To not want to "now kiss the bride"

[Rainbowsandunicorns88]

We're arguing about this. we got the script from the registrar to complete for the ceremony. Kissing at the end of the service is optional on the form. My thinking is that I want our first kiss as husband and wife to be private and personal not in front of 70 onlookers. He wants "tradition" when ffs it's 2017.

123 aren't you lucky you don't suffer crippling anxiety.

just put your foot down op.
if not diazepam, low dose doesnt turn you into a zombie, i had it for the dentist, and my GP let me have extra so I could try it out in the evening.

Beta blockers do not make you "out of it". A high dose makes you feel slightly tired. You wouldn't need a high dose.

I think you were a little snappy to 123, OP. How do you know she doesn't suffer from anxiety? It's not a competition.

I sympathise greatly with your anxiety but this fixation on not wanting to have a peck on the lips does feel slightly disproportionate. Have you had counselling about getting married?

The registrar asked us if we wanted the 'now kiss the bride' bit. We said 'no, we'll kiss when we like, cheers'.

Sounds cheesy but would a kiss on the hand be a compromise?

It sounds like you are being steamrollered into things here.

We have agreed to omit it entirely and move straight to signing the register.

Have you seen the film The Wedding Singer? There is a difference between 'porn tongue' and 'wedding tongue'.
If it is stressi g you out, then go for a big cheesey high-5 and a woop, with confidence and big diliriously happy smiles, then no one will thnk anything of it. I'd cheer from the pews/gallery/jury/wherever

Rainbows - I'm really pleased that you've reached an agreement with your DP.

The vicar said to dh , you can now kiss the bride, I said no -wtf - then had a split second peck on the lips. He also took the veil off at the wrong time. Maybe we're doomed.

When my DP proposed I got all flustered and shook his hand when I accepted . After reading this thread I think this is what we should do instead of the kiss.