Observations from a wedding

[SkeletonSkins]

In the style of the recent observations from lanzarote thread, I’d just like to make a few observations in the week that I am attending three weddings:

1. People care about the decor for about 5 minutes then ignore it.
2. People do care when it costs £10 for a gin (Northern England).
3. Getting married an hour from where you live is a bit of a pain as it’s a bit close to stay over but a bit far for easy transport.
4. Organising a minibus in the above situation is a great idea.
5. A lot of wedding stuff costs a lot but for very little return/enjoyment eg favours £100 for 10 seconds of ‘ooo very nice’
6. A happy bride dancing and enjoying herself fills the dance floor.
7. Wedding cake is very sweet.
8. You literally don’t see the brides shoes

I’ll be back with more from weddings 2 and 3.

I think unless you have the place strewn with barbed wire and landmines then flowers etc do look pretty but no one is going to be quietly seething if you just couldn't be arsed spending a Wednesday even ploughing through pinterest and instead you just ate a microwaved shepherd's pie in front of holby city

I love a ceilidh @chickacharlie as

1. They are energetic
2. They are fun
3. Non Celts love them and really get into the spirit
4. They are an amazing vehicle for success at getting off with hot guys (vigorous body contact plus flushed faces phwoar)

Wouhou yes sweets' point number four - except mine is more of a full frontal body slam that made Mr man keel over onto the floor.

4. They are an amazing vehicle for success at getting off with hot guys (vigorous body contact plus flushed faces phwoar)

Ahahaha I love this!

This is the kind of comment which makes me pine a bit for my young and single days. I love my OH dearly, but you know what I mean.

We didn’t have a seating plan and I was a bit worried about it but it ended up working well. On the ‘top table’ I was sat next to a 10 year old that I’ve looked after since he was a baby on one side, and a lovely old friend that I never see enough of on the other side. Opposite me was my husband and another close friend who lives far away. It was lovely having a random selection of people and actually having a proper catch up with people I don’t see enough. I also think it’s inportant to make people feel comfortable. Those who want to sit with their partners or friends can, and those who want to circulate a bit more and mingle will do. I hate being forced to sit three tables away from DH next to someone the B&G think I’ll want to talk to. I’d much rather actively seek out those people I want to chat to, and will have a better time as a guest that way.

The last wedding I went to, I was obviously sat at the table for pregnant women and new mums plus partners. I was still in the throws of sickness and not in the least bit interested talking about how glorious babies are for the entire evening. I just wanted a bloody bread roll and to talk about the newly married couple!

I hate being forced to sit three tables away from DH next to someone the B&G think I’ll want to talk to.

This is a bit odd, no?

We are putting everyone on the same table as their plus one, and everyone who isn't coming with a plus one with at least one other person they already know.

This is a bit odd, no?

I have been to quite a few weddings and other events where partners have been sat separately. MIL is a huge fan of separating couples for a seating plan. I think the idea is, you won’t branch out to socialise with others if you’ve got the comfort of your partner to talk to, but why would you want to force people to socialise if they don’t want to?

I always suspected no one gave a stuff about a seat cover. Cause surely the guests are the seat cover.

Guest books are hideous, as are videos. If I had a instant camera and got everyone to take a selfie is that just as bad?
I’m not having an official date photographer at the reception (mainly cause once I have one drink I turn into a sweaty blurry mess). Will have couple photos taken the next weekend by photographer friend - if the outfits survive.
So poloroid selfies?

I have been to quite a few weddings and other events where partners have been sat separately.

This is just bizarre.

You don't go to weddings to meet new people. You go to celebrate with the couple, and people you already know. That's why it is generally more fun going to a wedding (a) with a plus one and (b) where you already know plenty of other guests.

If you meet new people and hit it off with them then that's great and it adds to the whole experience. But that's not the primary purpose.

We are putting people with their partners and with people they are already friends with and will want to catch up with. I have a couple of guests who are coming without a partner and who don't know any of the other guests, and I plan to put them both on the same table, and with people they will have met on the hen do.

What do peoplw think of a "canoodle corner"?

