost twice mine, AIBU to be a little annoyed at him only being a little overweight when I am firmly obese?
How can he "get away with" all those extra calories when I can't? (although he carries his weight on his tummy, mine seems to be largely in my enormous bosoms and thunder thighs).
Sorry, I'm ranting a bit now, just.

Thanks guys. I thought I would tell you lot, because it all comes down to being FAT.

I knew nothing about this. She eventually phoned to say that her ds1 didn't want to be friends with my ds1 anymore. my ds (who is weak as a robbin) had bullied her ds all week, on cub camp, he had ruined it for all the boys. She went on and on and on about all the terrible things he had done and how all his classmates felt the same way. I was sobbing and apologising.

I, in shock, questioned ( shouted at ds1 like i have never shouted at him before, and even shoock him by the shoulders, to my shame) , and once gettign more of the story, phoned her back.

Her son, (who was incidentally, was infact fat and got teased, by a few boys, not mine, in reception, which I and all the other parents, told her was totally unacceptable) fell out with ds1, on the second day, when on the first night, my ds had jumped on them all, in his sleeping bag, and ended up hurting her ds. Hardly crime of the century. But her ds did infact end up with a big bruise.
The next day , her ds teased my ds and eventually said :
'well your dad's fat'.
Ds asked him to apologise, but he refused.

When I mentioned the your dad is fat comment, her son denied saying it.
Then she said " besides, he's only saying what he's seeing "

You guys did see my photo, right? So you know that my dh is big.
Dh said " she thinks its o.k. for her son to call me fat. I don't".

This is no an easy situation, as I'm sure you will appreciate.
Dh is most upset and will not budge on this touchy subject.
I have lost my closest friends- we have been friends for 4 years, since reception, we live in the next street and regualrly pick up eachothers children if we get caught up, have to have smears etc.
Ds1 has been best friends with her ds for 2 years and is now not.
Ds2 is very good freinds with her ds2.
Now dh says that her ds2 can not come to our ds2 birthday party at end Oct, because he "can not have her there".

Not good.
Am daibetically hypo, and crying, as I type, forgive me. And am drinkign lucozade and have already eaten another 2 jacobs clubs,
sorry Poopoo.
what a mess. Have sobbed about this many times, this summer.

oblo how awful, I'm not suprised you're so upset. I really don't know what the answer to this is. I think it's bad that her DS called your DH fat, but, so long as it's dealt with appropriately by the parents I guess kids will say things they shouldn't unless they are taught not to. It's the mother I'm at for thinking that was acceptable and not making him apologise. Do you think she's just really upset about the whole thing too and in a few weeks you'll be able to have a convo about it and sort things out? I'm sure she misses you, and, if this really is the end of the friendship maybe you're better off without her if she thinks that's acceptable and appropriate to lose a great friend over . I'd definitely try to talk to her about it when things have cooled down though.

inmy my DH is exactly the same - lovely and slim and eats so much rubbish

Just about to get ready for the gym - only time this week I'll probably get to go

Oh Oblomov What a horrible situation. How old are the DC's?

It sounds like your DH is maybe being a little over sensitive? Do you think you could get past this with your friend if he agreed to get over it? I'm sure the DC's will make up before you know it and it's not fair for your DH to dictate this?

Big un-mumsnett-y hugs can I have a club?

Thanks.
Kato, you raise an issue maybe we all could discuss.
If any kid is being 'teased' for being fat/ginger/glasses etc ( and I am allowed to say all of thos because they all apply to dh/ds2/ and glasses to ds1 and me !!)
but realistically any parent in their right mind should correct a child and tell them that 'teasing' is not o.k.

Which leads me onto: when I told my friend at work, she said that she suspected that my dh might have quite a hard time coming to terms with this - her friend, who is very very big, her dd had said she didn't want her mum to get the accounts job at her school, because then she might get teased. It was the first time that it had dawnwd on mum that she was actually big, her dd might atcually be embarrassed, and might get teased.
Which I guess is quite a nasty realisation.
Now, because I am a bit overweight, but have never been THAT big, that had not really dawned on me. But now I come to thnk of it, it is quite a hard thing to come to terms with, no?

