Child free wedding? Rude of acceptable?

[xjasminex]

Iv recently got engaged, have no children. We are begging to plan the wedding starting with the guest list. We would prefer to have a child free wedding and I'm wondering if this is considered rude? The reasons we would like a child free wedding are that money is tight and there will be 16 children under 9. We would prefer a more adult intimate wedding. We would also prefer to have an evening wedding. We also worry that children will be bored. Sadly not all of the 16 children are hmm well behaved and those children also have parents that let them run wild. I don't want to be cruel to my guests, there will be two Brest feeding mums hopefully so obviously they will be aloud to bring the babies! What do you think?

As mentioned previously, please please be wary of offering your wedding as an opportunity for parents to 'let their hair down' I personally hate attending weddings without my dc and I'm someone who loves a good child free night off! It wouldn't put me off coming but I much prefer a wedding full of all ages. Badly behaved children? I had 52 of the buggers at mine and the worst behaviour was definitely from adults who had drunk way too much!!!

To be fair a lot of studies suggest that people's brains aren't matured until they are around 25 so aren't completely rational until then so maybe that's why you're so rude.

Just to set the record straight I'm not demanding anything from my guests. I put on the invite if you wish to buy us a gift not I expect money from all of you. There's a big difference.

You've all completely misunderstood where I was coming from 100%.

I never said what I have makes me a nice person I was merely saying it because you said if I was nicer I'd get further in life. I was only making a point of saying I'm doing pretty well in life at the age of 21 that's all. If I wasn't a nice person I'm sure I wouldn't have the great family and friend unit I do have. Like I said you don't know me and how I am.

Your all complete strangers I really don't have to justify my choices to any of you. I was only offering my experience and answer to the mn who made the threat in the first place.

I now realise even women sitting behind there phones and computers are even into cyber bullying now. I hope none of your children are ever bullied because your doing exactly that however you look at it. Why are you all women so judgemental over every fucking thing that doesn't even involve you.

Re children at weddings, I find it really sad that people would/do exclude them. Weddings are about families coming together- and that certainly includes the youngest members of those families!

Personally I agree with inviting nieces and nephews as they are family. I wouldn't judge someone who didn't but we wouldn't get married without ours there.

I think if you intended your comment to include the youngest members of guests that aren't family then I totally disagree and think it's quite an entitled attitude for a parent to have that it's "sad" when their DC aren't invited somewhere.

Nobody is bullying xlaura. Pointing out your nasty attitude isn't bullying. It was one statement concerning your attitude. Just because you didn't like it , it doesn't mean it is bullying, it just means you didn't like it. I didn't expect you would! when you've grown up a bit more hopefully into a nicer person, you'll get it.