January 2025 starters - it's our anniversary!

[HeidiLite]

new thread, losers!

Hope your pen arrives soon @Polkadotdash. I only have a ds but remember what my niece was like at that age, she’s amazing but god was she testing! Good luck

Get well soon @26inprogress

I went to Madeira when 25 weeks pregnant with my eldest daughter. It was my husband's favourite holiday! I enjoyed the lavada walks, my husband enjoyed the wine!

@Polkadotdashsnap. 12 year old daughter that talks back all the time and is no longer my little girl. It's hard! We clash massively. It was the same between me and my mum and I don't want history repeating itself but it is hard!! I need to think nice thoughts. She has been doing a lot of learning!

Another one with 2 DDs and 1 DS here and yes, boys are much simpler. My eldest DD when she first really started wanting independence could not/would not see that walking home on her own at 1am was not the best idea. And yet - DS now does it all the time. It made me quite sad really, it absolutely highlights the restrictions women and girls have to put on themselves to keep themselves safe. He has a completely different experience of the world than she does, also helped by being very tall and strong.
eldest DD is going to be 20 this year (feeling v old!) and we have a lovely relationship again now but god there were some challenging years to get here! My DM once told me - when you get on a rollercoaster and the bar comes down, what's the first thing you do? You jiggle it up and down to test it. That's what teenagers are like - they instinctively need to test the boundaries to make themselves feel secure.

Feeling much better today, constipation relieved! 💩
bloody annoying back pain won't go through so still taking it easy this week.

Sympathies with everyone on the teenage girl front, mine was a nightmare between 14 and 16. I am pleased to say that from about 18 onwards she became an absolute delight, completely scatty but kind, really lovely to be around, works hard at everything in her life and makes me really proud of who she is. DS was an absolute breeze by comparison, he is so laid back he is horizontal.

Travelling today 😫, I am tired before I even arrive.

I weighed in this morning, 1lb down on my lowest weight/initial target which is because I have been so busy but still, losing a bit off MJ feels good.

Good luck with your medication review @26inprogress , I am not allowed to take HRT but I recognise everything you have said. I hope you get something that works better for you.

I’m the only girl in my generation and the first in the wider family for 30 years. I was 43 when my niece was born. DH is one of two boys with only male cousins. I didn’t expect to have a girl and I was right. DS1 stepped up and filled the gap in challenging behaviour so I didn’t miss out. DS2 was and is easy going and parenting was easy. DS1 challenged us at every stage but 12-16 was a nightmare. He still thinks we’re idiots but hides it better.

York doesn’t disappoint. We did the Castle Museum yesterday and were there hours. Bit odd to see many of my childhood toys as exhibits, makes me feel my age. Will be doing the walls today as it’s staying dry and DH will be getting his Bettys breakfast.

My DD was an absolute bitch (her words) from 13-19. It was a long time to stay calm and keep telling myself she would come back to me.

No boys/alcohol/drugs. Perfect school behaviour and worked part time, kept her room tidy.

She just absolutely turned on me. She despised me and everything about me. It was quite heartbreaking.

She turned the corner once she moved away to uni age 19 and we are thick as thieves now. Really close. I honestly had almost given up hope after six years of hatred.

DS is and has always been an easy child. Except for the state of his room.

I’m glad (in a way!) that it’s not just me with a feisty daughter. I thought I had another two years though before it all started. Aged 11 with a full face of makeup and a know it all attitude is too soon for me! I was worried about being a good mum to a daughter because I don’t have a great relationship with my own mum. We didn’t really argue, it was more that she wasn’t interested in me or my life so I was left to my own devices. I’m determined not to be like that. And yes, it’s really troubling me that I have to think of things differently for my DD than I did with my two older boys. I don’t want to have to say to her ‘you can’t wear that because it might give a man the wrong idea’ or ‘you can’t hang out in the park because there is no mobile phone reception there’. It starts the loss of freedoms too soon.

