Would you be horrified if you had to stand up

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And eat dessert at a wedding?!

Current 'debate' between my mum and I. We're getting married at a venue with two spaces and need to clear out of the dining space so they can reset for the band and dancing.

My idea is that we move into a second room after the main course and have stand up dessert in small bowls or pots alongside teas and coffees. Mother dearest things is a terrible idea as there will be no tables in this room so how will people cope with eating and standing and heaven forbid holding a cup of tea for 30 mins.

Thoughts?

I think @Allmyarseandpeggymartin has a good idea with the sweetie table when the guests arrive back in.

Someone else suggested people stand for the speeches - please don’t do this. I think that would be terrible.

I’d change venue to somewhere more practical. In fact I wouldn’t have considered it in the first place!

It can be spoken about for years.
I went to a wonderful wedding FIVE years ago!
Anytime the wedding or any wedding is mentioned the first thing said by myself, husband, and the large group of friends who attended is how there were 5 best men. Who all did a very long spree chi each BEFORE the meal.
We were starving and losing the will to live.

The entire day was stunning. The venue, the outfits. The evening was perfect. But none of that is ever mentioned. Just the one cock up that is still talked about.

OP, you must know that people remember the good and the bad weddings.

Any wedding where you have your first 2 courses sitting down, then get kicked out for your dessert isn’t going to be remembered for the right reasons.

It’s just a bit naff and looks like you’ve either planned so badly you ran out of time or weren’t bothered about your guests and just wanted to suit your agenda so worked to timings that suited you and no one else

As others have said, the only possible way it could work is with a ‘quirky’ dessert like an ice cream van or sweet station but then you’ll likely have trouble getting the guests back in the room

A lemon posset outside really isn’t going to work!

My husband goes to many weddings in the industry.

Room turnarounds do not take long and he's never seen a wedding where guests take deserts to another room and stand with them.

People like to eat whilst relaxed and having to get up and eat dessert alot of people wouldn't enjoy.

You could if you worried about times bring you meal a little forward so your more relaxed.

We ourselves got married at 2
Had speeches at 4.30 then meals came out about 5ish. We were all wrapped up eating by 6.30.

The evening guests were not expected until 7.30 so lots of time to turn the room about for the evening.

Instead of a proper pudding do pudding canapes. Little profiteroles, cubes of brownie, pieces of fruit on cocktail sticks.. that sort of thing. Bitesize morsels that are taken around on trays. Also perhaps more fizz as well instead of tea and coffee. No one wants to balance a cup on a saucer when standing up. It's uncomfortable all 'round.

But it's not just the dessert. People like time to relax after a meal. Are people literally going to finish their meal and be pushed out.

Agree people talk about the bad weddings! Someone I know had a really lovely picturesque wedding - all in a field, very rustic and DIY'd - the pictures look like something off Pinterest, it's lovely.

Except the only seating was hay bales. Nothing else in the entire field. By the end of the day everyone over the age of 25 was dying for some lumbar support!

"suggested a public execution of my mother in law as the after dinner entertainment"

Mother in law? MN would applaud you for that thread You should have done that thread, everyone would be applauding you and making suggestions about handing out free knitting kits as wedding favours...

Shame I'm already married

I think, if I were you, I'd just have dessert and tea/coffee at the tables and then during the 30 mins people will probably go to the toilet, play on their phones, go out for a smoke or whatever. Have tea and coffee available in the side room for those who want it, but not food.

I think that's a more usual way to do things.

Actually I feel a bit of sympathy for you OP, you've basically had hundreds of people say "your wedding sounds shit"

I'm sure it will all work out OK and be lovely.

Little profiteroles, cubes of brownie, pieces of fruit on cocktail sticks.. that sort of thing. Bitesize morsels that are taken around on trays.

I like profiteroles, but I wouldn't want to eat them as finger food, especially if I was wearing a posh frock.

Nobody has said the OP's wedding sounded shit - just that one proposed element of it wasn't a good idea

I've been to lots of events where this is standard. You just don't eat and drink at the same time.

Not just that it's not a good idea, it's just not necessary. And the reality is, people do remember the quirky/unusual/bad bits of weddings as well as the good. One I recall which was no expense spared, had stunning flowers, amazing band, hundreds of brilliant elements, but only offered one arrival drink and one top up but had us standing for 90 mins while the B&G went off for photos. Bad planning. Twice I've been to weddings where you leave the main room once after the ceremony and again after the meal. There is nothing wrong with moving rooms while they change the room around. You don't need more of a reason to move such as crazy stand up juggling glasses and eating puddings.

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Chic OMG. Read the room as poor OP is having to do . Lighthearted!

Just NO, I would be peeved standing. Why not let people eat pud then move to the other room for refreshments in which time the other room can be set up for dancing etc

I suspect there’s another element of the wedding which means the timings are really tight, hence this issue.

Maybe something like the long photo gap mentioned above or a long distance between church and venue

That doesn’t bode well!

I appreciate those who didn't respond as if I'd suggested a public execution of my mother in law as the after dinner entertainment.

Repost this as an AIBU and I think you’d have far more favourable results!