Mounjaro, 10st or more to lose.

[BookishBabe]

Hello fellow mounjaro users or people thinking about starting. I have seen there is a thread for people needing to lose 5 stone plus, but even there I felt a little bit big.
I need to lose 12 stone, and even then my BMI would be 33.
Alot of people seem to be starting mounjaro with a starting BMI of 33, so I think it sometimes feels better to be among people who have the same amount to lose, 12 stone feels so daunting and scary. It's going to be a long battle.

This is my final chance before weight loss surgery, which I really don't want to do or risk.
I am 32 years old and have 2 young sons (7 and 5), one is disabled and the other is struggling and is on a reduced timetable at school. They need me to be around for a very long time and at the moment I feel like I am failing them.

I started calorie counting/a calorie controlled diet last Monday (2nd December). I was thinking about putting it off because of Christmas, but I can always come up with an excuse, so I decided to just go for it.

I weighed in at 27st and 7lbs.
At 5 ft 8 that gave me a BMI of 58.5!!!

I had some blood tests in March which showed I was prediabetic, I have done precisely nothing since then to do anything about it and have buried my head in the sand!

My mounjaro was delivered Tuesday afternoon and I took my first jab on Wednesday morning. I think its working slightly now, but I didn't feel any different for the first 3 days, but I'm either used to eating less (unlikely in 7 days) or the mounjaro has started to take effect.

So, one week in, calorie controlled diet every day, trying to get lots of protein, drinking loads, a few days of mounjaro in my system.

Weigh day time,

drum roll

26st and 11lbs!!!! 🥳

10lbs gone. I am very happy with that. I used to be able to lose 15lbs in a week when I was younger, but I was much more active back then and thanks to being so overweight I do struggle with activity.

BMI is now 57! So I've lost 1.5 on my BMI. Fingers crossed I can keep this going, I just need the number to keep going down! I'm really hoping I can be in a healthier and happier place with myself.

So, long post over.

Does anyone with 10st or more to lose want to join me here?

I know its daunting but I think if anyone feels like me, this is probably our last hope before surgery and our health is probably starting to decline or already has due to the weight we have on our bodies.

I completely relate to so much of that.

My DH has always said he loves me as I am - I think they're so lovely to be saying the "right" things but when I spoke to him about MJ and health he was completely behind it. I think he never wanted to make it an issue and like you they have had to make adjustments as I can't do much but he didn't even complain about the cost and he's quite worried about money in general. I think having supportive husbands will, be a good thing if we get them on board.

I had exactly the same dxpwrience with reading about how restricting was bad/leads to bing eating cycle so I stopped restricting.... And out on about 5stone...

I think the standard weight advice seems not to work for this of us morbidly obese and I struggle with it being contradictory different things must work for different people.

Ok I have sent in an e consult form for the doctors, see what they say .

has anyone seen it cheaper then £180 per month ? You do get points with boots though I suppose!

https://monj.co.uk/discount-mounjaro-price-list/

This is a current price list including discounts. The pharmacies are all GPhC registered. Lots of them are cheaper than £180 for the first month. There is a thread here for discount codes if you need one.

@BookishBabe my hubby is very similar in the fact that he says he adores me at any size, we met at 16, I was probably around 14 stone then but just gained and gained over the following 41 years. He supports me in doing this for me, he just wants me to be happy with myself. I struggle to understand how he can love me at this size. I suppose I have to learn to love myself first (lots of childhood issues play into this as well).

That was meant to say
2 young sons with disabilities.
And tried not to complain.

Already the longest I've lasted this year 😅 I usually don't last the first week without "cheating" and then just give up completely.
I have given myself a little goal, my first one is to get to 24st and 13lbs so I can use my exercise equipment, I'm currently over the max user weight.
We have a holiday in April, just a small weekend at a children's resort (similar to lego land with rides for young children and lots of walking). We've been a few times and I walked for hours the first time we went, but my health has declined and my weight has shot up and last time we went I had to take a break every 5 to 10 minutes to rest my back and get my breath back.
I just want to last much longer without a break. Unrealistically, I'm hoping I don't have to take any breaks, but I'm not sure I can change that much in 5 months.

Anyone else have a mini goal?

I only have mini-goals. I know big goals don't work for me and mess with my head.

