Would you be horrified if you had to stand up

[Elbels]

And eat dessert at a wedding?!

Current 'debate' between my mum and I. We're getting married at a venue with two spaces and need to clear out of the dining space so they can reset for the band and dancing.

My idea is that we move into a second room after the main course and have stand up dessert in small bowls or pots alongside teas and coffees. Mother dearest things is a terrible idea as there will be no tables in this room so how will people cope with eating and standing and heaven forbid holding a cup of tea for 30 mins.

Thoughts?

Could you maybe have a couple of the speeches standing up? That is a better focal point than dessert IMO. My dad did his speech standing up in the garden before we went to eat to get it over with and it was ace, felt really lovely and intimate to do it that way.

We had boxes of mini desserts on each table and people moved around a lot during our final course as it was easy to pop one into your mouth then carry on standing around chatting - brownie bites/mini macaroons etc. But even then people still had a space to leave their things, a table to put their drink down on and so on.

I'm inclined to agree with PP - pudding at the table, move into the other room for tea and coffee. I've been to plenty of weddings where you're needed to move so they can turn the room around, I wouldn't bat an eyelid at just mingling during that bit.

I personally dont have that much of a problem with it on principle, after all it's not a dissimilar idea to drinks and canapes, however, in that instance you generally need only one hand for a glass, not two for a cup and saucer, there are trays being circulated to put your empty glasses back onto and to take another from which wouldnt work well with hit drinks. There are often several tall tables to base yourself at and to put glasses on. Food is small bite size piceswich us continually brought to you rather than you going to get it.
Additionally you are not hurriedly jumping up after dinner which would be my big bug bear personally. I like to at least be able to get up without having to dash out of the room. People will also not be expecting it. In general people can sometimes quite bad at following when it's something out of the ordinary, even if it's not too odd, they can be perplexed and are seem often to be do bewildered it takes much longer to fo things than it would have done otherwise. Sometimes sticking to the convention is faster! (Consider you're settlrs and relaxed into dinner, had a couple of drinks,chatting away, subconsciously know how it's going to run then suddenly you're all geing dragged out without expecting it, it's a bit confusing).
It's actually very hard to clear a room at any kind of event though in fairness, how long is needed for the clear and re set @Elbels ? And how big is the other room with how many guests. Might be able to come up with some suggestions to help

I don’t get what all the fuss is about. Sure some people might need to sit- so have a few chairs available - but I don’t believe the bulk of the population need to. I’d do ice creams in cones for pudding! Easy to eat one handed.

OP I'm with your mum.
Bring the wedding forward 30mins so you have time to finish the meal.

I wouldn't be keen as I would be trying to balance a handbag, dessert, drink and possibly even a jacket/coat depending on venue arrangements. You would need a hand to hold a dessert and one for the spoon so unless you are an octopus I can see it being tricky and elderly people may find it difficult to stand for long.

"Mother dearest" is right.

Just ask the hotel/venue what they usually do in these situations, it's hardly going to be something they haven't come up against before.

God no. I’d find it annoying and awkward.

I’d manage and it wouldn’t spoil the day for me but I would prefer to at least have something to temporarily rest my glass on if needed.

I think many of your guests would find that uncomfortable/difficult.
You mum is right.

I'd most likely be cursing you for making me stand so long in whatever uncomfortable shoes I'd wedged my feet in

Anything that requires a spoon or a fork isn’t a great idea. If they were petit fours style desserts though that would be fine.

I agree with your Mum too. And don't be so rude about her.

I'd hate it, I always complain when I'm forced to eat standing up at work events, and they don't involve best clothes and uncomfortable shoes.

Your mum is right. No one wants to try and hold that much stuff. Also wierd to get up for dessert. I've never been to a wedding like that.

Are you in a position to have dessert later? Recent wedding I attended had an ice cream wagon outside after the party big began. Easy to eat as everyone’s was either in a cone or a cup! That’s a good solution

I think it's a bad idea for all the reasons given. If you don't like the idea of 'dead time' then why not have your speeches in the other room while they're resetting?

This is something I hate doing, standing up while eating. You have to hold the bowl, hold the spoon, hold your drink, have your bag on your arm, manage your scarf/cardi/shawl depending what you are wearing and I find it really stressful.

I wouldn’t like this at all. Firstly I hate standing to eat, and secondly I think sitting and sharing the (full) meal with everyone round a table is a big part of the day!
I have been to a lot of weddings (50+) and have never seen this happen.

It might be something you've done before OP but most weddings I've been to have always had a 'base' - e.g. allotted tables for guests to eat and drink what they want there - for me it's not so much about standing up to eat (which is a pain) but also worrying if I spill something on my dress etc, far more likelihood of standing and spilling a dessert onto a posh dress, bag etc and then finding it nigh on impossible to get out than if I'm sat down.

It's really weird to split the meal in half like that.

Starters and mains in one place, then EVERYBODY UP, ALL CHANGE! for dessert and coffees.

What is the problem with serving all courses, and inviting people to move into the other room after so you can redress it. Its not a big secret.

DM is right with her oar.

Rushed, faffy and I'd forgo dessert and coffee altogether wondering what the hell was going on. Won't work to just put up a few chairs as people will mob them. This venue sounds shit.

I would not be able to comfortably stand for 30 minutes ,and am probably not the only one TBH! I have a bad ankle which protests ,and with holding drinks and desserts as well would be most likely to drop something for sure!