If Harry was your son and was doing this, what would you do?

[Abigail69]

Lets assume that your child lets call them Mr Harry was behaving like the Harry, ie Charles son. What would you do to stop this rubbish?

Persoanlly, if Mr Harry was one of my kids and was doing this, ie airing private stuff on the media etc, I slap their bottom and never speak to them unless Mr Harry and his OH sincerely apologised and showed regret and guaranteed it would never happen again.

The RF should and must stay quiet but stop being cowardly and remove their titles. Trust me, that will teach them a lesson. Intially they may kick off and they will, longer term they have a better chance of becoming one family again

I've had it with a sis - then i stopped talking - after ten yrs we started talking but am weary and she is not, but i am glad we are talking again but not on their terms as before.

Well hopefully my child will know I did my best. I'm not in the public eye but if I was, I wouldn't confess in a televised interview that I cheated on their other parent and I wouldn't join a public slanging match 24th the other parent. I wouldn't let them walk behind their parent's coffin in front of the whole world and to keep a stiff upper lip. I wouldn't send them to boarding school.

If they still slagged me off. I would be devastated but their my child, they'd still be my child, the Queen forgave Andrew. I'd want to there for my grandchildren who are tiny and innocent.

But why do you want to teach them? I don’t get it? A family is fractured, one member at least (possibly more) is distressed. How do you heal anything by trying to teach people lessons unless you’re petty and vindictive?

I would cheer him on and support him.

What were the actual stories that were leaked?

Are you able to identify any of them?

When was this and why?

I would be disappointed that any child if mine were so stupid. I would grit my teeth, say nothing, and wait for him to come to his senses.

I would use the philosophy of Lionel Luther from smallville and try to understand the strategies and understand the motive, philosophy, ect behind it all, people don't go awol for the sake of it.

If I was Harry's father, I would sincerely apologise to him for the hurtful things I've said and done.

I would apologise to him for any harm that my own behaviour towards him or his wife had caused. I would do it in person but would have it taped.

I would then inform him that I has going NC, as it's often advised on Mumsnet.

Well said.

I'd stay silent but they would be cut off and disowned until the end of time.

Stay silent. Wait for them to calm down and then open the doors and say to them if they want to chat they know where I am and that I love them very much.

Everything he is doing, divulging medical information about his brother, his fathers past trauma, inventing being best man at his own brothers wedding when there was people actually in attendance who witnessed him give a damn speech. It’s all pointing at being manic. And if these are the sorts of things he wanted redacted from the book after the Queen died I’m glad they weren’t.

Why redact it if it is true? It just furthers my belief that he’s a compulsive liar. I don’t think the RF are innocent bystanders by any means. I’m sure they have made mistakes along the way. But the difference is they aren’t sitting writing books.

And for all the failings he believes Charles had as a father, I hope his own children don’t look back on him in the same light.

I think Harry is a troubled man. He was troubled as a child and teen and he’s still troubled now. Yes he lost his mother when he was young. But people seem to forget that William was only two years older than him. And he lost a mother too. And he wouldn’t walk behind his mothers coffin unless his grandfather was there. William was just as vulnerable but people overlook that because he was a bit taller.

Charles & William are in the toughest position. I have no doubt they, esp Charles, still cares and is deeply worried about Harry.

Except everything they seem to do gets twisted and leaked to the press. They have their own images to take care of and have to be mindful of Williams 3 kids in school just building new friendships.

I think they have to sit back and wait. Eventually Harry will come crawling back and be ready for professional help.
They also need time to rebuild trust but that can only happen when Harry is ready for it to happen.

I'd be worried about his mental health and stability and try to offer some support through a separate 3rd party to make sure he is okay.

A third party...like BetterUp who he works for? A large organisation that provides mental health help.

It's an impossible situation for the RF whatever they say/don't say, do/don't do Harry will try to use it as more fodder against them. Don't know what's happening behind the scenes but they'd be best off keeping well away from him for the moment.

What work does he do? I assumed he had left.

I would try to talk to him. I would also suggest we went for family counselling.

I would however be absolutely furious that he was taking revenge on me and humiliating me. I would have to look at myself though and ask myself some questions.

Almost the same but in my case the door would be firmly closed. Too many bridges burnt.

I’d go to family counselling with them.

I'm assuming people usually love their children unconditionally, at least at some level - I love my own 'blood family' in that way, although I don't have children. I might deplore what they have done and the way they have treated me on some occasions; but they haven't crossed a line beyond which I would cut contact; and I don't think Harry has, as yet.

I'd sit it out and wait for him get it out of his system.
Hopefully I'd live long enough. Charles might not be so lucky.

I very much hope that Charles is receiving briefings and making decisions on the security risk Harry has caused above anything else.

I'm sure he will be very upset and worried about Harry as a private person but the security issues with the coronation coming up should be prioritised. He is King. He does have a responsibility to the country here.

I highly doubt that the family haven't tried to speak to Harry behind closed doors before this - Harry was at the Queen's funeral. I am sure they would have taken that opportunity to try and build bridges, but ultimately I think the cash for this book meant Harry wouldn't change direction. If it didn't work then, why would it work now?

Harry seems to want total capitulation, in public ideally, but that won't help him and it would possibly destroy the monarchy to do so. Given that's not on the table I'm not really sure what they can do other than hope Meghan supports him and that he is kept safe by those around him.

I would be quiet if I was the target of his projected rage - because it’s almost like goading - seems he wants to provoke a reaction and anything that would / could be said would be twisted and made into bullets to shoot you with.

Grey rock. Compassionate silence - not to punish but to avoid fuelling.

However I would be v concerned for their MH and would expect it to decline further.

I would be working through a 3rd party to see how they are doing - and my aim would be that they prioritise restoring their MH rather than pursuing a reconciliation - as that would be cart before the horse.

His relentless tunnel vision, ruminating and stewing over such a long time would worry me greatly.

I would tap into someone like Eugenie.
I wonder if MM can see it?

What your grandchildren?

I'd maintain a dignified silence, as Charles seems to be doing, and keep the door open if he wanted to talk.

This.

From what I've observed with friends and family it seems hardest when it's your child. It's upsetting with other family like siblings but parents child seems hardest to walk away and put distance in with.

I've experienced "misrepresentations" and it can be rage inducing to mildly annoying but most people - the audience - don't really care or want the drama and stories. You have to let it go to an extent - do these people really matter - draw back where you can - and correct where you can sometime that's happened accidentally correct or other's have or actually finding a way to correct with out causing massive fall out - least I found it best otherwise I was one left angry and upset and hurt while they swanned on with life.

Writing letters or saying anything can be used against you - so you have to be very careful.