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Do Not BLW!

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user1494494728 · 11/05/2017 10:29

Yesterday was the final straw, I can’t keep my mouth shut any longer, Baby Led Weaning has gone seriously, dangerously wrong (if it was ever even right to start with).

I attend a weekly mums group, of which I (as far as I’ve worked out) am the only one who is doing traditional weaning. Yesterday, I sat quietly and watched a 7 month old baby have a bacon sandwich for her lunch. A BACON FUCKING SANDWICH. After producing this nutritional feast for her toothless child the mother then looks around and asks where she needs to go to get baby vitamins. It took everything in me not to scream out ‘try the vegetable aisle in the supermarket you stupid bitch!’. I asked if this was the childs lunch or just a snack, to which the reply was, oh no it’s her lunch, she loves bacon and it’s so easy for her to hold’, well… so is a fucking shoelace but I wouldn’t give it to my baby for lunch. Meanwhile, another mother next to me opens a tub of humous and gives it to her 6 month old baby (yes, the whole pot) with a handful of toast. The other mothers chimed in and said how incredibly healthy the baby was because it was eating chickpeas, clearly they have no idea how much salt is in a slice of bread let alone a full sized tub of humous (some pots of humous are known to contain 4 entire crisp bags worth of salt). For dinner that night this same child would go on to sit at the table and gum at a piece of carrot and lump of chicken. Try and working out how much nutrition this child has had today?

In reality there’s only so much you can give a 6 month old baby who hasn’t got any teeth and has swallowed nothing but milk it’s entire life. Going from this to sticking a lump of celery of even chicken in it’s hand is bloody cruel. Naturally it’s going to want to play with it before it eats it, which is why all BLW mums say 99% of the food lands on the floor and very little in the childs actual mouth.

I recently found out that not only has virtually no research been done on BLW, but it was also invented by a Healthvisitor. We have been feeding babies on healthy, nutritious purees for thousands of years then a health vistor comes along with no research whatsoever and starts a fad. The only clear research done on BLW shows that it can be harmful to babies who are struggling to gain weight, doesn’t that tell you enough? (for the mum who’s thinking blenders haven’t been around that long remember that in third world countries today women are still chewing food up and feeding it to their babies, it’s naturally what we are supposed to do, BLW is NOT natural).

Then there is the choking hazard which I’m only going to step on lightly, the day you see your own child properly choke (and one day it will happen) will possibly be the worst day of your life. Why risk this earlier than need be? It’s ludicrous, what’s the rush and what’s the point other than putting your child at risk for a fad? One of the mothers at the group recently said ‘oh he’s only choked a few times’. Well for me that’s a few times too many. And no, a baby CAN NOT choke on puree, if you’re confused as to why look up the definition of choking.

Bread is easy, cheap and soft, it’s fast becoming the staple food of choice for BLW mumies and there’s no arguing that, I’ve watched it happen first hand. In those first years of life a babies cells are developing the fastest they will ever develop again, this is the time that as their mummy we need to step up and make sure we give our child everything they need, it not about giving the baby a choice it’s about giving them a chance and a healthy start. Yes if you want to give your child hand held snacks, great - do it all day AS SNACKS, but please get in your kitchens and make up some healthy, nutritious pureed or mashed foods and spoon feed every last little drop into their mouths, this time will go so fast and least then you can look back and say you gave them the best start you possibly could.

OP posts:
hazeyjane · 11/05/2017 14:19

I fed all mine in pellet form. Much simpler. And proven by made up experts to be the best way of weaning, leading to a 157% less chance of future obesity. The only downside is the offensive flatulence.

TessTube · 11/05/2017 14:46

Mine did eat some IAMs.

Its not a bad idea! Grin

Gileswithachainsaw · 11/05/2017 14:51
Grin
lorelairoryemily · 11/05/2017 14:58

Squoosh GrinGrin calm down you angry little loon- I LOVE you!!!

HomityBabbityPie · 11/05/2017 15:48

What are your qualifications for dispensing advice with such authority OP?

You do know babies can also choke on puree?

