Am shocked Meghan said this…

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She said: 'Even when Will and Kate came over and I was meeting her for the first time I remember I was in ripped jeans, I was bare foot, like I was a hugger, I have always been a hugger I didn't realise that is really jarring for a lot of Brits.'

'I started to understand that the formality on the outside carried through on the inside, that there is a forward facing way of being and then you close the door and thing OK we can relax now, but that formality carries over on both sides and that was surprising to me.'

What an utterly horrible thing to say about your sister and brother-in-law. I am done with her now. People are DIFFERENT Meghan. We are not all like you you you you.

God she’s insufferable. Making out British people to be prudish and horrified alarmed at the sight of a woman in jeans. When half the population look like this.

Also nothing wrong with maintaining comfortable boundaries. I hate self proclaimed huggers. Step the fuck back I don’t know you and I don’t feel comfortable hugging

Oh give over. Brits and Americans aren't exactly complete opposite cultures are they. I wouldn't go to America and think oh I best google how they greet each other and what's expected when I first meet my American in laws. :/

Can't see a problem with what Meghan has said - she is making an observation about how different her culture is from that of the RF. Is that a problem?

There she was providing a warm informal welcome into her home and W&K cold-shouldered her - it must have been very uncomfortable for her.

That goes both ways surely? Therefore William and Kate should've been full of hugs and air kisses when they were entering Meghan's home environment?

Anyone can see through what she’s saying here. Oh I’m such an informal loving buggy type silly me for not knowing how stuck up and formal the RF is.

Yes me too.
In one interview Meghan said she was shocked about having to curtesy to the queen in private. I'd be shocked too I find it so odd that they do all of that behind closed doors.

It's most definitely a RF thing, not a British thing, so let's not pretend that this is somehow cultural and she's just an ignorant Yank.

*huggy type.

They are pretty different actually, heck even the cultural norms and customs between states varies immensely. I think films and stuff make it seem we are the same especially as we share a language, but that's not the reality. I lived in America for a few years and was quite shocked. That said I don't agree people should Google stuff, but to be complaining about it years on seems weird and petty. The brits are pretty renowned for stiff upper lip and all of that anyway, plus why didn't Harry tell her what the deal was? It's his fault tbh.

It is sad the way people grab anything that MM says and twist it to her detriment. If it had been anyone else saying this there would have been some sympathy and understanding for her predicament.

Or when you have a partner who is very different to your (unusual) family you TEACH them what your family are like, rather than let them get it wrong…

That Meghan had so few details about the family says considerably more about Harry than it does her.

No they’re not and it’s not Meghan’s place to judge that. She should be bollocking her husband for not briefing her properly then promptly get over it. I think it’s quite arrogant of an American to come in a question a centuries old tradition because it doesn’t align with her cuddly LA approach.

I don’t see the issue with this.

Honestly I think you'd have to have a vested interest in purposely misunderstanding her to have come to this conclusion.

I don’t think the problem is so much what she has said, it’s who she has said it about. Just going by the trailers and her previous comments on the OW interview, she clearly has a problem with the Princess of Wales and at every opportunity tries to portray her as the wicked heartless sister in law she seems to manage to shoehorn oblique but negative references to her at every opportunity 🤷‍♀️

I am very British and told I'm very formal, if you are using that stereotype.

but I accept people are different. I don't find this comment offensive at all. I think the Queen would also have accepted that if you go to someone's home, you take them as you find them. It's their space.

MM and PH are trying to shine a very negative light on the RF and bring them down. Hence why they explain the history of British imperialism and how it subjugated other nations.

They want to stoke hatred for the RF by bringing those things up.

Don't tar everyone with your miserable British "culture" brush. I'm British. I wouldn't recoil at being hugged and I hug my friends and family. I find overly formal people a painful bore.

My inlaws are Spanish. WE KISS 😱and did so when we first met. Takes ages to arrive anywhere.

I would be shocked as well at having to curtsey to my mother-in-law in private, presumably in Meghan's own home. I knew they had to do it publicly.

If I was meeting my brother's new girlfriend for the first time I would not expect her to move in and hug me and would find that quite uncomfortable. Further down the line, when I knew her, liked her and trusted her, then yes, absolutely fine. The first time would be handshake and air kiss at the most. I am not stiff or upper class, I just like having physical boundaries with people I don't know.
The barefoot and jeans thing in Harry's home wouldn't bother me and I don't think it would bother W and C.

You’d think because we speak the same language and watch the same TV shows we are the same. But honestly I went to live in America - their culture is VERY different, it really took me by surprise they are not like Brits in any way. And I hope you would Google a country before visiting - for example if you tip less than 20% in the US it’s considered extremely rude.

Not getting the outrage OP - it reads like you are rather enjoying getting in a froth over nothing. Step away if everything Meghan says, no matter how innocuous, is going to bother you so much.

Presumably if you were dating a prince though you’d have expected to be told?

I don't think anyone is in the wrong here. Meghan is just expressing her surprise that the Royal Family are still very formal in private.
Nobody is saying hugging or formality is wrong.

I agree with this assessment. OP wants to froth and is obviously enjoying it.
God MN is going to be unbearable for a few days if every innocuous remark is going to be frothed over.