Would you be horrified if you had to stand up

[Elbels]

And eat dessert at a wedding?!

Current 'debate' between my mum and I. We're getting married at a venue with two spaces and need to clear out of the dining space so they can reset for the band and dancing.

My idea is that we move into a second room after the main course and have stand up dessert in small bowls or pots alongside teas and coffees. Mother dearest things is a terrible idea as there will be no tables in this room so how will people cope with eating and standing and heaven forbid holding a cup of tea for 30 mins.

Thoughts?

Going against the grain here but your wedding is about what you and your DP want! If you're happy with this option go with it, I would stick with finger food and like you said no one has health issues. Your guests may not like it but so what. If you were offering them a free alcoholic/soft drink instead of a free pudding no one would bat an eye at standing up for 30 minutes.
Your wedding your choice!!

Well I wouldn’t be “horrified”, but I’d think it was weird and awkward.

I would happily stand with a drink and chat but I would hate to eat my dessert whilst standing. Your DM is correct.

Nope, not for me. Just bloody awkward.

I'd hate it, mostly because I'd be wearing very uncomfortable shoes in a bid to look good so totally my fault!

I hate venues like this when you're in and out of the same tiny room all day for ceremony, lunch and then party. Your mum is absolutely right. Drinks might be just about acceptable.. dessert, no way.

I'd hate it. A drink is fine standing up with waiters coming round with canapés, but no way trying to juggle a cup of tea and a dessert.

And if it's a wedding with a sit down meal the whole meal should be sit down. Sounds like it's not the right venue for you.

I wouldn't like this and I'm generally pretty laid-back about weddings. A cup of tea and a pudding is too much fiddle.

OP don't have that wedding that everyone talks about for years to come for all the wrong reasons.

To a previous question no pregnant (yet) guests or people with health conditions that mean they couldn't stand.
I presume this wedding is some way in the future? And that all the guests have fully disclosed their medical history?
I might have disliked standing six months ago. Since then I had a serious (and not obvious) health diagnosis which I have not publicised. I could barely stand for 5 minutes.

"Mother dearest" and "heaven forbid"? Looks like you were convinced you were right.

I'd be thinking that something had gone wrong if I were ushered out of my seat and asked to stand holding my pudding, coffee, wine and bag. Very odd.

Totally agree with what everyone is saying, Change to allow dessert in the main dining room. Also serve tea and coffee at this time too, this would be the norm now. Have been to a lot of weddings and will have my own this year, i personally hate the weddings that make you leave the room to set up for the band. I nearly never go back into the room, stay in the bar. For this reason i made sure my venue does not do this at all, it will just open another end of the room with the dance floor at the end, that way no will have to leave the room. But this was my choice after experiemcing many weddings i new exactly what i wanted and what i didn't want.

Sounds grim and awful.

How do you envisage someone holding a cup of tea and eating a lemon posset with a spoon at the same time?

Your mother is right.

Adjourn for tea/coffee after the meal.

Nope. Listen to your mother.

Agree with BareGrylls on this one... I assume you’ve fully vetted the entire medical history of your guests, placed a ban on anyone attending who had experienced a change in said health or anyone who has had the temerity to fall pregnant?

To look at, on most days you wouldn’t know that I am disabled; unless you are an extremely close personal friend I wouldn’t tell you either (most of my family don’t know for instance). It would take every ounce of my energy to simply attend your wedding, but if I had stand for a significant period of time that I’m afraid we would simply not attend, or attend for the ceremony only and then leave.

If you want to continue with your plan, then at least have the decency to warn your guests in advance so that they can decide whether they can attend or not. Don’t put them on the spot like that.

Mother knows best!

I would imagine people saying that the venue had cocked up the timings and telling other people to avoid booking anything there.

What will happen is lots of waste because people won't bother taking up the dessert or drinks if they have to stand about.

Christ this isn't aibu, there's some pretty harsh responses to what I wrote as a pretty light-hearted post.

If you went to a wedding where you had to stand for 30 minutes to have a brownie bit you would walk out the wedding to go to a pub? You'd talk about this wedding for years to come because of how awful it was?

Points taken on board and I appreciate those who didn't respond as if I'd suggested a public execution of my mother in law as the after dinner entertainment.

We asked everyone to vacate to the bar “where mr and mrs Peggy will cut the cake” whilst the room was changed over for the band.

When our guests got into the bar a huge sweetie buffet had been set up with our wedding cake (which was cupcakes and a single cutting cake) in the middle.

Maybe something like this would work?

Why ask if your response was always going to be 'I don't give a fuck, gonna do what I want anyway'? I'd probably wander off to the bar area. Wouldn't bother with the dessert of the hot drink so it would be wasted.

OP this might not be an aibu but you are.

And your responses aren't reasonable either.

The pudding needs to be something that can be consumed one handed, so mouth-sized bites of something off a buffet or circulating waiters.

You also need enough chairs that the disabled, pregnant, elderly etc can use - more than you think. I have a serious back problem but few know about it, unless we're very close. Standing for me is actually more painful than walking around for a complicated reason to do with my ligaments. Some days standing still for more than 3 minutes can cause me a major pain flare up.

I'm not going to do what I want anyway, I have actually found the outcry really helpful.

We're meeting our caterer in the next few weeks so will work through options and will take alternative suggestions on board. It's my first and hopefully only wedding and I want us and our guests to have the most enjoyable time possible.