Is Meghan a narcissist?

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I keep seeing these reels and social media smears on Meghan being a narcissist and abusive partner to Harry. She certainly doesn't seem overly popular with the royal family or understood the expectations of her as a royal when she married him.

I'm by no means a royalist or a fan of Megan's. But I'm the same age as Harry so always felt I could relate a little to him. I haven't read his book or watched the netflix docs.

The main thing that doesn't sit quite right for me is they wanted a 'private life' and then done anything but. Did Megan use Harry's desire for privacy to isolate him from his family and friends?

I think she’s self absorbed enough to not consider the tunnel or Diana. She’s filming inside the car not roaming Paris by the tunnel.

She also knows fine well that Harry blames the paps for his mother’s death. So what does she do….plays up for them then records her journey through Paris at night.

It’s deranged.

Oh I’m delighted she’s living well (if she is - I can’t imagine anyone married to Harry would be but maybe she is!). I don’t know what it says about someone to enjoy people “hating” you, or for a random third party such as yourself to support someone you don’t know in enjoying people “hating” her. Either way, none of it concerns me as she’s just today’s random celebrity who was front page when I checked the news this morning - my thoughts on her really don’t go deeper than my thoughts on Katie Price, which is to say as shallow as a puddle! It looks like your feelings towards her are far deeper than mine 😂

Her home is filled with pics of Dianna and Harry keeps a lock of his mothers hair by his bed. She knows where dianna died. It’s like it’s some part of cosplay for her. Weird

It’s depressingly true, IME & IMO, for most of the demographic you describe. Especially so for women who have felt ‘less than’ or outsiders in earlier life.

Yes, all the more reason, if not heartfelt, you’d totally forget and think ‘I’ll take a selfie in my car on way back to luxe hotel, after a successful long day to show the haterz’. Thoughtless not malicious IMO. So much is thoughtless, sheltered & self absorbed but we can read too much into it, maybe?

I think she’s an interesting psychological study. I’m curious as to next move & pretty open minded about her to date.

I think that’s a bit of a reach, to be honest. Pont Alexandre III is the prettiest, most photographed bridge on the Seine, night or day, and if she’s travelling back to her hotel along the Seine she would have known she’d drive past it, so why not get it in a quick video. It’s very deliberate, but that’s instagram, isn’t it? She would have turned right to go back to the Plaza Athenée on Avenue Montaigne before getting to the Alma tunnel (she probably drove over the top of it), so I don’t think it’s a big deal. And that’s before you even get into whether she knows Paris well enough to know exactly where it was….

My SIL’s df died suddenly in Paris of a heart attack on a business trip when she was only 12. This was obviously a very traumatic and defining event in her life. She has vowed to never ever visit Paris. This may seem dramatic to some but it is her right to feel what she wants. As a result, my BIL (dh’s db) has also decided never travel there. I wouldn’t expect everyone to limit their life in such a way but I do think it’s very much your job as a spouse to be aware of your partner’s history and be sensitive to things which may be upsetting to them. I think M absolutely does know about the connection of that part of Paris to Diana’s death. Didn’t H talk about it in Spare?

Nope. I’m prepared to give people a lot of leeway re accidentally doing something that triggers other people into assigning ulterior or bad motivations.

But she’s in Paris at night and if she wanted a glam moment for the gram she could have filmed passing many recognizable famous landmarks.

I can’t believe that she chose to do it at that particular point in her journey by accident. She’s signposting that she’s about to drive by the place Diana died.

One person too many. She's been called everything on this thread

I’ll think you’ve nailed it. ‘That’s insta’ indeed & what I was driving at more clumsily.

I think it was as @Serenster says rather better than I did. She’s self absorbed that’s all.

Anyone who thinks they can analyse the behaviour of someone in the public eye, particularly an actor, and diagnose them with a MH condition or determine if they are abusive aren't as intelligent as they think they are. No one knows what they are like in their personal life, we just see the public persona and even then it is usually just a version of it edited by the media.

Well, then, she's her own worst enemy because anyone with an ounce of sense would have anticipated that something like this would blow up the wrong way.

From the first planning of a trip to Paris as the daughter in law of one of the world's most famous women who is forever linked to driving through Paris at night after being photographed leaving a Paris hotel, it should have been in everyone's minds that there would be a minefield of comparisons and potential issues.

There’s a thread now on this. Yes, it seems often she is her own worst enemy.

I think (hope) she's just not made the connection. She's forgotten the links with Diana in her excitement at being in Paris. Thoughtless, but not cruel to Harry.

Which would be fine, except that she’s made a career of saying she’s the opposite of self absorbed - that she’s all about deep thoughtfulness and “showing up” for others, particularly vulnerable communities, particularly her family. Particularly her husband

She and her husband have made a career out of Diana ideation - bringing up her memory and the unfortunate circumstances of her death at any opportunity. Harry has repeatedly characterised his wife as the embodiment of the spirit of his mother, and has told us he shares the same fears for his wife over her safety.

They have waged war against the press and the paparazzi, to the point of claiming on camera that they have been afraid for their lives due to photographers.

They have been vocal about their superior moral stances, both politically and socially, eg wrt children’s safety.

So coming to Paris with rent-a-pap outfit Backgrid in tow; going to the show of a fashion house that still has not recovered their reputation since their child SA inspired campaign a few years ago; coming in and out of a hotel group that was once declared by her as a moral no go area; speeding around Paris in a way that makes the general public immediately think back to the “catastrophic car chase” and Diana’s accident, and her husband’s vocalised mental health triggers over his mother’s death. All that sort of activity chafes against the caring, thinking of other persona Meghan herself has asked people to believe in.

Sorry, but Meghan and Harry need to understand people listen to what they insist on telling the world about themselves and their viewpoints, and people are inevitably going to be struck by hypocrisy, as they would with any other vocal, public figure acting out of the character that they have insisted for years they are.

I think filming yourself in the tunnel your MIL died in and sharing for attention makes you close to a psychopath.

I don’t think she’s a narcissist, but she clearly has some kind of neurodivergence going on. She can’t seem to stick with one thing or see anything through to the end, constantly switching and changing, always seeming ‘on’ or performing, and the word salad!

Sometimes I feel like she is genuine in her intentions, but she’s incapable of being authentic in the process and seems obsessed with being seen as perfect. That’s probably why she got offended when Mariah called her a diva, even though Mariah clearly meant it as a compliment. She can’t handle any form of criticism, even when it’s offered kindly.

She wasnt filming in the same tunnel she wasnt even filming in a tunnel. She was on another bridge half a mile away. 🙄

At least get it right..and you call her close to a psychopath based on your incorrect information...

This is why she is an utter twat. Doing s88t like this.

Good Lord, that’s a stretch. Especially as it’s not even true 😂

Perhaps she shouldn’t have been in car - Diana was in a car when she died! And as for going to Paris just 28 years after Diana died there? So insensitive of her. 🙄

Posting a video of herself driving around Paris at night, only half a mile from where her very famous mother-in-law died. She doesn’t film herself driving in cars at home, it’s always carefully curated clips of her prancing around, playing the perfect trad wife in her house and garden. Posting this feels either shockingly tone-deaf or downright manipulative. As I’ve said before, it really seems like she’s trolling Harry more than anyone else.

@EmpressSisi I did wonder if she was trolling H, particularly following that awful photo she posted on his birthday a couple of weeks ago. Of course, several posters feel it was a genuine mistake and they may well be right. Ultimately it’s H’s feelings that matter most and we will never know about that.