The Big Fat List and the Days of Doom (TM) Part VI - The thread in which we Spring Into Action

[grinningbee]

Sorry chaps, my thinking cap is busted. Best title I could manage tonight!

Loads of comfy chairs in here, bowls of fruit, and lots of superfree veggies to snack on

So, settle in, have a natter, and let's show the lard who's boss!

Bee
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Good morning chaps!

Thanks for the support. It's going to take a bit of time to make a plan etc, and try and save a bit (how much is needed do you suppose?), but whether it's 12 months or a little longer... unless someone can seriously change their ways I've had enough. He got all moody last night because I sniffed him. I'm not daft, I know the pub smell.

Anyhoo! Just phoned the housing association about the empty house in our village. No harm in trying both avenues! They own it, but being council tenants that's why we went there first. Am waiting for a call back...

Food.

Weetabix and a banana
Cheese triangles on toast, yogurt
Left over quorn chilli and rice

My mind is buzzing at the mo. But what a beautiful sunny day it is

She is in Egypt at Butlins until next week.

bee, can you get yourself on the housing list independently? And can you get any confidential advice for getting away from WA or Gingerbread or similar? massive (would you like pom-pom waving too, or shall we save that for while?)

well done on getting to target hedge

have a poorly DS3 with a temperature today. He was burning up in the night, and went back off to sleep about half 9, and had only just got up when I got in from work after 1. It won't be linked to his bang on the head on Sunday will it? Poor little lamb has had a proper week of it. And the worst bit is he doesn't want to cuddle me now, just Daddy (because Daddy lets him watch Jackie Chan films)

ahh, worked out what I did wrong

for hedge

Ria (nice to see you back again) it's a little project of mine, but obviously I have to be VERY careful. I shall do some finding out. One sticking point I shall have is that his pension stuff goes to his mum, not here. If I ask about it she'll tell him .

I have time to work it all out. Regarding the house, if I applied on my own now it would give it away. And I'm just not ready for it all yet. I need to try and get stuff together. I have a feeling that should we part, we won't be getting any help from him at all. Lord, it feels like someone elses life I'm talking about.

bee you are wise considering all the options and getting things planned. Does he know (or care) how unhappy you are? Do you have someone IRL you can talk to about this?

ria poor DS3, hope he is better now. I wouldn't imagine it would have anything to do with Sunday's bump, but I'm not the thread dr

Had a lovely day today wearing t shirts in the sunshine, girls running in and out of the house, been a real taste of summer.

I've been super focused today as well, stuck to plan 100% and felt good on it. I want my 4.5st award soon, thank you very much.

Have good evenings everyone :)

bee, it sounds like you are doing a lot of thinking and planning about your furture which is good. A knee jerk reaction wouldn't do anyone any good. Good luck, stay strong and do what needs to be done.

I had a very long day at work today. I usually finish at 3pm but had to work till 6pm. I would have happily came home and sat in front of the tv for the night but instead, I got a lift home from work, quickly had dinner (which I'd put in the slow cooker this morning) and was back out the door again by 6:45 for a cardio combat class at the gym.

It was just as hard as I was expecting it to be. I can't even have a bath yet as DD used all the hot water
At work today, I refused biscuits, cakes and chocolates. I also made a lovely red day meal for lunch (chicken and pepper bake) so I'm doing okay.
I did however cave in after gym and had some galaxy bar. I think its a large galaxy caramel. I had 4 squares. Thats the only syns I've had today so I'm going to assume they are less than 15 syns. If anyone knows how many syns it actually contains, I'd be happy to know as there is still 3/4 of the bar left in the fridge.

My dog almost escaped tonight. He saw a cat in the garden and realised that he can actually jump up on the wall. I've known for ages he could do it but he has never attempted to jump it.
Good job my reflexes were so fast. Before he had the chance to disappear down the other side after the cat, I grabbed his tail and pulled him back over! He will obviously try it again, no idea what he would actually do to the cat if he did catch it. I don't want to find out either.

galaxy caramel 48g bar = 12 syns
galaxy caramel 135g bar - each chunk = 2 syns.

Good luck with the planning and saving Bee. Not having a 3rd child definitely a good idea I feel.

Food today:
3 egg omelette with cheese (HEa), banana
another banana
ham, actifry chips, broccoli, babycorn, sugar snap peas
pork loin (this recipe minus the pepper cause I don't like it, and with 7 squirts of oil spray = half a syn instead of the oil listed allrecipes.co.uk/recipe/1833/marinated-pork-chops.aspx), brown basmati rice, pak choi, carrots, sprouts. Mullerlight yog.
Graze box - cheddar gorge
Graze box - bounty hunter
Good dollop of syns in the graze boxes (can't be bothered to get up and see how many, but prob about 15 in total), but I burned 861 calories at the gym/swimming today, so I'm ok with that.

Thanks for that recipe csws looks fab.

Can't remember who asked for the pork recipe. It's one from an old mag, will post it on the thread over the weekend!

