DH and I are having our ceremony in a few weeks' time. It's taking place abroad, and both save the dates and invitations were sent out in January. Both our families are in other continents but although quite a few of my relatives are going through a lot of trouble to be there, DH's parents decided against it as they'd rather save up for a tour of Europe next year. Meanwhile, not a single one of his friends in the UK or elsewhere have bothered to confirm.
Emotionally, I feel that people in DH's side are treating our wedding as a bit of a joke? No idea why as our invitations were beautiful (if I may say so myself), more on the formal side of things and we spent a lot of time putting lots of information together for our guests such as travel, accommodation etc. I can understand that it's a bit ask as not everyone can afford (for financial reasons or other) to take a good few days off to travel abroad for a wedding. That's fine - well, DH's parents aside. It's the rudeness of it all that has shocked me. It is at the very least polite to say whether you can make it or not?! Not even DH's so-called best friend has confirmed...
From a financial perspective, we put RSVP dates on the invitations as there are things such as flip flops which we want to order in the correct size, and it all costs money as they are personalised - plus other things such as the chair covers, transfer hire. It's all dependent on the total number of people.
Where have we gone wrong and how would you deal with it? I am trying my very best to focus on the fact that, from my side, I am being shown nothing but love. However, there is the feeling of rejection every time my mum, who's taken upon herself to order a lot of the stuff for us, asks me to re-confirm numbers to order.