DSD’s new partner is now telling DH to get legal advice about our house

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I can't believe how quickly my last thread filled up. I woke up to find it at 1000 posts which was a bit of a surprise.

Thank you to those posters who were supportive. It has been a difficult time.

Things have taken a downward turn. I honestly thought this couldn’t get any more ridiculous, but apparently it can.
DH has had another message from DSD early this morning. She said she and her partner have been discussing the situation and have decided they are going to get legal advice. Apparently he thinks the agreement we have in place “might not mean what I think it means” if DH and I ever divorced. Her partner is not a solicitor, by the way. He works in finance, I think. But apparently he “knows enough to know Dad shouldn’t just accept this.”

So now the man who has been in her life for about five minutes is apparently advising her on my marriage, my house and my legal arrangements.

DSD has told DH he needs to get his “own independent legal advice” because she thinks he has been “stitched up.” She also said that if he divorces me, he may be able to get more than his current share and “at least protect something for the future.”

I cannot believe I am typing this. This has gone from a nasty dinner joke to his daughter and her new partner discussing whether my husband should divorce me to improve her future inheritance position.

DH is livid. Properly livid this time. He has replied saying his marriage is not up for discussion, his financial arrangements are not her partner’s business, and if she continues down this road, there will be no conversation until she can speak respectfully.

I feel sick, but also weirdly relieved because at least DH can now see exactly what I have been dealing with. This was never about a joke. It was about entitlement. And now her partner has poured petrol on it.

She's shot herself in the foot there hasn't she.

Excellent response.

That's a very dignified response.

Good lord I’d be taking her off the will and giving it to a dogs charity 😳.

Dead or divorced - whatever gets her the most money.

Whatever the rights and wrongs of the situation I really don’t think it’s fair of you to put her private messages to her father up online for the world to read.

That’s not right OP.

This is BONKERS! I am a fair bit older than your "D"SD and so are my parents most likely. But I have factored zero inheritance into my life and operate assuming l get nothing. Plus keep my nose out of my divorced parent's finances. She's next level entitled and obnoxious. The boyfriend's text is also something else. Good on you for pulling her up on her rudeness and the shit show that followed. Also for the blocking

"I need to talk about the deposit" 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Why is the lazy cow only working part time if she wants to buy a property? Oh yeah, as she thought you guys would

This. Or that thing the New York City heiress did with her $24 million. Leave it to the dog.

How come Mr Bigshot Financier doesn’t have a deposit? How is the SD getting a mortgage on a part time wage when she’s in debt and needs regular bail outs? I bet the deal is she provides the deposit and he pays the mortgage.

She should not be so entitled, obnoxious, controlling and lazy then

OMFG. The arrogance and entitlement of those two.

Isn’t the ‘family money’ in her Mum’s house? That’s what her Mum got in the divorce from OP’s husband.

Thats a fantastic response, but she is going to explode. Her house of cards is falling apart.

I think a lot of people, including the SD and her pet maniac BF, are confusing what happens financially after divorce versus what happens after death.

He must be unbelievably hurt.

Sorry I think you've watched too many 'Murder She Wrotes'.

The bloke has been with DSD 2 minutes and he’s laying down the law and asking for ‘chats’ about family finances, which are none of his business! What a cheeky, entitled and disrespectful man!! Do not entertain this, a decent daughter would not bring this up
about her healthy, not at deaths door dad!! I would be fuming with them both. Where’s the love for her dad, no they just want the cash! Thank god DH is sensible and isn’t pandering to them

Nobody on here knows who she is. And if she said that then she can take responsibility for it, if nothing else.

The fact that a lot of this is in writing would go against her and any claim in the unlikely event of his untimely death

Are you… literally quoting her texts?

Absolutely ludicrous behaviour. I feel so sorry for your DH, he must be really devastated. I'm glad his ex was on the same page as you. Like you, I used a previous house sale to fund our current house and the ownership is split but not 50/50. There is no need for DSD to have known the ins and outs but she's clearly been clocking the house and lifestyle and making things up in her head. The audacity to think it would be 50% hers when her dad died anyway though? Or that a deposit should be coming from parents while she works part-time and lives it up on the gram. She definitely needs a reality check.
Glad you and DH have each other's backs.

She must be completely deluded to think she will get any financial help now! And she sounds so entitled to it. This thread is beginning to feel unreal. 😮

Have I missed how long the DSD and her wankstain of a boyfriend have been together? Surely this is far too early to be buying property together by (given that her dad doesn’t know her partner well at all). Once he realises that he’s not dating an ATM, the purchase won’t be taking place anyway.

What a Madame!!

The audacity!
Has your DH agreed to give her a deposit already?
Does he have the money or was it coming from yours/joint resources?

The audacity!