If Harry was your son and was doing this, what would you do?

[Abigail69]

Lets assume that your child lets call them Mr Harry was behaving like the Harry, ie Charles son. What would you do to stop this rubbish?

Persoanlly, if Mr Harry was one of my kids and was doing this, ie airing private stuff on the media etc, I slap their bottom and never speak to them unless Mr Harry and his OH sincerely apologised and showed regret and guaranteed it would never happen again.

I'd let him get it out of his system, he's making himself look an idiot.

I'd be heartbroken and mortified.

I'd maintain a dignified silence, as Charles seems to be doing, and keep the door open if he wanted to talk.

Seek legal advice if I had the money because this is a three book deal and he is coming across as unhinged now claiming he wasn't best man and didn't do a speech?

I'd do the same and I'd probably be tying to contact him privately after the furore

I'd go to him and ask to sit down & talk genuinely

If he was upset that I was constantly leaking stories to the press about him and his wife I would take accountability and say - yes I'm sorry I shouldn't have done that .. I can understand you were hurt ..

The problem is most people would be able to clear the air or walk away. Harry doesn’t trust them and they don’t trust Harry, so this cannot be resolved in a normal way. It will be “my door is always open” approach

I would also.

Well your options as a private citizen are vastly different to the people in this debacle.

Unless there are any Heads of State or Monarchs on here with all the weight of National and International responsibility irrespective of family feelings, none of our opinions are helpful.

The Crown comes first. Always.

There's nothing that the family can do. H is an adult man and can behave how he wants unless he's breaking the law in which case that's for the police to sort.
His family's hands are tied. H feels that he's been controlled his whole life so intervening or commenting will piss him off. A psychiatric assessment will be seen as controlling like the Britney Spears case.
i think that they are doing the right thing and waiting until he's ready to contact them. Could be years, could be never but not shutting the door on him is the right move imo.

www.townandcountrymag.com/society/tradition/a20708008/prince-william-prince-harry-royal-wedding-best-man-speech/

I mean ^ it's like he thinks the Internet doesn't exist

I wouod also be taking advice on how to section him for his mental health

I would give the poor young man a hug - but then if I had been doing that throughout his upbringing it is likely that the problem would not have arisen in the first place. A child brought up without love (or who lost, under traumatic circumstances the only person who showed him love) is going to have problems. I would be asking myself where I went wrong.

I'd be exasperated. A dignified silence is probably best. No family is perfect but most of us don't wash our dirty linen in public. Is it one of those never-ending situations where if you think you've solved the problem, the complainer changes the problem iyswim?

I have a brother like this. He puts up Facebook posts that are long, rambling, personal- oversharing- and often not quite true- just his perception which is often influenced by other people, his mental illness and drug use and a flair for the dramatics. One example is how our family was transphobic towards him because when I was 12 I dressed him (he'd have been 5) up like a Princess and did his makeup then took pictures to tease him and humiliate him. The reality is I dressed my little brother up and my mum and dad took a picture because it was a fun moment that no one thought twice about after 30 minutes he's not trans btw, although he thought he might be for a while then settled on it being DID instead...

It's embarrassing for the rest of the family but we ignore it now because really, what else can you do?

I’d stay silent. Seek legal advise where needed. I would want reconciliation but would wonder how we could ever trust them again after all of this. It’s all very sad.

I’d wonder what the heck I had done wrong, looked at my behaviour and tried to build bridges again with Mr Harry.

i would look into family counselling.

And I would have done that a long time BEFORE everything came out in the open. Incl supporting them when they were dragged by the press….

Because the reason it’s out in the press is the communication has completely broken down between them a long time ago.

This.

And also what @ManyNameChanges said.

I would talk to him. He needs help and support

I would tell him that I loved him and always would. I would explain however that it would be really hard to talk through our differences knowing that he might reveal everything I said to the world.

I would then suggest we attended sessions with a family therapist / mediator but that we would both need to sign an NDA first.

He's a grown man with his own family - what could you hope to do? It's the nightmare situation for any parent (or PIL) - whatever you do or say will be wrong (and there are plenty of threads on here that attest to that). Better to keep your counsel, wait for the dust to settle and leave the door open until he comes to his senses - the more you try to intervene the longer that will take. At the end of the day, your son is your son (and I think we saw that very clearly with the Queen and Andrew). I think his family will be able to forgive him - olive branches have already gone out - the Jubilee, the (rejected) invitation to Balmoral, the pre-funeral walkabout - but it has to come from Harry himself. In this situation I'd be trying to bite my tongue which I think the RF are doing very well. It would literally break my heart if it was my family and I don't think it's stretching it too far to say that's what happened to the D of E and the Queen.

I’d write him a letter, apologise for anything I had done which he felt was wrong, tell him I was trying my best and that I wanted to continue to have a relationship with him and for him to please contact me.

The reason I’d do the above is that I’d be absolutely worried sick about him. He seems seriously mentally distressed and is living in cloud cuckoo land. The whole world is now taking the piss out of him, so I’d want to be there for him.

Not respond. Wait on the sidelines and be there if he needs rescuing.

Not much else to do.

I think the long term use of weed has probably had a significant effect on his mental health

Its really bad for adolescent brains and his obviously has some odd wiring

it sounds difficult to fix the situation 😀