Mounjaro Starters Nov ‘24 Thread 14 - The one where for the first time, ALL of our Winter coats do up 🤗

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Welcome to thread 14!

Link to our last thread here:

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/weight-loss-injections/5394264-mounjaro-starters-nov-24-thread-13-the-one-where-we-are-lucky-to-end-our-best-summer-in-years-thinner-and-more-comfortable-in-our-own-skin?page=40

Feel free to lurk or post, absolutely no judgement here, just support and encouragement as we enter Autumn knowing that ALL of our Winter coats will do up 🥰

Join us here to celebrate NSV’s, weight loss milestones, maintenance and new stone brackets!

I’m on W47 D2 and on w2 of my second titrating down pen of 5.0mg

F in my early 50’s
H 5’ 5.5”
SW 13st 11lb
CW 9st 7.0lbs
GW 9st 0lb

Total loss so far 61.0 lbs (at 9st 6.0)

We recommend the Shotsy app to monitor the amount of MJ in the system and pleasing graphs to look at…plus the MeThreeSixty body scan app to monitor inch loss for the weeks where weight loss is slow but you might have lost body fat etc. Both are free.

Feel free to swap recipes that might inspire anyone in a food rut, tips for managing side effects, exercise tips, tips for maintenance, titrating up or down and we love a wellness/supplements/beauty/ style chat too 🥰

Back of the knicker drawer 😂😂 loving it. Think my DH would panic at being put under pressure 😂

I think smiling is where I’m going wrong 😂😂

I have been dreading the scales after enjoying my birthday with countless celebrations this weekend but I’m chuffed to bits I’m still the same. I was sooo stressed about maintenance but 17.5 weeks off MJ and I’m maintaining. I hope this gives those of you considering coming off or tapering down some reassurance.

This is really reassuring thank you. Lovely to hear you’re doing so well maintaining and have been able to indulge in a balanced way!

My first pen from Oushk has arrived. Well packaged (now I understand about the puffin talk), and I’m pleasantly surprised to see swabs included (Boots never did include those!). Has anyone joined the community? I’m not sure if it might be helpful? I already have you fabulous guys though so I am not sure.

@LindtCurves Hmm, since I’ve lost weight I have noticed a bit more attention from people, but no one has asked for my number (yet anyway 😅). In general though I’ve noticed I’m less invisible to both males and females - people catch my eye and smile or make small talk much more than previously. I have reached 45 though, and I think as ladies age we do seem to become more transparent 🙄 I am still just at the scraping into healthy BMI stage so wonder if I’ll notice it more as I (hopefully!) lose more weight. It’s an odd one as I don’t like the idea of people not engaging with larger people, it sucks to be honest. But I’m pleased to feel more ‘seen’.

I do however remember when I lost some weight in my early 20s and it was awkward at times when men would come on to me. I distinctly remember telling my mum I didn’t feel comfortable being slimmer if that was how men were going to treat me (I was in a relationship with my now DH so was definitely not encouraging anything). The worst occasion was when I was temping as a medical secretary (not my job now, it was just whilst at uni). I was at a hospital and a consultant tried to kiss me (alone in an office at the time). I swerved and he had to make do with my cheek before I was rescued from the awkward moment by a little man coming through the door wheeling a trolley through of results. He was married and knew I had a boyfriend. Urgh. I saw him on breakfast tv a few years ago (as a talking head). 😡

Hahaha! Me too - my resting bitch face has definitely come on since I reached my 50s. Perhaps that’s why no-one wants my phone number…

The Pvolve article was very interesting. I’m currently in a hotel room with my p-ball, which saw me trying fire hydrant lifts this morning. Urf.

Thank you! Gratefully received!

