January 2025 starters - goal weight era

[HeidiLite]

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DD 28 would like to lose about ten pounds but definitely thinks I have “cheated”. I try not to discuss it with her.

DS 25 thinks it’s fabulous and I have done really well.

@myladyjane I've seen it but not been tempted, soggy biscuits aren't that appealing to me! I love Greek yoghurt with vanilla protein powder and defrosted frozen cherries. It's such a filling dessert too.

@HeidiLite none of mine have EVER mentioned it in any way! I found it quite weird, and asked DH if they'd mentioned it to him but no. We talk about food and healthy eating and the gym/exercise focus but weight has never been mentioned. As they were growing up though, I was conscious of never talking about weight either in a positive or negative way. My DM was constantly yoyo-ing between dieting and regaining when I was a child and talked about it all the time. I was always 'approved of' because I was tall, slim and athletic and could eat what I wanted. Until I couldn't, of course!

@Thelittlestranger thank you! I have missed you all. Happy 18th to your daughter ❤️
I've just signed up for a 14 day online arm strength and tone. This would never have happened pre MJ. Now, I actually want to look better ( not just thinner!)
@Wtafmakeitstop thank you! I love your
name!
@myladyjane thank you! Obviously a lucky lucky man but seriously I think we have been fortunate to find each other, we have a lot in common.
@HeidiLite My teenage son has never mentioned my weight-loss. I've never mentioned it to him to be fair!

Thanks for the daughter bday wishes! @MJalltheway no exams for the 18 year old. She has dropped out of her hairdressing course and is looking for a full time job. I am letting her get on with it. There is no other choice...

@HeidiLite both found out I was on the jabs. One, wants to go on them and I have persuaded her otherwise for now. The other wishes I had told her, instead of portraying that I was losing it without the 'help.' Which I wasn't, however, I think she felt a little let down that I wasn't just happy with how I was. It made her feel like if I wasn't she shouldn't be. It's all very complicated these feelings we all have about our bodies. I explained that I was merely a human, as well as a mum, and I had years of my own insecurities I needed help with myself.

@HeidiLite dd2 has barely noticed because she just doesn’t notice stuff.

dd1 has - she called me skinny the other day! She is massively into her sport and fitness and will help me in the gym so she’s quite proud of me changing things. That said I don’t think she knows re the mj - she’s never asked, she sees me eating less but I always eat differently anyway because I don’t eat meat and my working hours put me out of sync with the rest of the family. Also she’s 16 so not really observant about others at the moment.

Hi @BreezyPeerso good to hear from you, sounds like life is fab, and really pleased about your new relationship!

@HeidiLiteds told me he’s really proud of how I’ve done, he knew I was unhappy with my weight, but doesn’t know about the jabs.

@Jins as always, so impressed with your sewing prowess, sounds like you’re really getting organised. I feel your pain on the ‘muffin top’ I’ve got that with one of my pairs of jeans, it’s really annoying…

@Thelittlestrangerhappy 18th to dd, hope she has a great time celebrating. Enjoy your Pilates course.

@MJallthewaygood news on the gym, keeping everything crossed you’re over the worst of it and gym helps strengthen it. Well done on the chocolate too.

I’m back on track after the weekend, finding lower carb easier now I’m back at work, lots of salads for lunch and then dinner so hoping that helps. Waiting for Bolt to come back on whether I can have another 10mg pen to use for 5mg. I had a referral code for them but will move to Pharmulous once I have a recent order I think!

DS seems to have shared his stinking cold, throat feels like razor blades and feel awful, just one day to get through and then a quiet weekend planned! Happy Friday all

@26inprogress it's good to be back! Life is good. Working today and the first 3 days of next week. Then we are away (together ❤️) for the first time for a whole week. I'm sure we will get on well but you never know!
Hope your cold passes quickly
I am going to jab 4mg before we go which will be 11 or 12 days after the previous jab. I've been able to eat sensibly on that so hopefully enough meals out but not come back to a scare on the scale!

Great to see you back @BreezyPeer.

Just heard that MIL died peacefully last night. As predicted nobody knows what to think or feel. She hung on far longer than we expected.

DS2s meeting went pretty well and he was accompanied by his work mum who is one of the witnesses. She’s being interviewed today then they decide whether a further meeting or disciplinary will take place. I read the notes yesterday and he did well. Just more waiting for DS2 who is pretty torn up about it all.

Off for breakfast with friends. Will raise a coffee mug to MIL

@Jins Sending condolences, sorry for your loss, it’s never easy even when expected. 💙
Hope DS is ok today, and glad to hear he has support at work to help him through.

@BreezyPeer wonderful to hear from you, such a fabulous update finding such happiness with someone you’ve known for a while! 🥰

@26inprogress hope you feel better soon. We’ve had similar lurgy slowly working its way through the household. DH started his new job this week dosed up on painkillers.

@HeidiLite DC either don’t know or if DS1 has figured it out he hasn’t said anything. The pens are in the fridge and expect he’s taken a look at them. One is DHs so he may have spotted that. I’ve told my mum not to touch certain boxes in the fridge as it’s ‘DHs meds’ he’s on a few things for various reasons so it’s not raised any questions. TBH if DS1 did ask about DH being on it, there have been enough age-related issues going on to justify it without DS comparing himself.

