I’ve been out with our walking group today and had one of those conversations which turned annoying. It started off with someone saying I looked amazing, I’d lost so much weight. Then she asked if it was difficult. So I said the most difficult part for me was changing my mindset around food, that I had completely changed my way of thinking and therefore my eating habits (gave her some examples). Then said that got me a long way and I felt much, much better, but my weight had settled at about the point where I was on the borderline of obese (you’re not!) she said for about a year. (No, I’m not now, but I was until 8 weeks ago)
This is where it went a bit off piste. I continued by saying that because of my health (type 2 diabtes) I would benefit from further weight loss, so I had made the decision to start using MJ. Her next question was whether I’d had any difficulty with it… I got the sense she was a bit disapproving, which was compounded when she told me to make sure I didn’t go too far and end up looking like Sharon Osbourne.
The thing that annoys me…. Well, two things. First is - people in the walking group had got used to the smaller me post lifestyle change because I was fairly stable for a year. The “you look great” comments had tailed off, to be replaced with an occasional “how are you finding it to maintain your weight”. But now the “Gosh you’ve lost a lot of weight, you look fantastic comments” have started again, and that must be because the further weight loss with MJ is noticeable. They think I look great! Until I tell them I’m on the jabs (which I see no reason to hide), then all of a sudden they’re concerned. No, to be fair, I’ve told two people, the first was curious, only the second was judgy.
And the other thing that annoys me is: I have a clear, worked out strategy and set of goals, which have to do with health markers. Not the number on the scale, and not appearance. But some random person’s opinion of how I look is supposed to be more important than objective health metrics?
Nuh uh.
I am going to hit those metabolic goals. If it is physically possible for me to do, that is. However much weight I have to lose to do it, and even if some people think I’ve gone to far. If it happens that the health improvement tails off and further weight loss is no longer improving it, then I will accept that and focus on maintaining. Or if I get objectively to too low a weight, or I start to feel lacking in energy, or if I don’t like the way I look.
But those options aside - I’m going all the way, baby.