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To report these supermarket workers?

195 replies

thetimeisnow · 17/06/2026 12:24

As I walked past some supermarket workers, they were having a chat, one said
' i couldnt tell if it was a man or woman'
Then another said ' we have one of them where i live'

I think it was inappropriate.

But am I over thinking and being unreasonable?!

OP posts:
PorkPieForStarters · 17/06/2026 13:41

Shedmistress · 17/06/2026 13:32

How did the only person who agreed with you know it was Tescos?

I thought I'd read Tesco but clearly I hadn't. Not to worry though as all the main supermarket chains say they're LGBT+ friendly, so take your pick!

DreamyScroller · 17/06/2026 13:46

thetimeisnow · 17/06/2026 12:49

Ok, im fine with being told to get a hobby.

Like porkpieforstarters said, it is nasty and if it did hit personally I would be sad that people can say it and out loud in a busy supermarket.

I would ask tesco manager to re do the training about inclusion.

The brainwashing has really reached deep with this one.

HelpMeGetThrough · 17/06/2026 13:46

Lomonald · 17/06/2026 13:32

Why wouldn't you ?

Because disabled people (and I am one) are bloody humans, not weirdos where people need to be “trained” to work with us.

RedQuail4 · 17/06/2026 13:47

Why would you take it personally?

Shedmistress · 17/06/2026 13:47

PorkPieForStarters · 17/06/2026 13:41

I thought I'd read Tesco but clearly I hadn't. Not to worry though as all the main supermarket chains say they're LGBT+ friendly, so take your pick!

a - right, aye
b - there is nothing unfriendly about this. Hope that helps. I guess you will still report it, oh I mean the OP will. Lets get 2 people sacked for literally stating what they see with their eyes.

ladyofshertonabbas · 17/06/2026 13:47

Are you joking?!

Lifelover16 · 17/06/2026 13:48

Why were you ear wigging on someone else’s conversation. Nothing to do with you.

saveforthat · 17/06/2026 13:49

George Orwell will be turning in his grave.

busyd4y · 17/06/2026 13:50

Viviennemary · 17/06/2026 12:52

Stop eavesdropping on conversations.

Out of interest, how do you turn your ears off?

watchingthishtread · 17/06/2026 13:50

Whatever you heard was out of context. You don't really know what they were talking about.

StrictlyCoffee · 17/06/2026 13:51

Who the fuck cares

Get a life OP

ilovepixie · 17/06/2026 13:52

Don’t be a twat. Just go about your business and leave other people alone.

Persephonia1966 · 17/06/2026 13:54

The most likely explanation is it had nothing to do with trans rights or otherwise and was two people being hurtful/bitchy about another person. Either because they were deliberately androgenous looking, or because the person being insulted was "ugly". It is also possible they were discussing a trans person. Or, least likely, they were discussing something completely harmless like a painting.

Either way, it is most likely they were being a bit mean. "It" is not nice. But it isn't illegal to be a bit mean and I wouldn't ship someone to the manager for it. Although in some circumstances I would like to think so would challenge it directly (especially if the person in question was there and being insulted to their face). But you don't know the context so can't really take it to the manager etc.

AccordingToWhom · 17/06/2026 13:55

It was a private conversation which you didn't hear enough of to get the full context for. Mind your own business.

SassyGit · 17/06/2026 13:58

Persephonia1966 · 17/06/2026 13:54

The most likely explanation is it had nothing to do with trans rights or otherwise and was two people being hurtful/bitchy about another person. Either because they were deliberately androgenous looking, or because the person being insulted was "ugly". It is also possible they were discussing a trans person. Or, least likely, they were discussing something completely harmless like a painting.

Either way, it is most likely they were being a bit mean. "It" is not nice. But it isn't illegal to be a bit mean and I wouldn't ship someone to the manager for it. Although in some circumstances I would like to think so would challenge it directly (especially if the person in question was there and being insulted to their face). But you don't know the context so can't really take it to the manager etc.

NOTHING at all even suggests they were talking about anyone in the way you're suggesting. You're both just projecting your assumptions onto two innocent people. They could have been referring to someone wearing a hoodie so their face couldn't be seen, not facing them so only had a view of them from the back, mixed with other people so unable to see due to height and blocked view etc. Then 'one of them' in the village could have meant someone who owned a dog that lets it bark, someone who lets their cat shit in everyone's garden, someone who steals bikes, someone who bullies others.

