We were supposed to get married during Covid - we rescheduled a few times, but then decided to scrap it given the uncertainty, and start our family instead.
We now have our 2 DC, and planning to have a Christening ceremony for 2nd DC this summer.
DP still wants us to have a big wedding, however I really don't anymore - I think the stress of planning a series of different weddings for various dates / circumstances through lockdown has taken the joy completely out of it for me, and I just want to get married without having a big run up / it being a big conversation / consuming event again!
I'd like to have a small ceremony in secret with just immediate family, DP would still like to celebrate properly with an extended guest list. Both our families are huge, so our original wedding guest list was around 200. With 2 DC and now looking to move house, financially I don't think we can prioritise the wedding we once planned.
About 100 of our wedding guest list attended our first DC's christening - many people who (politically) "had" to be invited couldn't or didn't attend, given it was a weekend church service.
WIBU to invite everyone to 2nd DC's christening but start it with a wedding ceremony, without telling anyone in advance? I think this could be a good compromise - low key with no one knowing in advance, and low cost - but still a church and a white dress and those present who make the effort to show up for our kids.
I have my dress, our rings, etc. I'd imagine again similar numbers would attend. We would organise a low key afterparty with buffet - not a sit down meal. But likely would finish about teatime.
Can't decide if I'm being insane! Or indeed what the day might look like in terms of logistics, who should know, etc.