I've had a good day here. Had 2 plain cream crackers (3syns), 1.5 syns in dinner and a gin and slim. (2,5 I think)

bee careful slow planning sounds wise, chin up!

Thanks csws aka my own personal food coach!
So that's 8 syns blown on chocolate which was totally worth it.

Trying to figure out tomorrows food. No doubt the evening will be a takeaway, not sure if i want to save syns though. Oh well, let's see what takes my fancy. It's definitely a green day.

Sorry I always forget to do my links on here properly now because the other site I post on does them automatically for me!

Morning all!

Heading bk to my mums in the West Country this morning. It will be nice to have a hand with dd as DH has worked the last 2 weekends and is on a course this weekend! She's just reached target on Sw so I'm hoping the food won't be too unhealthy.

Have a good weekend everyone!

Have a lovely time Cheese!

I'm starting fresh on Monday. It all got very stressful last night, and I can't concentrate on it at the mo. Basically, H said that because he feels like I expect him to do wrong, he may as well do it. Yep, that means drinking at the pub just a few doors down from us when he's "on his way home". So, it's because I make him feel bad that he's doing it .

We went to the pub last night, and from when I arrived with the dc he ignored me for 2 hours, just sitting at the bar with his mates. On the way home he said he thinks I'm about to tell him to "piss off" (his words), and that he doesn't know what to do. I said just be honest, but it seems that could be too difficult. So I said if he can't do that we may as well end everything now . He said he doesn't want to lose us and I told him that it's in his hands.

It'll only be a matter of time I'm sure before something else crops up. But according to him, it'll be my fault 'cos I'm expecting it. Not the fact that honesty doesn't seem to matter.

Sorry for spouting it all out here. There isn't anyone else to talk to.

Off to retrieve a large cuddly elephant from the washing machine, and hope it's come out the same shape it went in!

oh bee I wish I could help, or spirit you and the DC away for a while to give him a wake-up call. If H was out of the main picture would you be able to build bridges with your family? (I remember you saying you didn't see them I think?) What would your MIL think of his "secrets"?

have a good break cheese

dammit! long post just vanished (probably just as well 'cos I started ranting)

Thanks Ria. His MIL would hit the roof, but I somehow think she wouldn't be surprised. My family won't be surprised either, in fact they know a bit of what is happening as I talked to them not long after Xmas. It'll never be the same as it was, but it'll be ok.

I'm fine really, just need a wall to bang my head on . Off to the shops now with grumpy dc's. There may or may not be chocolate coming home...

ooooh, rant rant rant!

Go on, I am .

bee did you ever read any of the threads about a poster called starsnstripes? I know it's a different background situation, but the support she got on those threads was phenomenal, with good advice, and in brought out the best in MN. While I would be very scared to start a thread myself, there is advice and support to be had within all the nasty comments that sometimes crop up.

I will later bee, I promise (I have to go to work now, and DS3 wants to go to school). I just feel at showing myself up as self-obsessed and selfish and unfeeling. There's a lot of pressure on all my family ATM with bastard BIL trying to be supportive for Dsis.

bee I don't know much about your situation but I'm sending much sympathy and really hope you can put an end to it, if that's what you decide to be the best thing, as quickly and painlessly as possible. Enjoy your chocolate

cheese have a lovely time :)

Been a good girl again today
B- bacon, egg, pear
L- pasta and sauce packet, carrot
D- borsch, muller light
S- weetabix after my run

Had a white chocolate Options sachet yesterday, by God it was revolting, tasted of sweet hot water. Do NOT recommend!

Debka would you believe I forgot to get any chocolate? Honestly, brain is all over the place . And thank you.

Just a quick thought - I don't mean to be all me me me and self absorbed. I just don't have anyone to talk to about it. How sad is that. Still, I may be tempted into starting a thread to keep it all away from here.

Quick M update - she's having her first dose of chemo today. I saw her last night and she has a fab wig. I thought it was her hair at first, and she'd just had a cut and colour. The radiotherapy made her hair fall out, but at least she's sorted in that department for now .

Thread started in relationships. Could be interesting...

Hope you get some helpful advice on the thread. If anyone says anything unpleasant (you get all sorts on Mn) just skip those posts.

I'll read it shortly, just need to sort whiny dog out!

I'm exhausted.
I walked the dog for an hour then came home, washed up, put some washing on, hoovered downstairs and the stairs and then washed the floor downstairs. I had literally just sat down when DH arrived home. He is on the phone and he has walked over my freshly washed, still damp floor, over and over again. Why can't he just sit down and talk on the phone or go upstairs?!

My lunch today was delicious. I think I need to add some of my recipes to our thread so others can try them out too. Todays lunch was basically mushrooms, onions, garlic and pasta with fromage frais. I could eat it again now actually!

kid do that with the recipes, I am always in need of inspiration. How annoying about the floor, men just don't notice that sort of thing do they.

I've been super angelic today and run this evening, I'll be top of the list next week if it kills me

bee hope you're ok, i'm about to post on your thread. xxx