I am not resaly surprised that my dh is having a bit of a hard time coming to terms with this. what do you think?

No that's a great point, I didn't mean to sounds trite by saying 'get over it' and of course she should press her child to apologise for making comments on any one young or old!

I just meant if you want everything back to normal, is it pinned on DH? My BIL is like super big, and he's well aware of this, and will make comments about his size, most likely as a pre-empt self preserving way I suppose. But he is big. very big, Supersize vs superskinny big. So there's no escaping his size, and no realisation needed, but perhaps like you say DH may be struggling coming to terms? Of course I can't make fair comment as I've no idea of your DH's build!

Where's that club?

That sounds like a difficult situation Oblomov.

Well i ended up with the baguette for lunch because there wasn't anything remotely healthy on the menu. I didn't have chips or desert. This morning we went to the market and i bought sweets for the boys but not for me, it was tempting when they had a big bag of my favourite sweets for £1. So not all bad and i think I'll have salad for tea after the big lunch.

Well, the job centre is annoying me. They won't fund my boyfriend's security licence, and they're referring him to Remploy to see if they can help where clearly the job centre fails.

He had a security job all lined up if he'd have got that funding :(

College tomorrow - accounting proper starts eek! And I've found a section in my textbook called "Mathematics for Accountancy" some of the sums look horrible!

Oblomov, I'm so sorry you're feeling so upset about the whole situation. I really don't know what to suggest but I agree that your DH is probably feeling embarrassed and hurt :(

Welcome back Stealth. Glad to see you. :)

Oblomov as far as the dcs are concerned it sounds a bit like 6 of one 1/2 dozen of the other however it is not acceptable for your friend to reply that her dc is only saying what he sees. Where do you draw the line.

I hope you get to talk to her and sort things out and I hope your dh can overcome this too.

janflan I went out for lunch and had a baguette too. I however did have some chips. Salad for me too tonight or some kind of ratatouille.

Good luck tomorrow Lollipop you seem so determined that I'm sure you'll be fine. :)

IMST not all dhs get away with that. Look at mine! By the way can your dd come for a sleepover on Thursday?

Ds just got back from chilcare club this week.
The boy in question should have been there today, but was not. He will be there tomorrow.
Oh god, I hope it works out o.k. for ds tomorrow.

Dishing out virtual jacobs minted clubs to those that are in need........

Good Luck for tomorrow Lollipop.
I do accounts too, and I'm sure you will be fine.

Hair DD would love to sleep over Thursday. Can your DD/DS2 come for Crazy Wednesday tomorrow? We can sort it then.

I've not posted for so long you lot are no longer in my 'I'm on' section!! I've not caught up yet but will have by the morning when I weigh myself and come back to report.

see you in the moaning!!

Good to see you Milkshake. :)

That would be great. Thanks IMST. :)

Oblomov, hope your dh feels better in he morning. I can sympathise with him but its putting you in such an awkward position.

Welcome back milk! These are your threads, do not desert us again! :)

Sorry for mentioning dessert :o
Had a good day here, definitely starting to hope I can get back on track. Just finishing my dinner an then a coffee and early night as I'm exhausted. 1000ish cals. No exercise tho, getting a bit dark for me to feel like walking :(

The old guard are back. Woo hoo . Was good today until dd dragged me to Costa and had a skinny, sugar free hazelnut, decaff latte . Was tired and that got me wanting wine and then after my awfully good low points supper, I felt the need to finish dd's comforting past with bacon and cheese - all soft and unctious like. Feeling bad now though - can I fast for a few days .

Oh am so pleased to see Stealth and Milkshake.

Can someone please give me a number to call to have these fiery chipotle walkers removed from my home?

Today's been okay, I'm under calories and I went to the gym for cardio and strength training. The cardio wave machine may kill me though...

Tying Pilates tomorrow, any advice or warnings or what to expect? I'm going out on Saturday night with old friends I've not seen in a long time and I'm wanting to look good!

Hi Married :) the extra cals you ate will bee less overall than you think. Don't let it spoil the motivation!Kato, ill have them. Can't stand them and so temptation will not be an issue. Can I swap them for a load of salt and vinegar and salted peanuts by any chance?

Morning all!