Sincerely, Someone Who Is Not An Advocate For Either Baby Led Weaning Or Traditional Weaning But Simply The Feed Your Child Some Fucking Food Method.

Honestly.

HomityBabbityPie · 11/05/2017 15:49

The risk is that your DC's palate won't develop to the full and he/she won't enjoy the full range of plant based foods.

Lol, I was weaned the way you describe and I'd still go for a burger over broccoli luv.

Ratatatouille · 11/05/2017 16:14

Do any other BLWers have problems when giving their baby a Maccy's happy meal? DD loves the fries but she just can't get her little chops around a quarter pounder. I really don't want to blend it down as I am desperate to carry on with proper BLW.

HerculesParrot · 11/05/2017 16:15

Look, it's bacon sandwiches in public that's the real danger.

Do Not BLW!
Ratatatouille · 11/05/2017 16:17

Hercules 😂😂😂

TessTube · 11/05/2017 16:18

Oh Ed. Grin

TodgerTumbler · 11/05/2017 16:20

I'm having trouble pureeing a bucket of KFC when I'm pushing my LO round the mall. Any advice?

Increasinglymiddleaged · 11/05/2017 16:24

Do any other BLWers have problems when giving their baby a Maccy's happy meal? DD loves the fries but she just can't get her little chops around a quarter pounder. I really don't want to blend it down as I am desperate to carry on with proper BLW.

I think that you need to stick to chicken nuggets for the time being, as they are fairly easy to eat with just gums. My dd was able to eat them from about 4 months. She was very advanced though.

hazeyjane · 11/05/2017 16:25

If you're struggling with pureeing the KFCs, but they can't manage a Big Mac, can I recommend the humble corndog - perfect for babies, deep fried meat and batter on a stick, dunked in ketchup (for the vitamins)

HerculesParrot · 11/05/2017 16:26

Just chew it for them first, Todger, like cave mamas did with their KFC for millions of years.

FannyFungus · 11/05/2017 16:27

Corndog - a healthy lollipop for the babies. That's smart, nutritional AND fun!

Figgygal · 11/05/2017 16:27

Well it's all about balance isn't it and sorry people can take the piss if they want but obviously that child should not he eating bacon at 7 mo.

I find it a messy pain in the arse myself and also find self far too reliant on bread products so doing purees and finger food.

hazeyjane · 11/05/2017 16:28

Exactly FannyFungus! (and I won't embarrass you by asking how you came about that name)

FannyFungus · 11/05/2017 16:29

Thanks hazeyjane yeah, that would be another thread Wink

whatdidyouhear · 11/05/2017 16:31

I find it a messy pain in the arse myself

Oh dear. Never mind pureeing vs solids. I think you've got the wrong end entirely... Grin

Ratatatouille · 11/05/2017 16:32

Ooh yeah she loves nuggs. Your DD might be advanced IMA but can she dunk them in ketchup herself like my genius DD?

And Figgy it's hard not to take the piss when OP has referenced a couple of rubbish examples of diet and used them to completely discredit the entire practice of BLW like we're all feeding our kids shite.

Teabagtits · 11/05/2017 16:32

I decided with this baby instead of blw I'll just purée McDonald's into a bottle and maybe thin it down with some fruitshoot-is that acceptable?

whatdidyouhear · 11/05/2017 16:32

OMG Grin

Increasinglymiddleaged · 11/05/2017 16:36

And Figgy it's hard not to take the piss when OP has referenced a couple of rubbish examples of diet and used them to completely discredit the entire practice of BLW like we're all feeding our kids shite.

Plus, it's the idea that all babies will consent to being fed off a spoon. It was dd2 who led the process of weaning in every way possible....

NavyandWhite · 11/05/2017 16:40

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AssassinatedBeauty · 11/05/2017 16:51

Ah, slovenly, neglectful parenting caused by BLW... or perhaps it's the other way around? That there will always be people who are like this, and just now some of them choose to use BLW as a way of being like that. Doesn't mean that BLW itself is lazy and neglectful.