Observations from a wedding

[SkeletonSkins]

In the style of the recent observations from lanzarote thread, I’d just like to make a few observations in the week that I am attending three weddings:

1. People care about the decor for about 5 minutes then ignore it.
2. People do care when it costs £10 for a gin (Northern England).
3. Getting married an hour from where you live is a bit of a pain as it’s a bit close to stay over but a bit far for easy transport.
4. Organising a minibus in the above situation is a great idea.
5. A lot of wedding stuff costs a lot but for very little return/enjoyment eg favours £100 for 10 seconds of ‘ooo very nice’
6. A happy bride dancing and enjoying herself fills the dance floor.
7. Wedding cake is very sweet.
8. You literally don’t see the brides shoes

I’ll be back with more from weddings 2 and 3.

At my cousin's wedding she had a photo frame with pics of a number of dearly missed relatives who had passed away. It was much more of a 'we'd have loved to share our special day with these folks but obviously can't' and it was slightly out of the way in the hall. It was a truly beautiful expression of love felt for these folks rather than anything tacky, on a day which is a celebration of love.

I think its a benefit to attend a fair few weddings before planning your own. It makes you realise what is important as a guest and what just gets forgotten.

I've not enjoyed ceilidh weddings particularly. It soon got boring for me.

I love our photos. We made the photo time much easier for our guests by having endless bottles of champagne and plenty of nibbles (a lot of which were chocolate!).

While the evening serving of bacon or sausage butties is popular, please remember your veggie guests - I've been to a couple where there's been nothing but a bread roll for me, which wasn't very exciting or filling!

I can't bear photo booths either, or sweetie stands.

I agree, decide what you like and want at your wedding and what isn't important- we weren't bothered about cars or the cake, and I would've loved to have scraped the first dance (should have!) as it worried me all day. My husband scraped the speeches because he's shy.

I won’t post too much detail about my wedding in a few weeks as I’m sure it’ll get slated (wanky pallet but thankfully no sweetie cart ) There’ll be pretty much unlimited food and free booze all afternoon/night

mishfish I love a wanky pallet

Don't have it at an outdoor venue where there is no seating for guests, only you and your family. Also where the only toilets are public toilets. And grim. Don't have one trestle table for the buffet. The queue for food will be 30 mins long.

I second make sure the guests are well fed.
Don't have it somewhere where the guests get ripped off at the bar.
DO HAVE A SEATING PLAN. I was separated from my dcs because some rude bastard refused to move and I was not going to cause a scene at a wedding.

OP - I don't get why you would do the advice cards on the table thing. It's awful. Spent half of a meal at a wedding recently trying to think of something to write. Much more pressure than a guest book. Nobody enjoyed it. And I suffered a blank so would be excluded from your book as I didn't fill it in.

The band/music is the most important thing.

And using your friends to help on the day but not asking them to be bridesmaids is annoying. They feel like slaves who can't enjoy the day as a normal guest. I bet they also did the usual duties of bridesmaid such as dress shopping, talking about centrepieces, hen do etc etc.

Hahaha i loved reading this! Made my morning (commute!)

This is awesome!

I’m looking at things to keep people occupied whilst we’re habing photos.... food and drink will be served/offered. Do we need something else?!

Friends of mine included a rsvp card with the invitation, and on it they’d requested you write your favourite dance floor song-I thought that was a great idea