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Would you be horrified if you had to stand up

170 replies

Elbels · 07/01/2020 12:15

And eat dessert at a wedding?!

Current 'debate' between my mum and I. We're getting married at a venue with two spaces and need to clear out of the dining space so they can reset for the band and dancing.

My idea is that we move into a second room after the main course and have stand up dessert in small bowls or pots alongside teas and coffees. Mother dearest things is a terrible idea as there will be no tables in this room so how will people cope with eating and standing and heaven forbid holding a cup of tea for 30 mins.

Thoughts?

OP posts:
PickAChew · 07/01/2020 12:29

I can't just stand for 30 minutes, no. I doubt if all of your older guests can, either.

8by8 · 07/01/2020 12:30

I can’t stand for that long, but only my very closest friends would be aware of that. You may not know everything about other people’s health conditions.

Beansandcoffee · 07/01/2020 12:30

I’ve never been to a wedding where that has happened and I’ve been to a lot of weddings. Sounds messy and not something I would like. Handbag, glass of wine, plate, coffee cup just too much without small children circulating or trying to stand and talk to people.

Clangus00 · 07/01/2020 12:31

I would hate that!

coffeeandgin26 · 07/01/2020 12:33

No - I'm likely to be wearing heels or other shoes that don't make it comfortable to stand up for that long. When I eat, I want to be sitting down and comfortable

BelfastNonBlonde · 07/01/2020 12:34

I wouldn’t mind the moving and having dessert and tea/coffee/drinks in the other room, but I think you would need to make sure there were tables / place to set stuff so people aren’t trying to juggle.

The idea of just passing around trays of dessert “bites” is fine in my view.. brownies, profiteroles, cake, sweets etc. Things that are easy to eat in on go and not messy

Megan2018 · 07/01/2020 12:35

I’d hate it. Been to loads of weddings where room is re-set, people just move out to the other space after meal and drink and mingle.

BlackCatSleeping · 07/01/2020 12:35

Would there be no chairs at all in the other room? I think it’s fine if there are chairs but no tables but it’s not fun if everyone has to stand the whole time.

Puta · 07/01/2020 12:35

I'm afraid I'd just walk out and go to the pub. Expecting your guests to stand up for 30 minutes in the middle of a meal so that a room can be reset is literally the opposite of good hosting.

MarySidney · 07/01/2020 12:36

And it's not just about standing. Someone with a bit of arthritis in their hands may not be able to hold a cup and saucer for any length of time, and would need to be able to put it down.

damnthatanxiety · 07/01/2020 12:38

How does one eat from a small plate/bowl (two hands) and hold a drink (1 hand for a glass, 2 hands for a cup and saucer) at the same time? That's a minimum of 3 hands possible 4 required.

saraclara · 07/01/2020 12:39

I've never come across this before. At the weddings I've been to, people just move to a bar area where tea and coffee are provided, or of the weather's good, chat with friends in the garden/outdoor area. It's no issue at all. The venue will have all this in hand. It's what they do.

Notso · 07/01/2020 12:40

This is why I discounted several otherwise lovely venues. I hate the hanging around bit while they flip the rooms at weddings.

LookToTreblesGoingTreblesGone · 07/01/2020 12:43

No, I'd hate it. Holding a drink, but then also holding a pot of lemon posset and a spoon requires 3 hands.
Also, although I look fit and able I have back problems and find standing for even half an hour very uncomfortable. I'm afraid you'd find me perching on a coffee table or leaning on a wall.

Bad idea, and I'm with your mum all the way.

ThePluckOfTheCoward · 07/01/2020 12:43

Terrible idea moving everyone into an empty room with no seating or tables, how are you supposed to drink coffee and eat pudding at the same time?

ginghamtablecloths · 07/01/2020 12:45

I think 'horrified' is putting it rather strongly but it's certainly more comfortable to eat while sitting down at a table. I'd feel a bit peeved if I was expected to move before I'd finished eating.

KatherineJaneway · 07/01/2020 12:46

I wouldn't like it, finish your meal then move and set up.

Beautiful3 · 07/01/2020 12:47

Your mother is right. I would hate to eat whilst, standing up. Imaging holding a clutch bag, cup/saucer and a cake?!!

anon2000000000 · 07/01/2020 12:48

If I like the dessert, I don't care if I'm standing or sitting to eat it but be prepared for plenty of people not to do it.

SF1269 · 07/01/2020 12:50

Would hate having to stand for desert, after a nice large meal it is nice to sit back and relax over desert and tea.

Listen to your mother on this occasion.

Batqueen · 07/01/2020 12:51

I hate nowhere to sit when eating. Type 1 diabetic and it’s a pita to try and juggle a testing kit and a handbag and a drink and food, plus it’s really obvious and strangers find it a great conversation opener to ask what I’m doing.

nonetcurtains · 07/01/2020 12:51

Ha ha, you have reminded me of a recent wedding I attended where this happened. I have to use my wheelchair for events like this (although I do still have limited use of my legs), and I ended up 'holding' four side plates of cake on my lap for other guests, so essentially I became a handy table!

Artesia · 07/01/2020 12:51

Don’t forget that lots of women at the wedding will be in heels, and juggling clutch bags too.

Blackberrybunnet · 07/01/2020 12:51

I'd be afraid all the oldies will simply refuse to move and that will upset your plans.

Brakebackcyclebot · 07/01/2020 12:52

Nope. Shift your timings so you can eat 3 courses sitting down at a table.