If Harry was your son and was doing this, what would you do?

[Abigail69]

Lets assume that your child lets call them Mr Harry was behaving like the Harry, ie Charles son. What would you do to stop this rubbish?

Persoanlly, if Mr Harry was one of my kids and was doing this, ie airing private stuff on the media etc, I slap their bottom and never speak to them unless Mr Harry and his OH sincerely apologised and showed regret and guaranteed it would never happen again.

He seems to have found it, EG Netflix movies, autobiographies and tv interviews with whom he feels comfy with and aloud to answer or not as he wants.

IMO, there is still time for him, his dad, step mum, Will & co to make amends.

I'd invite him away for a weekend, to a deserted but luxurious villa - no staff present (no video calls with Meghan, no influence from William)

I'd light the BBQ, crack a few beers. I'd start with telling him how much I loved him and how important he was to me and then I'd listen...I'd listen and listen and listen and jet him talk and really validate his feelings.

And somehow we'd figure it out - the best way forward.

That's what I'd do...but I'm guessing they are both far too busy and important for that.

And yet William had the exact same bereavement at only 2 years older.

Diana and Charles undoubtedly gave equal attention to both boys, from my recollections of things Diana said.

I can only conclude that Harry's entire angst is that he was not first born. Jealous, in short.

Although history shows that generally Princes have much more freedom and fun, so what's there to be so very jealous of?

Alternatively, Diana was herself somewhat unstable mentally, perhaps poor Harry got the short straw genetically? Perhaps William inherited the famous "Gnashes" his great great grandfather was infamous for? (And indeed his great grandfather George VI, but his "gnashes" may have been solely due to the same source as the stammering)

It was the prime minister who demanded this the Queen and Prince Phillip were against it remember Phillip snapping at people because they told them they should be protecting the boys? "That's what we have been trying to do" the government demanded the queen do something to pacify the people and the boys BOTH OF THEM were offered up by the government

You think physical assault on your child, a grown adult, will make things better…?

Nothing because I would be dead - because the loss of his mother is clearly a huge part in this. And his parents divorce

Yes William had the same bereavement but it has also quite clearly affected him and he met Kate very early on. Who was clearly always aware of what marrying him involved and was keen on doing so. She also comes from a very stable background herself.

Megan on the other hand had her issues as well and both met later on in life.

What is clear though is that Harry's issue run deep and very much precede Megan coming along.

They'll just ignore and wait and hope he comes back to them. He probably won't and will cut them off. My cousin is like this, we don't speak to him anymore (his choice). He hates everyone. It's disturbing how similar their behaviour is. Harry definitely has MH issues, it's very sad. Who knows, hopefully one day they might be a family again

Send a note reassuring him
I will always be there for him, not expect a reply for two years.

I'm not the same person as my brother. Different people react to bereavement. Different people have different relationships with their parents. You can't compare them

Id stop prioritising my spoiled arrogant older son just because he's going to be king and I'd talk to harry, listen to him and acknowledge his hurt.

They could have said no.

I'd be asking myself why William.survived Diana's death and Harry did not. You assume that there was no love and hugs - that's rather an unkind judgement. The RF have rallied to him in the past, especially William, but Harry's sense of grievance is what makes.him breathe.

Give him a pat on the back and be there for him.

I would be deeply concerned but also know that any apology will never be enough with people this narcissistic. You cannot feed their drama . Sometimes as painful as it is - all you can do is say you love them, love them from afar, and let them go.

People are saying they would "talk to him."
Harry would go straight to Meghan and it will be all over the News/social media.
How can his family trust him now?

The RF have the finance and the expertise and advice it buys at their disposal to contain this from extending any further I'm sure.

The sad reality is they failed to act earlier when this would have been a minor stir of a teacup.... but this conveniently coincided with all of the PA legal wrangles didn't it?

Mutual agreements are likely to be fuelled via acknowledgments and apologies on both sides. But it's a tall order for the RF who are so set in their ways, whilst faced with a young, clearly troubled, frightened and angry man. It should never have been allowed to get this far, it's painful to watch whoever you sympathise with. I think I feel for all involved really but we as outsiders are able to "see" both perspectives, I suspect the damage done now is a huge barrier to hope for any trust to be fully restored.

Ummm… William is the spoilt and arrogant one? Seriously?

The whole RF aside, I actually get where Prince Harry is coming from, because I'm in the same position within my own huge family. Never complain or explain, always be loyal and never say anything openly bad about a family member, no matter how bad they are. I've called out the elephant in the room and I feel cut out.

I've been told that family members are now saying I have Bipolar disorder, I am having a nervous breakdown and pretty much lost the plot, rather than them look at their own part to play in this circus. I'm not perfect and I've made mistakes, but don't deny my reality. Don't gaslight me by saying it didn't happen. This is what is fuelling this for Harry. He hasn't been heard his whole life and now he's talking to anyone who will listen.

I don't agree with all the mud slinging in the press and he will come to regret it. His wife is not to blame here. She just opened the floodgates and they have trauma bonded.

For those who say you'll just leave them to it to calm down. Yeah you'll miss years of your childs life, maybe forever. Something clearly happened as a child and you as the parent would have had a part to play. The parent is ultimately responsible for the child's upbringing. How can the child be to blame? You brought them up into it?

Don't be so silly. Of course the Queen could have refused. But she put optics above her grandchildren's wellbeing. She was the worst one of the lot. Everything that Harry is railing against happened on her watch.

And yet William had the exact same bereavement at only 2 years older. - are you suggesting that William is not fucked up too? I don't buy that.

If my son was in the public eye and wrote an autobiography, I’d expect it to be just that.

Autobiographies have personal stuff in them.

If my son had been brought up in similar dysfunction and weirdness, I’d not be surprised if some of it made hard reading for the family. But it would surely sell well as a result.

Their business, and it is a business, is 'corporate coaching' with unlicensed 'life coaches'. Not trained therapists. Probably worse than useless for someone who clearly needs professional therapy.

Your argument is fundamentally flawed so at least try and make an effort that won't fall down at the first test.

Why then is Wills not doing that, same family, eh?

@Abigail69 Just because they are the same family, doesn't mean they are clones. I think you'll find your own comment is flawed.

That's a very astute observation, @BucketofTeaMassiveCake