No kids allowed at the wedding is on father's day!

[IrisRuby]

My husband is best man at his close friends wedding and for years we always thought they would be kids at the wedding as our friends do like kids.

Last year I was at a wedding with this couple and the wedding we went to had no kids (apart from close family children) but did allow babies and I over heard the bride to be tell DH close friend" well I think it was very good of her to allow babies because I'm telling you now I'm not" I was abit taken back by this.

several months went by and no mention of if kids were allowed which I found odd because normally people would know well in advance if not to arrange child care. I just sent a text saying I'm looking at booking a hotel are the kids coming so I know how many to book for just to see if they were allowed. I got a text back saying nothing under teens allowed as I want everybody to enjoy a day with their partner and she said she doesn't think it would be child friendly.

I was upset by this and so was my kids as we have been talking about the wedding for so long all of our other friends going are also gutted by this too. To make matters worse I've just realised that it falls on father's day. My husband is great dad and we are both big on spending time together as a family.

My husband friend has to run everything past her she is very much the boss. So it's no surprise he has had no input into the wedding, but I just thought of all days why fathers day with no kids allowed. We both agree it's going to taint the day for us now.

If it doesn't suit you don't go, all that other stuff about being late and her having a 3 course meal is nonsense and irrelevant. As for child free weddings being a new trend, I had one 37 years ago, no regrets.

Her husband doesn’t sound like he’s under anyone’s control and since he made a mess of your wedding maybe you have a bit of resentment towards him.

If his wife to be got a three course meal at your wedding it doesn’t mean she has to have the type of wedding you want but maybe you have a bit of resentment towards her as well.

That’s alright but maybe you and your family might like a nice day out together instead of the wedding ?

But it is strange when they wonder why you aren’t going.

We had this - all our family were invited and going. PIL were away. Not sure who they assumed I’d be leaving DS with…

Personally I wouldn’t have dreamed of saying no kids. Some opted not to bring theirs but others couldn’t have come as they would have had no one to look after their DC. They were no trouble at all.

I was speaking to her to say why I wasn't going.....I wasn't after an invitation for the baby.

JC calm down

It's their day, tough, suck it up.

such a massive over reaction, you are making the wedding about you and its not. fathers day is just another day. 🙄

yes

but you said she wasn’t clear initially that your son was invited

he any invited initially
but given he was the reason you couldn’t come… she said he could join

can you not see that?

having no kids at a wedding is not a new trend. I personally think it is more than fair to not want someone elses children running around on her own wedding day. Admit it or not - the moment any event allows children, it becomes all about children. You shouldnt have riled your kids up, and I find it odd that you can't go a day without BF a baby.
If I were the bride id think you were a shit friend and selfish.

Just rude

and I declined as I had a six month old baby. When I spoke to the bride she said, well bring the baby

She wanted you to come
and if that meant your baby coming too.. she would could join too

My niece did, but it contained useful information about the location, times etc.

Wedding on Father's Day I do find odd, most people will have other plans.

@KomodoOhno I disagree, and TBH, a wedding would trump father's day anyway.

but I can't help but find it this latest trend no kids doesn't sit right with me

As people are older when they get married these days, more of the friend guests are likely to have children. Besides, you aren't a small family with four children. I agree that not allowing a breastfed baby is not on though.

So, the bride has only invited the guests that she wants to invite, won't invite her inlaws and has left invitations for her husband to be's side for him to do? They aren't a team are they?

Aren't wedding invitations meant to be from the couple, not a his and hers effort?

I don't give this marriage much of a chance TBH.

i’m on tenterhooks

who is that aimed at?!!

Aimed at you

Although you haven't done it throughout this whole thread, the point is to tag people when you are referring to their posts so they and everyone else knows who you are talking about. Obviously as other posts will be posted whilst you are conducting yours then your post will not be immediately underneath the one you think you are replying to.

I regret putting this post up I'm new to Mumsnet. I had some fair responses, but some are awful nasty is a understatement. I'm sure some people come on here just to be a troll

not everyone who disagrees with you is a 'troll' if you post on here expect opinions. otherwise don't post!

which one?! i’m genuinely intrigued because all i’ve said is… stop navel gazing about something you can’t change

@JudgeJ · Today 13:02

Surely you mean 'her way', she sounds to be bullying her way through this, hopefully her fiance will LTB before she starts to manage the rest of his life too! Any woman who refers to 'my wedding' deserves to be dumped or it will be 'my house' and 'my baby'.

WTAF?! 😆

Way to blame the woman for it all. FFS! Is the groom-to-be so utterly spineless and dopey and pathetic that he has NO control whatsoever over his OWN wedding?

Don't talk such rot!

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Oh believe me I'm not going to anymore. Lesson learnt!

Has anyone been ruder to you than you have been about the bride, do you think?

I don't think I have seen anything that nasty towards you in this thread. People have different opinions to you and have voiced them. Entirely normal I would say.

Please don't take it to heart. In my experience child free weddings are unusual, but I got married at 22, and most of my friends were young when they got married so none of my friends or their friends had children, so the only children that were there were from the families. I went to family weddings as a child BTW.

I'm also amazed at the number of mumsnetters who have hundreds of friends. I had just 4 friends at my wedding, the rest was family.

I said I don't mind fair responses, but swearing at me and been abusive no need for that..some people not everyone on here but some have been very aggressive

i have not sworn at you or abused you and yet you call me nasty?!

I have been teary reading this please stop it. I said I regret putting the post up.