"Please respect our beautiful day by not posting photos on social media"

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I've thought a lot about pictures of our wedding day doing the rounds on social media posted by the guests (if some of our family are anything to go by they will probably be online before the speeches) but, I've made my peace with it as I feel putting any sort of notice up (like the subject line above) has an air of 'fun police' about it. I saw this notice on a wedding 'for sale' post on Facebook Marketplace.

How do others feel about this? Are you bothered that pictures of you will be up and potentially seen by people you don't know? Do you care? Or if you are a user of social media would you rather be the 'first' to put a picture up of you and new husband/wife and let all the others then follow?

I'm not a huge sharer on Facebook, so envisage putting about 5 of the professional ones on my Facebook profile and keeping the rest private/for family and close friends to see only. But obviously the photographers photos will won't be ready until a few weeks after.

I find 'requests' that are impossible to police a bit laughable; if I saw that notice at a wedding I'd straight away think "what will they do if people do? take their phone from them? never speak to them again??" ... yet in an ideal world I wouldn't have guests share pictures of us (don't mind about themselves all dolled up) as its a 'private' celebration in the sense that its invite only, like all weddings I guess!

We asked for no photos of the ceremony, and for guests to not post anything until the next day. Which is quite reasonable I think.

I don't think I've ever seen wedding photos on SM except posted by the couple /parents.

Sometime people post pictures of themselves and their immediate family all dressed up at the wedding but not pictures of the wedding party. Surely you don't post pictures of others without permission in any circumstances, let alone their wedding, regardless of whether you've been asked not to?

I obviously have lovely FB friends, I almost never see any of the issues that others here seem to see regularly

I'd really really appreciate this.

I do post stuff to SM but my privacy is quite tight. There are people who i really dont want having pictures of me and my kids, but in my day to day life i don't and none i know has anything to do with them.

However I have a wedding coming up where there are guest who are still friends with people i really don't want having mine and my kids image. By the time it comes to tag review the pictures will already be on there timeline and out there.

Ive already caused some upset by trying to raise it. Im dreading the wedding as a result. Ive not told the Bride and groom cos i dont want to cause upset.

Unless they are really small affairs Weddings are melted pot of people you might not otherwise have social media contact with.

A simple request, if you post anything to social media please make sure you have the agreement of everyone in the image might really make the world of difference to some of your guests.

Fine to say no pics of bride and groom but I’d hate to ban my family and friends for taking and sharing photos of themselves all dressed up and with people they might not see regularly.

Not something I would do, but I can totally understand why others would.

One bitch guest at my wedding (girlfriend of DH's friend) posted only photos of me at the end of the night looking sweaty, dishevelled and a bit pissed - literally loads of them, in most i was mid-song/dance move so I looked totally deranged. They were the first pictures of my wedding to be publicly shared (before the reception had even finished 😡) and I looked bloody awful. She thought it was hilarious. The cow.

What a bitch pugwall I'd be fuming!!!

I'd never post pics before the bride and groom had, that's just wrong IMO. At my wedding no-one posted any of us til after we had (didn't have to ask!) But I know not all guests can help themselves. Wouldn't really have minded: as long as it was a nice pic 😂