Am shocked Meghan said this…

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She said: 'Even when Will and Kate came over and I was meeting her for the first time I remember I was in ripped jeans, I was bare foot, like I was a hugger, I have always been a hugger I didn't realise that is really jarring for a lot of Brits.'

'I started to understand that the formality on the outside carried through on the inside, that there is a forward facing way of being and then you close the door and thing OK we can relax now, but that formality carries over on both sides and that was surprising to me.'

What an utterly horrible thing to say about your sister and brother-in-law. I am done with her now. People are DIFFERENT Meghan. We are not all like you you you you.

Another one not understanding what is wrong with what she said.

I'm curious as to WHY she said it.

LaMarschallin yes exactly. Why make it about Kate or the RF in general? Some people hug, some people don't, so what? Personally I think people should respect the boundaries of those who don't want to hug.

You're not doing a great job at understanding Megan is different to you and thats ok though are you.

She said nothing wrong here. You're being a snob.

How is it wrong though? She experienced cultural clash, which is normal in a situation like hers, I don't see how she's an awful person because of that.

This.

Bizarre to find that a horrible comment. It just reflects on different cultural or personal norms.

Just watched this part of the show now and she says it was the first time she was meeting Kate. So she had met William before so probably felt a bit more comfortable with him and since she was inviting Kate into her home, she obviously didn't feel the need to dress up. She was 'off duty' afterall.

It's funny because on a thread yesterday William was being criticised for "letting his hair down" (if he had some) on a skiing holiday. It's funny how we see things and can beat them either way.

I fucking hate hugging and I'm definitely not posh or royal!

My two closest friends are massive huggers so whenever we go anywhere there they are, hugging bloody everyone, and then I feel like I have to join in!

FFS, what an overreaction OP. In true Meghan style, she has barely said anything there. She hasn't actually said anything about how Will and Kate reacted, it's all left to inference (again).

This is what Meghan does, she says barely anything and let's everybody else fill in the gaps.

But they were going into her home to meet her. They should have learned about her culture and acted appropriately. Why is it all on her and why are you so obsessed with hating her?

What I find hilarious are posters who state none of us should even have a comment about this. So person who marries into one of the most famous families in the world puts out a documentary, earning them loads of dosh, which is snidely being cruel to others and yet we are expected to shut our mouths and not comment. Right.

Also - people are saying that William and Kate must be cold, stuffy etc. maybe they are. On the other hand, it’s worth recalling that they too have suffered massive press intrusion for years. William used to plant false stories to test his friends, to see if they were leaking - he couldn’t just like someone and decide to trust them. Anyone could be betraying his confidence. Kate was hounded by the paparazzi too. You’d think that people having the same sort of experience might understand that it takes a little longer to automatically trust a new person when you’ve been conditioned by years of that kind of experience. That maybe they would keep a bit of an emotional distance to start with, while they assessed the situation.

According to Meghan who is oh so truthful...

I have no problem with the ripped jeans but wouldn't want some woman I've never met before hugging me.

Are there some words missing from the quote? Kate does hug I’ve seen her do it in public with I think someone from Ukraine she was meeting. I’m like that, I don’t hug my friends as the norm but would offer a hug in sad times. But if you had a wife that hugged and was going to meet people you knew jeans and barefoot and you knew that would jarr with them you’d tell her so as to make sure she didn’t feel uncomfortable wouldn’t you. It’s that I don’t get with Harry. Unless it’s so the norm that he didn’t think of it? Perhaps as brits or brits who watch the royal family we are used to the formality so Kate found it easier and didn’t “misstep”

It's not a 'horrible' thing to say, but it's a bit self centred not to realise that not everyone loves going in for a hug. My family are really quite close, but we are not huggers at all.

Yes I think that is it. Nothing wrong with Meghan being casual, nothing wrong with Kate being formal. I just think it is a dig at Kate and for all the M&H worries about MH and being kind they don't seem to care if they actually destroy Kate's mental health.

She could have achieved the same thing without bringing Kate into it by just saying she was surprised that the family was so formal.

Shoes off or on?
I have tried to put myself in her place. I think if I were meeting my future in laws (and knowing they were members of the RF), I would try to make a good impression, and would probably aim for smart casual.
I have never understood the ripped jeans thing, and that you actually BUY them ripped - (yes, I stupidly bought a pair from M&S, wore them once and realised how stupid they were, and threw them out).
With regard to shoes, it depends whether the house has fitted carpets or not. If a guest in someone's house wth carpets, I would voluntarily take them off, and this shows an age thing, as fitted carpets were not a thing when I was growing up; came in, in the 70s, and have now been overtaken by flooring of one sort or another.
The formality in the RF is partly to do with the late Queen. You could hardly expect someone as elderly as she to change her ways, but things may change and be less formal with the next generation.
I once met someone at work, who said it was normal in his household to change for dinner; his family were farmers, and so their clothes would be dirty. (or so he said). Other households may change their clothes when coming home from work in an office. All of this would be too much for me, though, as my work clothes were not ones I had to change.

She says that H didn't even tell her what a walkabout was till they were doing one, and he just nods along.

Did H think that all this communication was down to someone else? Because H doesn't like that either, when others step in to help.

I really could write the AIBU on this. I don't know how she puts up with him, if what they both are saying is true. I'd find it utterly unbearable in her shoes. And now he's comparing her to his dead mother, feeding more flames of instability. Way to go, Harry, way to go.

This is what Meghan does, she says barely anything and let's everybody else fill in the gaps.

Yes that's true, it's quite clever really. You kind of know she's having a dig at someone but she gets away with it because on the surface she hasn't said anything really horrible.

Bare footed, wearing ripped jeans and initiating gigs as a greeting, Meghan was'n prepared to be deferential.

I suspect that K&W expected her to be at least a bit deferential or wanting to please and fit in.

With no shoes and ripped jeans and leaning in for a egalitarian cuddle, Meghan insisted from the beginning that she will be her So Cali self and they can all be informal and lovey dovey together, she tried to set the tone, which must have annoyed W&K.

I suppose Kate and Meghan couldn't be more different and Kate has played the royal game for a long time. It is about hierarchy, and Meghan and Harry showed that they weren't going to be Team Spare.

well im the same nationality and can't see what is wrong with her being dressed like that.
think your reaching for another reason for another meghan bashing thread.

initiating hugs

There is nothing wrong with being a hugger, barefoot (as I often am) or wearing ripped clothing. However, why is it relevant to bring it in altogether in this series?

She is building up an image of herself as being a child of the sun, naive, loving, blameless, not wealth or status driven who accidentally fell in love with a loaded prince and was worth leaving it all behind for. It is common Disney programming which is easy to swallow. Accidentally on purpose.

The problem is that a real hippie girl wouldn't fight for titles and tiaras and have his family wealth pay for dresses and jewelry worth more than streets of houses which she kept.

She accepted it all and she now she wants no blame so that the fairytale wont sour. Harry now becomes the gormless one whom the wise woman rescued and brought into the light. He was the real prize for her but she has reversed it to secure her position as she grows old. Clever.

I like your post, especially 'bowing and curtseying to each other like weebles in private'. My stiff upper lip went all wobbly while I laughed about it.

Life is full of catch-phrases. I often say to the telly, "Well, he would say that, wouldn't he." Perhaps I would have said it about Harry if I'd heard what he said this morning.

Really? What if it is true? What if she is stiff and formal. With Meghan.

I know someone who met her who said she is really smiley and cheeky sense of humour- but that doesn’t mean she was like that with Meghan.