To not want to "now kiss the bride"

[Rainbowsandunicorns88]

We're arguing about this. we got the script from the registrar to complete for the ceremony. Kissing at the end of the service is optional on the form. My thinking is that I want our first kiss as husband and wife to be private and personal not in front of 70 onlookers. He wants "tradition" when ffs it's 2017.

You don't have to have a full on snog you know, Little peak on the lips job done

First kiss between husband & Wife will feel the same as It's felt all this time so I don't get the must do it in private thing. You've got dc so you've done a lot more than kiss already

Sod it maybe we'll high five.

Fair enough if that's how you feel. I just don't get it. If you don't want to 'share' your 'couple moments' with friends and family I don't quite get why bother with the wedding at all? Unless you've never kissed him before? You'll still have the chance for proper kisses and more on your wedding night. Totally puzzled but I remember how weddings can make you overthink things and we're all different so will agree to disagree

I understand how you feel but getting married is a pretty big pda in itself. Our first kiss was just a peck. The first proper kiss was in private....

I get it I think. I read about some of the very insane and patriarchal groups in the US who don't allow their children to date or kiss before marriage so that the kiss at the altar is literally the first time they have kissed and the thought of witnessing that is just urrrrrrrrgh.

For me, kissing in front of other people is embarrassing. Obviously our families know we do, we've got kids. But they've never ever seen us even hold hands. I find it embarrassing.

I don't think I've heard the expression French kiss for 40 years-and then it was a nun telling us not to waste a visiting priest's time by asking if it was sinful when we all knew it was........

Really ???? Just give him a bloody kiss! Are you prepared to dance on your own in front of friends and family with everyone looking on.... no way I'd rather just give the kids. We went abroad so we wouldn't have to do all the silly attention seeking wedding things. We did take 14 family members out with us though and we did kiss!!! It was lovely!!

Good for you Vin

I think cats bum mouth is a good compromise.

Surely it's only sinful if you do it with someone else's husband?
I'm Protestant...

it wont be obvious if you dont.

I didn't know the 'first kiss as husband and wife' was a big thing?

Are you really going to avoid kissing him all day because there are other people there.

You dont have to Kiss to order if you dont want

I got married in 1995, our vicar suggested we have a quick kiss behind a pillar on the way to signing the register. We got married in a cathedral the pillars were big enough to afford us privacy

Mid nineties it was the fashion to have a greeting line at the reception where brides were obliged to kiss everyone. I put my foot down to that and we didn't do that.

What if he kissed your hand? Would he be happy and you? It would be quite charming and discreet.

Ah reading without my glasses and I see it's been suggested.

Wedding kissing isn't American at all, what a load of bollocks! The roots are Roman, a kiss sealed a deal, and that's what the wedding kiss symbolises, a sealed deal that, as long as you have sex at some point after is "insoluble".

Kiss or don't kiss, but if you and your STBH can't agree on something as simple as this...

Xenophile..."as long as you have sex after..." seriously?? So marriage is only significant if there's sex in it

Well, you don't have to if you don't want to - I think you have right of veto here, even if your H2B wants to.

We did a closed mouth kiss at our wedding, and frankly, I did find it embarrassing. But it wasn't something I gave much thought to before hand - we just did it. It was embarrassing enough being a bride, I don't like to be centre of attention.

No big deal really. DH and I had a peck on lips. Job done. I get embarrassed at these kind of things too but that was totally fine.

No French kissing, tongue rammed down each other's throats full on snog kind of kissing.

That's what I would determine as a public display of affection.

Certainly not a quick peck after becoming Husband and Wife.

Each to their own though.

I wouldn't have missed it for the world, as we had a very traditional wedding.
But if you really don't want it then don't do it. I think it's nice though.

Same as Ankleswingers

I was going to say exactly that. A wedding in front of F&F is much more of a PDA than a quick peck on the lips. It feels quite natural to do it and it kind of closes the ceremony nicely, if that makes sense.

Have the registrar say "You may now lick the bride!" just for kicks.

Or "You may now kick the bride!"

I've told dp well high five. Think it'll make for some laughs.