No kids allowed at the wedding is on father's day!

[IrisRuby]

My husband is best man at his close friends wedding and for years we always thought they would be kids at the wedding as our friends do like kids.

Last year I was at a wedding with this couple and the wedding we went to had no kids (apart from close family children) but did allow babies and I over heard the bride to be tell DH close friend" well I think it was very good of her to allow babies because I'm telling you now I'm not" I was abit taken back by this.

several months went by and no mention of if kids were allowed which I found odd because normally people would know well in advance if not to arrange child care. I just sent a text saying I'm looking at booking a hotel are the kids coming so I know how many to book for just to see if they were allowed. I got a text back saying nothing under teens allowed as I want everybody to enjoy a day with their partner and she said she doesn't think it would be child friendly.

I was upset by this and so was my kids as we have been talking about the wedding for so long all of our other friends going are also gutted by this too. To make matters worse I've just realised that it falls on father's day. My husband is great dad and we are both big on spending time together as a family.

My husband friend has to run everything past her she is very much the boss. So it's no surprise he has had no input into the wedding, but I just thought of all days why fathers day with no kids allowed. We both agree it's going to taint the day for us now.

So many of these threads. Bride's wish. Either go or decline.

Not just you some others just leave it I said I regret putting the post up and trying to delete the thread.

@IrisRuby I have read through most of the thread and can't recall anyone being abusive towards you or swearing - although I may have missed it. You can always report a poster to mumsnet if you feel their response breaches the site rules.

If you are not going, why are you annoyed? Just don’t go and move on.

Are you okay? Please don't get upset. Just ignore this thread if people are being rude. You can report posts who are swearing at you, if they are.

So many nasty comments on here, I'm sorry OP

I can see both sides, I'm the same as you I wouldn't want to leave my baby either and would decline

If I were you I'd just abandon the thread now, you don't need this x

but i have not said anything nasty or sweary

you must be confusing me with another poster!!

Could you tell me how to do it please. I dont know I'm new to Mumsnet

This. ^

LOL, exactly! Some people are so full of themselves, and think they and their wedding are the most important thing going on in anyone's life that year! 😆

All holidays are "made up." Some that may not be meaningful to you may be meaningful to others.

I wouldn't be going. I don't do child-free weddings.

The bride has not exactly been helpful or clear in her communication though.

Just report your first post@IrisRuby yourself, and put in the message field 'please can you delete this thread? It has got out of hand with some people being nasty.'

Sorry you feel this way. Some people are so rude to people who start a thread. It's a wonder anyone bothers anymore!

I must admit I don't subscribe to the "it's their day" school of thought. A wedding is not just all about the bride and groom. It's also about the two families joining together and being a good host to the guests.

The bride doesn't sound like she likes her husband to be very much either TBH.

And THAT comment has just proven the OP's point. Fuxake!

@RampantIvy · Today 18:13

I must admit I don't subscribe to the "it's their day" school of thought. A wedding is not just all about the bride and groom. It's also about the two families joining together and being a good host to the guests.

100% this! ^

So fucking arrogant, like your whole routine and habits are going to be changed for her sodding wedding. No baby of mine would be staying with a sitter for a pretentious "child-free" wedding.

The bride doesn't sound like she likes her husband to be very much either TBH
What a ludicrous comment.

@misszebra if you're really that much of a bitch YOU should get off the internet.

@IrisRuby ignore, half of these people it has nothing to do with you or what you're saying, they just use MN as a place to work off their aggression.

will you decline child free weddings when your children are adults?

Don’t then.

Quite simple

In my social circle/family there are usually only a small number of kids at weddings ie the close relatives of the bride/groom (nieces & nephews, god children). On MN it seems that all guests expect to bring their kids ! Weddings are a small fortune & not the most fun for kids so I think expecting all guests to be able to bring their offspring is a bit much! Only one or two wedding have been completely child free but most have only a few. I have never expected my kids to be included except at my siblings weddings!

Have you read all of the OP's posts?
Most couples send out wedding invitations from themselves as a couple. The bride has sent out invitations to everyone she wants to invite and left her husband to be to do his. Don't you think this is unusual?

Yeah I bet most of these people who "don't agree with childfree weddings" wouldn't have refused to attend them before they had children. It's only when it affects them that they make a fuss.