Page 12 | What is going on with (some) kids?!

Purpleturtle45 · 2026-10-08T05:35:15+00:00

I have been a primary school teacher for 20 years and I just cannot believe the decline in behaviour and attainment In that time! Yesterday I witnessed a 6 year old kick, spit at, punch and threaten to kill the DHT and ultimately trash the room and the staff are powerless to stop it as they aren't allowed to touch a child. This is a daily occurrence. So many children are disrespectful and will argue back to your face now and a lot of the parents are just accepting of this! I honestly fear for the world if this is what the kids are like! Every teacher I know is looking to leave, they are being driven to breaking point every day! It's all so worrying.

Ladybird111 · Yesterday 12:55

“My solution probably looks more like collective responsibility to wean ourselves away from digital dependence, to be more present in our communities, to elect officials who invest in education, to build more, smaller schools, to invite people into our homes again, to spend more time outdoors, to take power away from big tech, to say no to social media and AI... basically to reclaim what it means to be a human living in a fucntioning society rather than just blaming other people's fecklessness.”

What about people who are trying to do these things? We don’t own a tablet and our kids tv time is tightly regulated. We often have friends and family to our home and our children know what’s expected of them in social situations. We prioritise time outdoors. How can I take responsibility for other parents who choose not to do these things and let their kids rot on iPads and junk food? Why is it not okay for me to blame the parents who choose to do these things? Whose should shoulder the blame - other random members of society? Their kids? Parents are responsible for their own children.

xye · Yesterday 13:16

Ladybird111 · Yesterday 12:55

“My solution probably looks more like collective responsibility to wean ourselves away from digital dependence, to be more present in our communities, to elect officials who invest in education, to build more, smaller schools, to invite people into our homes again, to spend more time outdoors, to take power away from big tech, to say no to social media and AI... basically to reclaim what it means to be a human living in a fucntioning society rather than just blaming other people's fecklessness.”

What about people who are trying to do these things? We don’t own a tablet and our kids tv time is tightly regulated. We often have friends and family to our home and our children know what’s expected of them in social situations. We prioritise time outdoors. How can I take responsibility for other parents who choose not to do these things and let their kids rot on iPads and junk food? Why is it not okay for me to blame the parents who choose to do these things? Whose should shoulder the blame - other random members of society? Their kids? Parents are responsible for their own children.

“Parents are responsible for their own children.”

Exactly, not the State. Schools shouldn’t have to change nappies and teach children how to clean their teeth. It’s become ridiculous.

MyOliveStork · Yesterday 13:41

Chickenfilletroll · 08/10/2026 07:34

I'm going to get flamed for this but in my opinion I've a few reasons I think

Babies being put into creches at a young age because both parents have to work. I think the best place for babies/children is at home with A parent.

No extended family.:Again parents have to work long hours so the 2 days they have off each week they play "catch up with the house/ each other and just don't have time to connect with family. Families live too far away or just don't get on so don't see each other.

Food: is crap, quick fixes no fruit, veg. Takeaways, crisps, sweets.

Screens: how many small babies/toddlers do you see in prams with a phone in their hand. Stuck in front of you tube no parent interaction, no looking around taking everything in. Whiteboards in school with projectors beamed into them. TVs in bedrooms, iPads to help them fall asleep.

Entitlement : everyone thinks there child is special and they are the exception to the rules. Normal social behaviors don't mean anything to them they can do want they want. They want people to drop everything to watch their child twirl and twirl. The child has to be the center of attention at everything. They give their child Prince/princess complex

Then you have the just "bad parenting" parents just give in to whatever their kids want so they don't have to deal with them.

Completely agree

10kandnotcounting · Yesterday 13:49

Entitlement : everyone thinks there child is special and they are the exception to the rules. Normal social behaviors don't mean anything to them they can do want they want. They want people to drop everything to watch their child twirl and twirl. The child has to be the center of attention at everything. They give their child Prince/princess complex

So so true. With everyone being The Main Character now how will these children function when they are adults. These children aren't being socialised.

xye · Yesterday 13:54

10kandnotcounting · Yesterday 13:49

Entitlement : everyone thinks there child is special and they are the exception to the rules. Normal social behaviors don't mean anything to them they can do want they want. They want people to drop everything to watch their child twirl and twirl. The child has to be the center of attention at everything. They give their child Prince/princess complex

So so true. With everyone being The Main Character now how will these children function when they are adults. These children aren't being socialised.

This is the beginning of the end. The UK is falling apart.

