William looks like Edward here, I think the artist has got confused!
When my dh died, our 3 eldest dc were with me in the hospital. The youngest one, who was 12, had been at a friend's house for a sleepover. We didn't tell him until later that morning.
I have wondered since if it was the right decision not to collect him from his friend's but, at the time, I thought it was the best and right thing to do. Dh died in pretty distressing circumstances, and youngest ds, being the baby of the family by 7 years, was a young 12. On balance, I think it was the right decision and he's turned out well so 🤷♀️! As previous posters have said, we all do it differently.