Thank you! Japan was incredible! And exhausting 😆.

lol at resting bitch face. I think it’s standard issue for women in their 50’s 🤣

The fire hydrants do get easier, but they are a bastard when you first start. Keep the ball topped up with air to get the best results. Well done you for taking the equipment with you!💪🏻

I’ve not joined the community as I enjoy our little corner of the internet here 🥰

I’m sorry that happened to you. Being in a male industry meant I had to deal with literally hundreds of creepy men over the years. On the advice of a Lawyer years ago I kept a file note diary with details that were irrefutable (and unlikely the creepy bloke would have done the same) which I emailed to myself each and every time. It always made for the most interesting meetings with HR whenever a creepy senior man would suggest I was ‘not suitable’ for a promotion or that my performance was ‘not up to scratch’ (always utter bollocks but their ego couldn’t handle being turned down) Turns out some Men are not very good at workplace chess 😉

Well done you! So impressive 🙌

Part of my advanced-level Husband training course..essentially an appearance from the depths of knickers past guarantees Breakfast in Bed Saturday and Sunday and a coffee in bed during the week 😂

I have just removed all clothes that no longer fit.
This is all the clothes that I have that fit….

bought new in either size 18 or size 20….
2 pairs work trousers, 4 work tops. (I work 3 days a week so this is adequate)
4 pairs of trousers
1 lovely warm jumper
2 thin fleeces and 1 chunky fleece
2 tops
1 gilet
2 waterproof jackets.

(I have dog walking clothes which are not new but fit)

I don’t need any “dress up” items as I have no social events or nights out planned.

I have a stash of 6 pens so will continue on but would I be crazy to buy more clothes when I have enough to do me to spring when hopefully I will be a smaller size and the above items can go to charity shop.

I plan to buy a Christmas jumper.

I admire your ability to take things away. I’m still struggling to let things go… but I know it’s an issue for me. On the other hand, a lot of my stuff I’m wearing is by virtue of me never being able to throw anything out that I’ve spent money on!

Oh there we are, we have the 50+ version of strange men suddenly asking for your phone number! My DH has been brining me coffee every morning too. ☕️

Well done!! What is your maintenance strategy?

I'm sorry about your experiences, does not sound pleasant!! Do you think these attitudes may have also made you hesitate about losing weight?

It's interesting, isn't it? I was slimmer in my 20s and then gradually gained weight, and honestly I thought that was just normal at that age, constant sexual harrassment, as well as being asked out by strangers. Did not realise there was a relationship to weight, but you have made a good point that there is.

I'm not sure how big the 'engagement' gap between smaller and larger people is. People still used to talk to me plenty when I was big, and there was certainly flirtation etc. So I honestly thought size didn't matter.

What kind of conversations are people having with you?

However, I just feel the attention is more channeled now:

• Men - just approach me in public places and ask me out. At any event/ public space, circle around me. Tap their friend's arm and go 'look at her'. It's so intense. I did not expect this
• Women - stop to compliment me all the time. Went to a festival recently and during a 10-minute walk between venues, 3 women stopped me to compliment my clothes. Or I might be in a restroom fixing up my hair and a woman maybe my mum's age might say 'you're very beautiful'. All the attention is focused on my looks and clothes, it's daily, and that's probably even more intense as women rarely spoke to me in public at a larger size

I just feel like I am now defined by my looks to society, which is a weird way to be.

Also, since I lost the weight, I am in a relationship with a model. Literally, a guy out of a fashion campaign with ridiculous cheekbones. We met at a party in the summer, he spotted me and thought I was gorgeous, and the rest is history... Woud it have worked out the same way at my previous weight? I doubt it.

For me that's the main struggle at the moment, coming to terms living with my new body and weight, and realising that while on the inside I am still me, to others, I am now somebody else.

I do genuinely feel like I'm in one of those body swap films where one morning I wake up as Margot Robbie and experience the world so differently. Perhaps "Shallow Hal" is the most appropriate comparison? I know it's not really a 'problem' per se, but I had absolutely no idea society still values slimness so much in 2025. I'm a little sad for the woman I used to be for 10+ years, as she had to work hard for things, whereas, had she just stayed size 8, she'd have had the world at her feet, apparently.