He turns 18 later this year, he does struggle with his weight and binge-eating - autistic and food is one of his stims - so it may crop up. While I think there could be some incredible benefits for DS ie if it activates his fat-burning energy metabolism like it did for me, then that would be life changing for him. But I also worry it will dampen the little enjoyment he has for life. I’ve had mild anhedonia on higher doses, and that’s been bearable as I’ve seen it as temporary and also welcomed the dampening of high stress work situations, but I worry DS hasn’t had enough joy yet. Like DH he’s prone to anxiety and depression. So it’s a bit of a gamble. However, once DS is earning his own money, if he chooses to take it that’ll very much be his decision. But I expect if he takes it he’ll need to be on it for the long term to keep the weight off.

DS2 birthday yesterday. I baked a cake. He went out for pizza with friends. I ate my own pizza at home and immediately regretted eating the whole thing - not out of guilt but because of the huge carb crash that followed. Normally I donate a quarter to one of the DC, but with no one around I fell back into ‘finishing my plate’. Then as soon as there was room I ate a slice of cake because I wanted to taste what I’d baked. And then went to bed early!
I’m constantly wrestling the urge to ‘increase the dose’ even though I’m maintaining. When actually I just need to get back to filling myself with good nutrition to feel better.

I was more thinking what the children think about weight loss in general, not necessarily jabs. Mine don't know about MJ, they are too young, but they haven't also commented on weight loss. I keep joking they see me as a domestic appliance so wouldn't notice if it has slimmed down😁
DS tells me to stop casually flexing my muscles all the time, I respond that he would do it as well if he had my biceps. 💪

@Jins sorry for your loss. It's hard even when it's expected

@jins sorry to hear that. It’s never easy. Hope DS is OK and that you manage a relaxed weekend x

So sorry @Jins. Sending you hugs, plus additional hugs to those who are poorly.

Thanks all! MIL was a difficult character and none of us have very happy memories of time spent with her but she leaves a gap and lots of if onlys. DS2 is taking bereavement leave which gets him away from a difficult environment and confirms that he’s been under stress at home. (His manager knows but there’s no harm in stressing the fact). DH has taken the news in his stride with no mention of it to our friends. I’m keeping a close eye on them all tbh

I should be jabbing but I’ve got a sore tum which is probably constipation again. Will probably push it to tomorrow

@DGmaintaining great change of username!
Thank you! It's quite change after all the OLD drama to meet someone in real life, or just look at someone I already knew differently.

Wishing everyone a good weekend whatever you are up to xxx

Sorry to hear your news @Jins

Hello again @BreezyPeer

I’m back from my visit to my sister’s with the younger two kids. I forgot to take my sleep apnoea device with me and I’m utterly knackered! Early bed tonight.
But I did check my work emails when I got home and I have been offered an interview for the internal job I applied for. Eek! Good news but quite daunting.

sorry @jins and yes understandable there are some conflicting emotions. Hope everybody can deal them in the manner that works best for them.

ooh @Polkadotdash exciting!

Thinking of you all @Jins, not easy. Also hope ds ok, horrible thing to go through, lets hope common sense prevails.
@Polkadotdashthats gr was t news on the interview, I know daunting but hopefully has cheered you up a bit and given you some confidence, good luck! Hope you can catch up on sleep this weekend and that you had a great time.

@Polkadotdash hi again! And congratulations on the interview! Xxx

@Polkadotdash hi again! And congratulations on the interview! Xxx

Morning maintainers! Wishing everyone a happy Saturday xxx

Morning all.

Condolences @Jins , it sounds difficult. I remember dealing with conflicting feelings within our family when xMIL passed away.

Well done @Polkadotdash , that is fabulous news.

@BreezyPeer - wow, tremendous news, the bench is well and truly retired.

I'm done in after four days in my new job. I know I will love the work, the culture appears to be good. I feel like it will take a while to be accepted in my position with three team members who have been slightly challenging in week one (fgs).

Weight completely static on 1200 cals of good quality food a day. I've still not managed to lose anything since stopping MJ, lost a couple of kg here, gained it there. Slightly annoying tbh but story of my recent life.

I'm off to a new Yin Yoga class today in my new gym gear that actually fits - I'm hoping for long stretches in a dark and quiet room and switching off.

Morning all

First weeks in new jobs always tough @PenelopePitstopPersists( love the new name, hadn’t clocked it before!!), but you don’t need 3 challenging team members in the mix, hope they calm down/ you get them sorted soon. Enjoy yoga.
I jabbed on Thursday evening but haven’t weighed for almost 2 weeks, was worried I’d put loads on last weekend. Weighed this morning and back to 10 71/2 which is a pound off my lowest recorded weight so that’s a lovely surprise. When I think about it we walked a lot last weekend, so I may have eaten more but seems that def helped!
I’m in bed, feeling grim, had to cancel reformers, think first 3 weeks of new job and commuting 4 days a week have caught up with me, so listening to my body and doing nothing today, keeping away from the rest of my family to avoid them getting the lurgy!
have a great weekend all

@Polkadotdash that’s fabulous news and I’ll be keeping everything crossed.

Thanks for the messages. I’m still watching out but life seems to be as normal with DH and DS2. DS1 won’t care - he wasn’t the favourite grandson and she made sure he knew! Another ‘if only’.

Feeling more comfortable today but hideously constipated. Too much fruit I suspect. It’ll resolve in time I guess. Will jab today and will drop down a bit.

Fab news @Polkadotdash good luck with the next stage!

@PenelopePitstopPersists Well done for getting through the first week!

Hope you feel better soon @26inprogress

Weight is above 59kg again, I’m going to try to get more veg and protein in - as I’ve been on a bit of carb binge lately. Think I’ll stick to the 20 clicks / 1.66mg again tomorrow. I’ve enjoyed having more energy though, it’s been another week of getting up at 6am and alternating peloton bike rides and yoga and I feel so much better for it.