MM spent Thanksgiving 2016 with her Mum and Dad all together in Cali.
H&M speak warmly of Thomas in the engagement interview and of course her gushing Tig article about what a wonderful father he was to her making so many personal sacrifices.
PH also speaks on NF about trying to get hold of him in the days before the wedding - so seemingly there was no history of abuse or a difficult relationship.
I suggest MM’s narc shame was haunting her and had grown into an irrational monster in those distorted Bridezilla days - in that he didn’t look the part and she was worried how he would behave or what he would say. I wonder if he is a problematic drinker with a runaway tongue?
Whats ironic and sad in equal measure is if MM included him in the wedding her all important ‘authenticity’ would have escalated and she would have been seen as totally relatable to many.
No one cared what he looked like (plenty of other royal brides fathers were far from oil paintings) and many would have warmed to him and had respect having heard how he supported and championed his daughter.
His behaviour afterwards was desperate, ill-advised and shoddy - but no different and with probably the exact same motivations as her own campaign against the RF.
His operation is brutal (my grandmother had the same) and any recovery uncertain and a very tough long road. I hope they can make peace for all their sakes - in private for her DCs to know that their mother could balance whatever atrocities he committed in the weeks before her wedding against the previous 36 years of unconditional love and unending support.
I wonder if PH will be able to talk her round given his long term personal work with veterans who have experienced similar surgery, suffering and life-changing disabilities?