I do think people respond to beauty, @LindtCurves- in both the good and bad ways you and @Goldleafcathave described.

I agree it can be a weird thing to get used to, and can even be tiring to deal with. I joke about my age, but I it gradually occurred to me in my late 40s that I wasn’t being harassed from cars/vans or hit on in pubs/on the street anymore, and it’s been… peaceful.

My teenage DD works hard to stay under the radar. She is lovely - a willowy size 6 with an almost vintage doll-like face - but after an adolescence in the biggest jeans/sloppiest hoodies she could find is only just starting to find the ways of expressing her style that keep her on the more comfortable end of social attention. Her friends are similar. Their resistance to “making the most of themselves” in this age of You Tube make up tutorials has reminded me of what a shock it was to me when the male attention started - I was around 14! - only it was much more normal/expected in the 80s that OF COURSE you would be dressing to look good and ape older women, and learning to deal with everything that came with that.

It really can be a double-edged sword. There’s no question my youthful looks lead to some very enjoyable perks, but middle aged invisibility has proven less of a burden than advertised.

It sounds like you are a total stunner @LindtCurves no wonder as you were a model. Enjoy your new relationship.

my maintenance plan is to log most days and stay within my maintenance calories (about 4-500 more a day than on MJ) and aim for 15000 steps a day. That’s fallen by the wayside with 2 weekends of birthday celebrations and I’m at the top end of the range I’ve given myself so I need to go back to it. I do feel I can get back in control though. As we all know, this is a life style change. Not a quick fix.

@RayonSunrise Thank you for your story 😊 I felt like I had already reached that invisibility to some degree as an obese woman. I’m just shocked how important weight and body size still seem to be. And questioning people’s motives.

@Cantbesure Thank you. It’s just strange getting used to being seen that way and everything that comes with it, good and bad. Personally I’m not someone that gravitates towards ‘pretty’ people, I like people for their brain and substance, and it does somehow disgust me that there are people offering me the moon on a stick now that I’m a certain size and better put together.

Did you stop taking MJ gradually or go cold turkey? What are your maintenance calories? Is your step count higher or the same as it used to be on MJ?

@LindtCurves obvs you are more than your looks. I had to go cold turkey coming off MJ as I had a pancreatitis scare. I’ve been having blood tests for the past 17 weeks as various things kept showing up. But I’ve been signed off by the haematologist now but I’m being referred for an endoscopy. No indication that any of this has been MJ related but of course that wasn’t clear at the start of the process, so I came off to be on the safe side.

Im very short so my MJ cals were about 1200 so I’m on between 1500-1600 now. My step count was high when I finished MJ so I’m trying to keep it up. Not as easy now the nights are drawing in and the weather isn’t as nice. I run 5 miles twice a week and then parkrun and dog walks.

I think we need to know more about the model! 😉

It going to take a while to adjust to not defining yourself as ‘the bigger one’ but you’ve worked hard to achieve your new figure so embrace and enjoy it I say! People are shallow, but it may be because you exude confidence which also does attract people. You can’t change the past, you’re still that hard working woman and that won’t change. 💪🏻

ps I’d love to look like Margot 😂

well done on keeping up the activity levels - this is us now for life 💪🏻

My DD says that the unwanted attention in clubs these days is insane. It does sound far worse than back in my day. And now they also have drink and needle spiking to contend with too. I don’t envy the kids nowadays tbh 🥲

Haha. I doubt he's the one, we have a fair bit of overlap, but also a fair few differences. But he's younger than me and... physically just 100% perfect. It's weird because I've always dated brains, not looks, but you only live once, may as well enjoy it. He's very sweet and a little bit insecure underneath it all so think we'll push through the cold season cuddling together.

You're right, I just need to embrace it all.

Just makes me sad that skinny privilege is so prevalent, and wanting to challenge it somehow.