To not want to "now kiss the bride"

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We're arguing about this. we got the script from the registrar to complete for the ceremony. Kissing at the end of the service is optional on the form. My thinking is that I want our first kiss as husband and wife to be private and personal not in front of 70 onlookers. He wants "tradition" when ffs it's 2017.

we didnt have it, i dont know why. we werent offered, it was never said, we already had children so that might be why as we had evidently already kissed. do you have dc?

It's only a kiss!

Yes we have kids already. I hate PDAs!!

i dont think i would want to either, it is since you are virginal and given away from your father to your husband.

We get married in 5 weeks, so thanks to OP we're discussing it now!!!

what is pda?

Public display of affection

Finally someone agrees with me, I thought I was the weird one.
That very intimate kiss in front of so many onlookers is just odd. Kiss on the cheeks is fine but no way french kissing! I would never French kiss in front of my family, I would die of embarrassment.

ah google said Pathological Demand Avoidance

dont do it op

Yes goat!! It's so weird! Why would you choose that first, special moment to be had in front of a crowd?!

I've never seen a French kiss at a wedding GoatFucker

Don't do it if you don't want, but a kiss on the lips isn't really a big deal. I think you're over thinking.

Totally mortifying.

Show some how my brain worked-I thought it was going to be about the patriarchal wording of it and you wanted to change it to 'you may now kiss each other'!

This is an American thing [cat's bum mouth] Inform your dh that if he wanted to marry an American he picked the wrong person. It's as much 'tradition' as having PBJs for the wedding breakfast.

We just had a quick peck on the lips. I don't think it was icky or embarrassing but it wasn't intimate or passionate either.

Lol cats bum mouth

AndNone...that's what I do want for our first kiss for it to be intimate and passionate as you only get that first kiss once. I don't want to short change it by having to quick peck just because everyone's there. I want privacy.

Terrible typing! Shows how my brain works it should say!

I see what you mean OP. I didn't think about it, but then I'm not a huge fan of kissing.

I think there is a middle ground between a peck on the cheek and full on snogging. I can see where the OP is coming from about OTT PDAs but I a quick kiss on the lips isn't that embarrassing really is it? It's just another symbolic gesture, like the ring exchange. Not necessary but if you don't like tradition then why have the ceremony at all, just do the legal stuff in a reg office alone.

Refusing to do it at all is likely to draw more attention to it actually, depends on your 'audience'. Some might (politely) heckle for it afterwards (I mean like when people tinkle their glasses for a speech not suggesting you have Jeremy Kyle types in your family!) if they notice the obvious omission.

In the nicest possible way you are overthinking this. Quick peck and it's done.

When I got married, my dad did the ceremony (he's a minister) and he said pointedly, "you may now kiss your bride, briefly" with a growl at now XH. Very funny.

AndNone...that's what I do want for our first kiss for it to be intimate and passionate as you only get that first kiss once. I don't want to short change it by having to quick peck just because everyone's there. I want privacy.

So you won't kiss him all day unless you can hide away? 😂

Apotheke (lol predictive text for that is spithead) I get that but that's our first kiss as husband and wife gone, that only gets done once and I don't want to share it with everyone else whether it's peck or bring on the shag

What about him kissing your hand? Very intimate and more British but perfectly proper.