Well said, @Mymilkshakebringsallthepapstomycar
Impatience + entitlement is their hallmark.
If they'd had the brains and maturity to suck it up and wait until the queen died before "stepping away from the royal family" they'd be 1,000 times better off now in terms of reputation.
I mean, would it have been SO difficult to ignore the tabloids, raise their young family in untold luxury at Frogmore, perform the very light duties required of them, and, in Meghan's case, learn and assimilate rather than pre-emptively deciding to judge and change?
Five years after their marriage and with the kids nearing school age, they would have been solidly grounded as senior royals, in a much better position to negotiate any sort of half-in situation or just make a subtle move to the USA without a public strop, and probably a lot wealthier. If Harry hadn't been such an ass, Charles would be more inclined to share what he's inherited from HMQ.
Instead they couldn't control themselves, had to jump the gun and make fools of themselves with their flounce and their now rather empty and ineffectual lives turning off the people in the UK and in America who might have taken an interest in facilitating their aims.
Just such fools, throwing it all away with two hands, when a little self-control and patience would have made immense difference.