The fact that you think this person has even one leg to stand on with this BS is sickening.

TOUCH GRASS and GET A LIFE.

LittleMissLateForWorkAgain · 17/06/2026 14:00

Big brother is watching you.

Channellingsophistication · 17/06/2026 14:01

Nocameltoeleggingsplease · 17/06/2026 13:41

Dear Tesco

Today I overheard one of your minimum wage workers speaking to a colleague. I have no idea about the context of the conversation, and as far as I am aware it was not about me or anyone I know. However, I have so little going on in my life I was hugely offended by it anyway and would like you to waste these workers time with even more training to make them into nice little PC drones. Even better, can you replace them with computers?

Thanks

Utterly brilliant thank you - that made me laugh out loud which I really needed

Channellingsophistication · 17/06/2026 14:02

OP, honestly, you are overthinking. You really just need to put it behind you!

DressOrSkirt · 17/06/2026 14:03

I don't see what's wrong with what they said, it doesn't sound hateful or exclusionary, unless you haven't told us it all and they actually said "I refused to serve them because I couldn't tell whether they were a man or a woman" or "I spat in their face because I couldn't tell whether they were a man or a woman".

The phrasing (use of it instead of they) makes it sound like a phone call to me. Sometimes people sound weird on the phone, I have definitely said "I couldn't tell it was so and so until they gave their name" - that doesn't mean I don't think so and so is a human.

Littlecrake · 17/06/2026 14:05

It needs reporting and the perpetrators sent for re-education along with their families and their neighbours. Their jobs should be re-distributed to others who hold correct opinions. That would be the kind and inclusive thing to do.

Dollymylove · 17/06/2026 14:09

Keep your nosey beak out of other peoples business

namecalling123 · 17/06/2026 14:13

CRAYZEEEEE

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 17/06/2026 14:14

FFS!

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · 17/06/2026 14:17

These responses are just awful and sadly the way we are going. People minded their own business in 1930's Germany. It's the beginning of escalation that leads to much more severe behaviours.

Gordon Allport explored this in his book The Nature of Prejudice

Level 1: Biased Attitudes (The Base)
What it is: Stereotyping, making insensitive jokes, fear of differences, and lacking awareness of privilege.
The Nature: This stage is often considered "harmless" by the majority but creates the cultural soil in which prejudice grows. 1, 2, 3, 4]
Level 2: Acts of Bias
What it is: Name-calling, ridicule, bullying, microaggressions, and dehumanizing language.
The Nature: These are individual acts meant to demean or exclude members of a targeted group. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5]
Level 3: Avoidance
What it is: Social exclusion and actively shunning members of the "out-group."
The Nature: The majority isolates the minority, causing significant psychological harm through isolation. 1, 2, 3]
Level 4: Discrimination
What it is: Unequal treatment in housing, employment, education, or systemic disenfranchisement (e.g., Jim Crow laws, Apartheid).
The Nature: Prejudice is now codified into behavior that intentionally disadvantages the out-group and prevents them from achieving societal goals. 1, 2]
Level 5: Bias-Motivated Violence
What it is: Physical assault, desecration of property, and hate crimes.
The Nature: Hate turns into physical destruction and violence against people or their symbols. 1]
Level 6: Genocide (The Peak)
What it is: The deliberate and systematic extermination of an entire group of people (e.g., The Holocaust, the Rwandan genocide).
The Nature: This ultimate act of violence relies entirely on the normalization of the lesser, foundational acts of prejudice below it. 1, 2, 3]
The core message of the pyramid is that extreme violence is an exaggerated reflection of widespread, quiet, and inconspicuous everyday prejudices. 1]
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Switcher · 17/06/2026 14:20

thetimeisnow · 17/06/2026 12:49

Ok, im fine with being told to get a hobby.

Like porkpieforstarters said, it is nasty and if it did hit personally I would be sad that people can say it and out loud in a busy supermarket.

I would ask tesco manager to re do the training about inclusion.

In other words freedom of speech for you, but not for people whose opinions you dislike.

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