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Do Not BLW!

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user1494494728 · 11/05/2017 10:29

Yesterday was the final straw, I can’t keep my mouth shut any longer, Baby Led Weaning has gone seriously, dangerously wrong (if it was ever even right to start with).

I attend a weekly mums group, of which I (as far as I’ve worked out) am the only one who is doing traditional weaning. Yesterday, I sat quietly and watched a 7 month old baby have a bacon sandwich for her lunch. A BACON FUCKING SANDWICH. After producing this nutritional feast for her toothless child the mother then looks around and asks where she needs to go to get baby vitamins. It took everything in me not to scream out ‘try the vegetable aisle in the supermarket you stupid bitch!’. I asked if this was the childs lunch or just a snack, to which the reply was, oh no it’s her lunch, she loves bacon and it’s so easy for her to hold’, well… so is a fucking shoelace but I wouldn’t give it to my baby for lunch. Meanwhile, another mother next to me opens a tub of humous and gives it to her 6 month old baby (yes, the whole pot) with a handful of toast. The other mothers chimed in and said how incredibly healthy the baby was because it was eating chickpeas, clearly they have no idea how much salt is in a slice of bread let alone a full sized tub of humous (some pots of humous are known to contain 4 entire crisp bags worth of salt). For dinner that night this same child would go on to sit at the table and gum at a piece of carrot and lump of chicken. Try and working out how much nutrition this child has had today?

In reality there’s only so much you can give a 6 month old baby who hasn’t got any teeth and has swallowed nothing but milk it’s entire life. Going from this to sticking a lump of celery of even chicken in it’s hand is bloody cruel. Naturally it’s going to want to play with it before it eats it, which is why all BLW mums say 99% of the food lands on the floor and very little in the childs actual mouth.

I recently found out that not only has virtually no research been done on BLW, but it was also invented by a Healthvisitor. We have been feeding babies on healthy, nutritious purees for thousands of years then a health vistor comes along with no research whatsoever and starts a fad. The only clear research done on BLW shows that it can be harmful to babies who are struggling to gain weight, doesn’t that tell you enough? (for the mum who’s thinking blenders haven’t been around that long remember that in third world countries today women are still chewing food up and feeding it to their babies, it’s naturally what we are supposed to do, BLW is NOT natural).

Then there is the choking hazard which I’m only going to step on lightly, the day you see your own child properly choke (and one day it will happen) will possibly be the worst day of your life. Why risk this earlier than need be? It’s ludicrous, what’s the rush and what’s the point other than putting your child at risk for a fad? One of the mothers at the group recently said ‘oh he’s only choked a few times’. Well for me that’s a few times too many. And no, a baby CAN NOT choke on puree, if you’re confused as to why look up the definition of choking.

Bread is easy, cheap and soft, it’s fast becoming the staple food of choice for BLW mumies and there’s no arguing that, I’ve watched it happen first hand. In those first years of life a babies cells are developing the fastest they will ever develop again, this is the time that as their mummy we need to step up and make sure we give our child everything they need, it not about giving the baby a choice it’s about giving them a chance and a healthy start. Yes if you want to give your child hand held snacks, great - do it all day AS SNACKS, but please get in your kitchens and make up some healthy, nutritious pureed or mashed foods and spoon feed every last little drop into their mouths, this time will go so fast and least then you can look back and say you gave them the best start you possibly could.

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teaandbiscuitsforme · 11/05/2017 16:56

Navy Same can be said for parents who just shove a pouch at their child. Especially ones who are old enough to not need food puréed!

NavyandWhite · 11/05/2017 17:00

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53rdWay · 11/05/2017 17:00

Are babies throwing food around poor things to be pitied now? Mine was never happier than when combing porridge through her hair and flinging bits of pepper at the cat. Absolutely in her element.

AssassinatedBeauty · 11/05/2017 17:04

Navy I've seen numerous parents let their baby eat direct from the pouch.

Gileswithachainsaw · 11/05/2017 17:05

(Are babies throwing food around poor things to be pitied now? Mine was never happier than when combing porridge through her hair and flinging bits of pepper at the cat. Absolutely in her element*

Grin

Mine preferred to dye themselves multiple colours with their food. Be warned purple can take a few days to wash out...