I have seen things I cannot unsee

WTF is a "canoodle corner"?

Yes good question, I didn't know either until I saw grandad seemingly fishing out granny denture's...with his tongue!

I think it was meant to be a bit like a kissing booth.

But then the champagne started flowing and it turned into all sorts of wrong.

Please never require your guests to adhere to your “theme”. I had neither gold nor plum in my wardrobe. Buying a berry coloured dress I never wore again was expensive and aggravating.

Some more!

• Don't choose a them which has no connection - beach theme in Wigan or one that has no significance to the groom in fact just don't have a theme *Don't look at Pinterest *Don't have video messages filmed from friends and family and then edit the grooms family out of the final version nor make the said grooms family sit through the aforementioned wedding video even though they are not in it *Don't have a family history wedding PowerPoint showing happy family times of the now acrimoniously divorced parents especially when all new partners of acrimonious parents are present *Don't have big plans and expect the grooms (edited out) family to pay for it *Don't invite the brides aunties next door neighbors friend who isn't a real aunty anyway and then not have space for the groom's brothers girlfriend. Don't ask the brides friends Some more!
• Don't choose a them which has no connection - beach theme in Wigan or one that has no significance to the groom in fact just don't have a theme *Don't look at Pinterest *Don't have video messages filmed from friends and family and then edit the grooms family out of the final version nor make the said grooms family sit through the aforementioned wedding video even though they are not in it *Don't have a family history wedding PowerPoint showing happy family times of the now acrimoniously divorced parents especially when all new partners of acrimonious parents are present *Don't have big plans and expect the grooms (edited out) family to pay for it. *Don't invite the bride's aunty's next door neighbor's friend who isn't a real aunty anyway and then not have space for the groom's brothers girlfriend. *Don't ask the bride's friend's dad to do a reading instead of the groom's dad.
• Don't spend ages having photos especially when there are none of the grooms family

Bitter? Not a bit😂😉

I dislike the provision (initially auto correct made that 'prick vision' btw) of zany accessories such as giant sunglasses, glo-sticks etc to jazz up the dance floor. It's either fun, or is not. If it's not, wearing a sombrero won't help.

Perhaps my aversion to zany accessories dates back to a wedding I attended where me and my husband were both quite, shall we say, refreshed, and got into a fight because he insisted on wearing a comedy wig from the dress up box and I told him he looked stupid, so we had a drunken argument

@Esker I completely agree with this- it's all forced posey rubbish

I agree on the crappy accessories, especially in photo booths. Why is there always a lobster? I have never had a desire to pose for an overexposed photo with giant wacky glasses and a plastic lobster.

Huh, photo booths with zany accessories seem to be quite popular here!

Love this as I'm planning my wedding at the moment!

I hate those bloody accessories. Do you want to look nice, or not?

It always seems to be the most very boring people preferring them

@mintich - please no canoodle corner!!!

I once went to a wedding where you started off sitting next to your +1 but then after the starter all the women had to move round 1 place to sit next to a new person, and then again after the main course.
Don't do this!

thurmanmerman

My mum actually suggested this.

I said, "Mum, dinner isn't until 8:30. People are going to be far too drunk for that kind of nonsense!"

Wtf is with the crazy seating plan ideas. NO!!

I just think these extras are just not needed. Photo booths, I hate them, I’m sorry. People have phones now so take lots of lovely photos anyway. I don’t need a picture of my great nan in a sombrero.

Candy table is overdone. Nice to have food to pick at but cheap sweets just seem to cheapen the whole thing.

People at weddings like ‘the classics’ and by that I don’t mean lame dj classics. People aren’t really keen on the latest songs cause loads won’t know them. Equally once went to a wedding of a really cool couple who compiled a whole playlist of indie new music and the dance floor was empty cause no one knew it!

I hate to say it but I’m even over the lawn game and giant Jenga etc etc. Can’t people just chat and have fun naturally? I think I just hate forced fun.

I do think if your unsure about inviting someone, consider if they’ll be up dancing as a few really good dancing people gets the dance floor going.