Anyway, pen has finally arrived, so I will be up to 5mg later today. Hoping that I get the appetite suppression back.

@MJalltheway i like the roller coaster analogy

Thanks all, nurse was great, really encouraging about my weight loss and MJ and interested in what I’m planning and whether I want to lose more, her calcs put me bang on 22.5 BMI and I’ve decided that’s where I want to stay. I’m looking a bit haggard, hoping the collagen kicks in soon! Anyway she thinks I may be on too high a dose of gel now I’ve lost so much weight but we agreed I’d move into patches at the equivalent dose to see if the constant dosage rather than all at night helps. I really hope so as I’m feeling shite! My BP has also decreased since summer, I’m in the lower end of the normal range but nothing to worry about at the moment.
hope the 5mg works @Polkadotdashand prob a good thing I don’t have a teen dd at the moment, I think with my rage and emotions I’ve give her a run for her money 🫣😬

Reading with sympathy on the troubling years with teen daughters. We also had some really tough years with autistic DS. We’re getting to the other side of it, he turns 18 this year, and he’s turning into a really interesting person who’s great to talk to. We still annoy him but he’s learnt so much patience. I can’t imagine how much harder it could have been with an autistic teen daughter.

Had my GP call today. Got an immediate referral letter sent out for genetic testing. Love my GP, so good. GOSH have till April to set an appointment for it.

We’ve had a power cut, dropping all our pens over to my friend’s fridge. 4 pens = £640.

@Zempy mine was the same, A* student, popular amongst her friends, loved by her teachers .... hated me and used to come home and explode (ASD) after being pleasant, compliant and sociable at school. It felt very unhealthy at the time.

Really good news @26inprogress and @DGmaintaining on the responsive GP - mine is also excellent and I am very grateful.

Wow re power cut and pens!

Long day yesterday, after an early start I didn't land back in York until just before 10 and then had to drive from the station, home at 10:45.

I've weighed in and lost a 1lb so lowest weight since last Jan 25 reported, but I bet it doesn't last because I didn't eat enough yesterday. I made myself a boiled egg and toast for breakfast at 5am and then ate a sensible amount of sandwiches, a nectarine and a brownie at lunchtime. I didn't find it that hard to skip the other things provided at lunchtime yesterday which felt good.

I didn't eat again because I had to dash for my train and there was nothing on offer I felt like eating once I was on board. I did notice that I was thinking about lunch all morning though, part hunger, part wondering if I would stick to my plan about navigating it I think.

Back home, still slightly confused as had 2.30AM flight. Not even stepping on the scale before I manage to get back to more normal regime. But I did enjoy the holidays, certainly way more food than usual, plus drinks. Did go to gym a few times. The last gym at some fancy beach club was so nice that my local will probably feel even shabbier...but for 17 eur per month, you get what you pay for. May actually head that way now, still day off today.

And I know I said it before, but it is so nice not to hate all holiday photos for a change.

17 euro per month? That is a bargain!!

I have also avoided the scales this week after making the mistake of weighing on Monday when I came on. BIG mistake. So am leaving until tomorrow.

So, the conversation happened with work yesterday and I am now officially sans job. Have all the legalities to go through but this morning is the first day I don't need to log on. It's a weird feeling. I wanted this, and yet I feel a loss at the same time. Lots to work through, so going to be kind to myself for the next few weeks.

Or course, I immediately had some wine and emotionally ate my way through a bag of hula hoops 😂

@Thelittlestranger totally - was a Black Friday deal but still super cheap. My other gym in Switzerland (that I don't pay for) charges 20 CHF per one time pass!

Yes I can imagine you are having conflicting feelings re: work. Be kind but maybe add some more wholesome activities as well besides wine and hula hoops 😁

@Thelittlestranger I was once where you are and it proved to be the best thing that ever happened to me. I hope it turns out the same way for you.

