Yeah maybe I'm wildly off base, I don't know. She just doesn't seem evil to me.
I see her as an immigrant woman who had one main asset, her looks, and was determined to do better for her family and use those looks to marry well. I do think she was exploited at a young age - whether via Epstein or just being on model payroll 'circuit for hire' by wealthy men, I don't know.
I don't think she could have left him after the first term when he was determined to have a second Presidential run. A divorce may have compromised that. And possibly she wanted to be FL again for herself.
Compared to former First ladies like Hilary Clinton, Michelle Obama and even Laura Bush, I don't perceive her as having much clout or impact. Past Presidents were happy to let their wives shine, to be very vocal on issues. I see Melania as constantly having to work under the haze of whatever ridiculous controversial thing her husband is going to do next and having to remain very much on Mags message and take on very safe subjects.
I don't get a sense of the equality, autonomy or gravitas you saw with Hilary or Michelle. Hilary was FIRST LADY without doubt (at her deposition the other day you could really see the fire and authority despite her age, when she threatened to walk out and shut the whole thing down) even despite the Lewinsky humiliation. Same with Michelle. But when it comes to Melania and the Trump admin I think of the Press secretary Caroline Leavitt as having more clout and being the face of American Conservatism. Even Erika Kirk has more following. As pp said, she's not THE no.1 Lady of America and I pity her for that because it infers (to me) that she is experiencing inequality within her role as partner to the President. And that in turn may infer things about the marriage, her status, and situation.
Saying that I had no idea she actively shipped the Obama birthplace racist nonsense so shall be re-evaluating.