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TortoiseBeep · 11/05/2017 17:05

I've seen it first hand numerous times where a young baby was plonked in a high chair with blob of mash, a bit of broccoli or pasta and bolognaise etc which the baby has just thrown all over the floor or smeared it all over themselves. Parents just sat their drinking wine ignoring the poor sod.

Hey, stop peering into our kitchen, ok? Grin

Gileswithachainsaw · 11/05/2017 17:08

That's unfairnavy

I wait til the kids are in bed before I hit the wine.

I'd be having a coffee

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Maudlinmaud · 11/05/2017 17:10

Eating from the pouches? Grim!
I never went in for pre made baby food it was just easier to give the dc whatever we had. Introducing the youngest to lots of different foods hasn't really helped my cause as she is the worlds most picky eater now. Babies make a mess when eating whether you spoon feed or let them help themselves.

HomityBabbityPie · 11/05/2017 17:12

What's wrong with feeding a baby from a pouch? Genuine question. I have those reusable pouches I fill with fruit and yogurt for ds when out and he sucks straight out like a smoothie. Didn't realise that was Wrong.

teaandbiscuitsforme · 11/05/2017 17:13

Lucky you Navy, I've seen many children 12 months + who have been handed a pouch as their 'lunch'!

teaandbiscuitsforme · 11/05/2017 17:15

Homily Nothing wrong with it if that's what you've chosen (like smoothie) flavours but not sure why you'd give a chicken casserole thing to a 1 year old.

And my comment was related to the fact that Navy said BLW parents were just doing it to be lazy

Maudlinmaud · 11/05/2017 17:15

I just think a bowl or plate and spoon is a little better. I wouldn't want to eat out of a pouch but I'm sorry if I've offended you.

Veterinari · 11/05/2017 17:26

Fwiw, babies need to learn to choke. It's called a gag reflex and it's how they learn to control food going down and chewing it properly.

Umm you can't learn a reflex - that's why it's y'know, a reflex

hazeyjane · 11/05/2017 18:27

Choking and gagging are 2 different things. Believe me, no-one needs to learn how to choke!

Leave it out with all the grim, lazy, poor baby bullshit. Purees, BLW, pouches, straight out of, off a spoon or eaten out of a fucking nosebag - there really isn't a single aspect of having children that we can't give each other a good kicking over, is there.

TessTube · 11/05/2017 18:58

No they don't. Grin

BLW is fine, mashing and spoon feeding or a combination of the two is also fine.

TessTube · 11/05/2017 19:00

To be honest Hazey I do think they are lazy bastards.

Think of all that educational time you could be missing when they just sit there... eating

I personally am rapping my way through the works of Shakespeare during mealtimes.

Cluesue · 11/05/2017 19:07

My first dd was given pureed food,fussiest eater I've ever met.
My 2nd dd was blw and she's a fruit and veg fiend and will eat and try anything.

glitterglitters · 11/05/2017 19:10

Oooh you'd have loved me op. My dd was chewing on a sirloin steak at 6 months. Grin

Of totally forgotten about all those Viking warriors, Roman legions and Gengis Khans hoards with their Ella's Kitchen pouches and Tommee Tippee Blenders....

MapMyMum · 11/05/2017 19:15

And before food blenders parents did what....??

PetalMettle · 11/05/2017 19:18

I did blw. Ds started with steamed vegetables. He's never choked or gagged (actually he's choked on water a couple of times)
You can have a shit blw diet or shit purée diet,I was ultra aware of giving him a balanced diet

Itsjustaphase2016 · 11/05/2017 19:20

Massively agree.
And practically everyone I know who BLW dc1 or even dc2, did NOT do it for dc3 or 4!! Why? Because BLW kids turn out to be fussy eaters, are nearly always hungry and grouchy, constantly want to snack, and consume endless milk.
BLW is what you do with your pfb. What a waste of time!
And advised against by paediatricians.

hazeyjane · 11/05/2017 19:23

Itsjustaphase - but on the other hand.....

......everything in that post is baloney.