York has been glorious. Unbelievable weather for February. Last full day today so making the most of it

Welcome home @HeidiLitehooenyou had a great break. @Thelittlestrangersolidarity, really mixed emotions when you’re made redundant, take your time and be kind to yourself, it’s a rollercoaster!! wine and hula hoops absolutely necessary!
enjoy your last day @jins.

Thanks all.

I'm all about balance and have been embracing daily yoga/pilates sessions with runs and spin in between. Oh, and the never ending dog walks.

Time to reset, rethink and recharge. I'm not very good at doing nothing, so have plans to keep me busy for a few months.

I have a new skinny person problem. Bought my old favourite bikinis for my holiday in my current size but I can't really wear them for longer periods. Underwires rub and poke my now unpadded breastbone. Non-wired it is I guess. Which of course don't give the same lift and shape that I now also need.
Oh well. Still worth it.

I am going to have a swimwear trying on session soon.

I have a horrible feeling my arse wrinkles will be hanging out the legs of my baggy tankini bottoms.

@Thelittlestranger I've been there too and like many others have stated, it was the best thing to ever happen to me!

It is a huge reset though, isn't it? We're all so defined by our work, it's generally the first question people ask us when we meet them at parties or whatever, "what do you do?". So it's no huge surprise that when that changes, it's a huge mental and emotional shift; a real fundamental change. Give yourself some grace to work it through.

Best of luck with the testing @DGmaintaining.

I hope the patches do the trick @26inprogress !

Weigh in day for me today and I've lost nearly 2lbs again! The 4.8mg Wegovy is really doing the trick - I don't feel nauseous or unwell in any way, I just don't have a huge appetite again, which is fab.

SW 15.10 30th Jan 2025
CW 10.3.9
GW 9.12

I've decided that I'd like to see what I look like in the 9's. I suspect that I will look a bit too slim (DH said I am starting to look 'fragile' from behind but I think that's because he's used to rather hefty old me). I'm just over 5'6 and so my BMI is still reasonable (22.5) and I'm still a size 10-12 (goodness me - the very thought of writing those things this time last year!!!).

Have a relaxing evening losers!

@Thelittlestranger sounds like you’ve got some great outlets to help you reset and recharge. This next chapter of your life is going to be fabulous.

@HeidiLite I'm sure you’ll find some cute, well cut, non-wired bikinis. What a fun shopping spree to have!

So the lump was a cyst - as some of you mentioned experiencing in the past. The consultant just got the needle out and drained it then and there! No major concerns but I’m to see him again in a few weeks to check there’s no change. Apparently I have some fibrous tissue which is likely nothing, but because of the BRCA risk he wants to check it again and do an MRI. I want to have a little cry of relief but I also don’t want to acknowledge that this has worried me at all.

That’s brilliant news @DGmaintaining 🥳

So pleased @DGmaintainingwhat a relief! It’s ok to admit that it’s worried you!
Well done @meatyryvitathat’s amazing!
Enjoy bikini shopping @HeidiLiteand @Zempythat made me laugh 🤣sorry! I had to throw a tankini I took on holiday last summer away there and then as DH told me my bum was hanging out 😱he didn’t say wrinkly but I’m sure it was 😬🤭

@DGmaintaining that’s fab news.

@Thelittlestranger such a mindset change. Use/enjoy reset.

all this talk of wrinkly arses, it’s sexy stuff ladies…. I caught sight of my own sad trunk the other day. Hmm.

i appear to have moved to maintenance. Haven’t hit my goal but I am not feeling loss-y anymore. Moving down to 10mg has definitely made me feel better in myself so I think I am slowly accepting this is me now (this is my ‘set point’ for my lowest adult weight so I’m ok I think). My weight is about 1.5lb higher than my lowest but I have been away with work and my period is due any second so as long as it doesn’t keep going up that’s ok. I may start daily weighing for a little bit as I get to grips with this bit (I’d be lying if I didn’t hope I’d shift half a stone more but we work with what we have don’t we).

@DGmaintaining ah that's brilliant!