CabbagePatchSquirrel · Yesterday 17:18

Ladybird111 · Yesterday 12:55

“My solution probably looks more like collective responsibility to wean ourselves away from digital dependence, to be more present in our communities, to elect officials who invest in education, to build more, smaller schools, to invite people into our homes again, to spend more time outdoors, to take power away from big tech, to say no to social media and AI... basically to reclaim what it means to be a human living in a fucntioning society rather than just blaming other people's fecklessness.”

What about people who are trying to do these things? We don’t own a tablet and our kids tv time is tightly regulated. We often have friends and family to our home and our children know what’s expected of them in social situations. We prioritise time outdoors. How can I take responsibility for other parents who choose not to do these things and let their kids rot on iPads and junk food? Why is it not okay for me to blame the parents who choose to do these things? Whose should shoulder the blame - other random members of society? Their kids? Parents are responsible for their own children.

Your family may have advantages in terms of time, material wealth or education which make it easier for you to achieve these things.

There's absolutely no point telling an exhausted single mum on a tight budget who works long hours, lives in a high rise flat and collects her kids from after school care at 6pm every evening that she should prioritise outside play and freshly prepared food. Or a family in overcrowded accommodation with the parents sleeping in the lounge that they should socialise in their home more often. Life for many is about survival not thriving.

AmethystDeceiver · Yesterday 17:49

CabbagePatchSquirrel · Yesterday 17:18

Your family may have advantages in terms of time, material wealth or education which make it easier for you to achieve these things.

There's absolutely no point telling an exhausted single mum on a tight budget who works long hours, lives in a high rise flat and collects her kids from after school care at 6pm every evening that she should prioritise outside play and freshly prepared food. Or a family in overcrowded accommodation with the parents sleeping in the lounge that they should socialise in their home more often. Life for many is about survival not thriving.

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Yes exactly, I agree with you entirely. And that is why pointless thread after thread after thread of people moaning about how awful today's children are, and how lazy today's parents are, is so infuriating

Ladybird111 · Yesterday 18:10

AmethystDeceiver · Yesterday 17:49

Yes exactly, I agree with you entirely. And that is why pointless thread after thread after thread of people moaning about how awful today's children are, and how lazy today's parents are, is so infuriating

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I was responding to your suggested solutions. If you’re now saying you agree that these things aren’t solutions that can help with current day child behavioural issues, what are your solutions then?

AmethystDeceiver · Yesterday 18:15

Ladybird111 · Yesterday 18:10

I was responding to your suggested solutions. If you’re now saying you agree that these things aren’t solutions that can help with current day child behavioural issues, what are your solutions then?

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I was agreeing with the poster after you, although you sound like you're doing a great job

xye · Yesterday 18:31

CabbagePatchSquirrel · Yesterday 17:18

Your family may have advantages in terms of time, material wealth or education which make it easier for you to achieve these things.

There's absolutely no point telling an exhausted single mum on a tight budget who works long hours, lives in a high rise flat and collects her kids from after school care at 6pm every evening that she should prioritise outside play and freshly prepared food. Or a family in overcrowded accommodation with the parents sleeping in the lounge that they should socialise in their home more often. Life for many is about survival not thriving.

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“Life for many is about survival not thriving.”

Life has always been like that for many people. The difference was that parents still parented. Children were not going to school in nappies in the 1950s,1960s,1970s or 1980s. Children were taught the basic skills even when poverty was rife.

10kandnotcounting · Yesterday 21:05

xye · Yesterday 18:31

“Life for many is about survival not thriving.”

Life has always been like that for many people. The difference was that parents still parented. Children were not going to school in nappies in the 1950s,1960s,1970s or 1980s. Children were taught the basic skills even when poverty was rife.

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And when parents didn't parents other adults had stern words.

10kandnotcounting · Yesterday 21:10

CabbagePatchSquirrel · Yesterday 17:18

Your family may have advantages in terms of time, material wealth or education which make it easier for you to achieve these things.

There's absolutely no point telling an exhausted single mum on a tight budget who works long hours, lives in a high rise flat and collects her kids from after school care at 6pm every evening that she should prioritise outside play and freshly prepared food. Or a family in overcrowded accommodation with the parents sleeping in the lounge that they should socialise in their home more often. Life for many is about survival not thriving.

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I don't believe you are in the uk?

There's absolutely no point telling an exhausted single mum on a tight budget who works long hours, lives in a high rise flat and collects her kids from after school care at 6pm every evening that she should prioritise outside play and freshly prepared food.

This isn't really how poverty works here.

As an aside the kids that get collected from after school club are those of more well to do professionals. Not the poorest. We have a benefit system and not many high rises.

Pixiedust49 · Yesterday 21:33

I’ve been teaching for over 30 years. Why is it that SEND children 30 years ago were able to behave appropriately and can’t now? None were in nappies then but are now? It can only be the way they are being brought up surely 🤷🏻‍♀️