My two initial goals are BMI under 40 / weigh under 100kg (they will probably happen around the same time), and then to fit into a mustard yellow dress I bought on line last winter - claimed to be my size but HA it's not, at all. But I love it so much I never sent it back. Like so much of my wardrobe, I hung it up and ignored it! but.. to fit into it would be incredible.

@Iwouldratherbesinging I think we have a lot in common.
DH and I met at 17 and I have pretty much put a stone on a year since then, 15 years ago.
He fancies me more now! He's absolutely mad!

There is a lot of childhood stuff at play for me too. A step parent that picked on me for being fat and using food as a form of abuse. My whole family have a "you aren't worth anything if you aren't thin" kind of attitude and my Mother restricted what I ate from a young age. Siblings got treats and I didn't because I was the "fat one". I started to sneak them in the end.
Even now, I'm proud of the family I have created and the husband I have and our boys doing their best, I have a job I love, even if I can only work minimal hours right now. But none of that matters because I'm 27st.
Lots to unpack, I think very few people are morbidly obese because "we just enjoy food".
I'm not speaking for everyone, but that's how I feel in general.

I have so many mini goals, I need something within reach every few weeks to keep me motivated. I have 6 main interim weight goals, each is 10% less than the one before. I am currently a couple of pounds away from interim goal 3, which is 221lbs or 100kg. I also have various important events that are upcoming, with projections for what weight/BMI I hope to be by those points, based on average weight lost per week. I have a detailed spreadsheet!

I also have a detailed spreadsheet, with graph :D It calculates weight lost that week (in kg and lb's), BMI, and over all weight lost. I avoided scales for the first 3 months, but have found a balance that my brain is happy with (weigh once a week only, when I do the next jab).

Are you me? I also had/have a violent step parent who treated me like I was something he stepped on, I had food used as a carrot on a stick type of thing and it was restricted. I can remember stealing food such as slices of bread that wouldn’t be missed from a very young age. My mother telling me I was fat and no one could ever love me for years. I have cut all ties with them.
I too am very proud of my family, I always say that I thank my mother and step father for showing me how not to be a parent.
you CAN do this, I believe in you 😊

Mini goals work for me too.
First is to weigh this Christmas what I did last Christmas (18st7lbs) and I think that one is in reach now.
Next is to be below 18 stone but I'm going to combine that with what I did at the start of covid, which is 17st 8lbs.
If that'll goes to plan I think the next would be around 15st, which was my starting weight when I lost about 4st a decade ago.
The old adage about eating an elephant one bite at a time definitely applies for me.

@iwouldratherbesinging wow. Alot of similarities.
I have gone low contact, DH (who is an amazing and understanding Dad to our boys) just cannot understand why I still bother. But sometimes I feel like it wasn't THAT bad, but I'm probably kidding myself.
Probably some weird guilt thing.

I just want to be the best Mom I can be for my boys, and I think I'm doing okay, other than the excess weight.
Ofc my weight does affect their lives and I just want to be able to enjoy more with them. I'm a sidelines Mom, and sometimes my health is so bad that I can't do things.
I had to miss sports day earlier in the year because I knew I wouldn't be able to stand and walk around the field for 2 hours. And I worry about the tiny little chairs they put out for parents evening.

Yup "difficult" family here. Still ongoing and completely unfair how it affects you long term. I never knew healthy relationship with food or myself. Parents who weren't capable of parenting.

Similarly so proud of my little family.
Both my kids are ND (and I'm waiting fro assessment)

And yes I hate parenting from the sidelines. And my walking stamina has got less and less and I can't do anywhere that relies on standing. Even Shopping...

My DH and children have been on holiday without me their entire lives according to the holiday photos! How sad that is. I have been better the last couple of years but it is so hard having my photo taken ever!

I started at 22 stone exactly at the very end of August and am now a couple of lbs off a 3 stone loss so I'm pleased as this is the most weight I've lost in one go before. Mounjaro has definitely given me hope I can reach a healthy weight. I haven't quite decided what I'd like to get to but it may not be the official healthy weight, just healthier than I've ever been as an adult!

@BookishBabe just a heads up that code sharing for providers isn't allowed in threads but there is a dedicated thread for it so pop yours on there and you might get lucky!

