But why was it necessary to put on such psychological armour in the first place? This goes beyond her to the bullshit we all have to do as women to feel confident and 'seen'.
Is 'psychological armour' the right term? @GelatoPistacchio
Do you mean 'war paint' - ie make up?
I don't think you've used the right words.
If you mean making an effort with her appearance, what's wrong with that? I wear full make up every day even in the house . I do it for ME not for anyone else.
If you feel you have to do 'bullshit' and not be your own person, that's your choice, surely.