@tidydancer oops, is there a reason why? I did see one that said not to share elsewhere, but I thought the OP just wanted all the referrals 🤣 hopefully if mumsnet decide to delete they can keep the rest of my message.
Aside from that, well done on your weight loss, that's amazing 👏🏻 I'm not aiming for a healthy BMI, just healthier and happier. I haven't been 11st since I was 12! I don't think it'll suit me and I have a nice figure at around 15st (all ass and hips and small waist). I also think if I don't lose too much my skin might not be as bad. But my main target will probably change depending on how I feel.

@2025istheyear I know! I've been on no days out of holidays, funny that? 🤣
It's so sad though 😞

@FatsiaJaponicaInTheGarden It's so crap. About 2 or 3 years ago I was 22st and was running around soft play with them both. I enjoyed it and felt healthy, though I was 29.
I started getting shortness of breath and fatigue and i couldn't do anything. I stopped running round the soft play, no more walks in the park, just felt like crap all the time. It took a while to get to the GP and sort it, it was really as simple as an iron vitamin deficiency! But the damage was done, the lack of activity made my weight shoot up another 5 stone.

Thank you @BookishBabe 🙂 I'm happy to take it steady and just see where I get to tbh. It hasn't felt difficult at all thankfully and I've not had any major side effects to date which has made the whole thing that much easier! I just don't know who I am or what I'll look like without the fat. 😂

Re the code thing, I think it's mostly because when mounjaro started to get popular people were absolutely spamming every thread with the codes and people got fed up so asked for the rule to be put in place. It's difficult because everyone wants their code used but I can imagine it was annoying for everyone else. This was all before I started using this board though so I'm not sure how bad it got!

@tidydancer I researched saxenda last year or the start of this year (who remembers in December? 😅) and decided I could do it on my own.
I didn't!
I havent been "slimmer" since I was 23, and even that was around 17stone! Maybe I'll look old, or weird, I don't know anymore.
Thankfully, I don't think I look 27 stone, but i don't look 10 stone either 🤣
What mg are you on, if you don't mind me asking?

Because I didn't start mounjaro until last week and didn't use mumsnet as my main research tool, I didn't know the drama related to the code thing, but i do get it. I just figured why not, I'm bloody skint before Christmas and need to buy my next one between now and then and figured it was worth a shot. But I definitely don't want to step on any toes.

Put your code on the dedicated thread for it, there's a few people that have had it used from there so definitely worth a try!

I'm currently on 5mg. I did three pens of 2.5mg as I was getting good semi-suppression on it so didn't feel the need to move up too quickly. I'm not one of the people who want total suppression though, I'm mindful that I want to teach myself good habits that are propped up by the medication rather than totally relying on it if that makes sense! I still get hungry sometimes but it's not all consuming and the food noise has completely quietened. I've had takeaways and cake and crisps at various points but not gone mad whereas before it would've been game over with any of those things!

@tidydancer well done 👏🏻
No such luck for me. No appetite suppression yet. Only on the 2nd week of 2.5mg, no side effects either but mostly using willpower and the fear of shitting myself or throwing up if I eat things I shouldn't.
I have been doing very well on my calorie control and have been eating better, but its still not been easy.

I was the same in the first few weeks, in hindsight it was 50% the medication and 50% fear of side effects! I spent at least two weekends doing nothing other than sitting indoors in case I was struck by a sudden side effect! Some people don't get suppression until much higher doses and I think it will feel different for everyone anyway.

@tidydancer I did have a much smaller portion of a roast dinner on Sunday. Got some melt in the middle puddings for my children who took one look at them and said "nope!" and I didn't eat them! They went in the bin, which is a shame because of the waste, but at least i wasn't the human bin. So who knows if that was willpower or the mounjaro.
But, unless something changes dramatically in the next week, it'll be 5mg next time.

@BookishBabe with regards to food waste. I used to do Lighter Life, I, sure we've all done everything, and my counsellor said ' the waste occurred when you bought it. Don't make it worse by eating it' and that had stuck with me, maybe 20 years or more. So well done, chuck it out

@doggymummar that's my DHs philosophy on a lot of things. I need to use it more. We took our DC to cbeebies land at alton towers, within 5 minutes it was evident that they couldn't handle it. The queues! The noise! DH said "that £100 is gone, it's not coming back, we can go home and calm the boys down, or we can stay here in some vain attempt to feel like it wasn't a waste." We went home, and I have trying to see that side of things more.