Am shocked Meghan said this…

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She said: 'Even when Will and Kate came over and I was meeting her for the first time I remember I was in ripped jeans, I was bare foot, like I was a hugger, I have always been a hugger I didn't realise that is really jarring for a lot of Brits.'

'I started to understand that the formality on the outside carried through on the inside, that there is a forward facing way of being and then you close the door and thing OK we can relax now, but that formality carries over on both sides and that was surprising to me.'

What an utterly horrible thing to say about your sister and brother-in-law. I am done with her now. People are DIFFERENT Meghan. We are not all like you you you you.

There is a bit of an inference that her way is right perhaps ie you take me as you find me I don’t change but that’s not real life is it, you do have to sometimes change or at least conform . I’d think someone I didn’t know hugging me on first meeting was “wrong” the hugger would think me not hugging them meant I was “wrong”. Neither wrong just different. But is this not what handshakes were invented for. Can’t go wrong with a handshake and a big smile! Well unless it’s a somber occasion

Sorry haven't had time to read the whole thread, but ..

Surely Meghan, coming from the US and not the Amazonian rainforest, should have realised that meeting the Royal Family would not be like meeting other families. In the same way as if you were going to meet your partner's family for the first time and they were a different religion to you, for example, one known for being especially modest in dress, wouldn't you ask you partner what you should wear? Harry really should have let let her know about the formality of these things.

I am sure that the RF have to be very careful when meeting members' new girlfriends/boyfriends. Sure, they are probably overly formal to what we are all used to. But, I can imagine a situation where William and Catherine come into Harry's house, saying phew, what a day, kicking off their shoes and saying stick the kettle on mate and proceeding to lounge about the house. A few weeks later family member and new partner break up and ex is running to the press about what went on behind closed doors.

In the RF's case (or indeed any family known for their wealth) they must always have to really get to know someone before truly letting their hair down because of possible repercussions. It's not a life I would want.

I was so pleased for Harry when he met Meghan, they seemed like a couple that could do so much to raise awareness. It all seems to have gone so wrong and it all seems focussed just on their issues with the rest of the family.

The other thing we don't know is if William and Kate gave a damn about what she was wearing. Maybe she felt uncomfortable as she suddenly felt underdressed but that isn't necessarily their fault. Of course it could be but I think that it is more likely to be how she felt.

I don't see what's wrong with the comment and understand where MM's coming from. It's not an unreasonable assumption to think that once they're at home relaxing, the Royals might unbutton and dress down. Instead, it was a more formal first meeting that MM had expected. That's no slur or criticism of the Royals, just an observation of them not being much different from their public personas behind closed doors.

She hasn't said anything "utterly horrible" there at all. She"s right. And I say that as an uptight, reserved Brit!

I don’t know why she had to say it, and anyway do we know it is true? W&K, in fact the rest of the RF, won’t be able to have a right to reply, so H&M can pretty much say what they want, and they haven’t always been truthful in the past.

@Angrywife i fully understand Meghan is different to me. And I am sure Kate does too. But we are not the ones throwing thinly veiled insults about her to the national press. Meghan can be as huggy as she likes. She can dress as she likes. But I don’t shout about that to national media. Neither does Kate. If I were Meghan’s sister in law, and I didn’t like to hug people on first meeting (turns out I do) - I would be highly offended with her shouting about me to national media. She is an utter disgrace.

The bottom line is this really. Person who doesn't get on with their family, meets a person who gets on with their family, now doesn't. Now rewrites history. Now it's those two against the world.

It's classic narcissism (mumsnet favourite) and isolation tactics.

Throwing your family under the bus for cash is tasteless and will always be so.

Was just logging in to rant about this myself. I find it incredibly rude and derogatory. I'm a Brit and I'm a hugger. Maybe Kate isn't, maybe she was nervous.

Ripped jeans and barefoot, I'm sure noone cared about that. But complaining that Brits aren't warm.
I think she's incredibly rude.

I think I'd also express surprise that my public-poles-up-arses family also had private-poles-up-arses attitudes too, though.

I don't really like hugging strangers, but a new SIL? sure i'd hug on first meeting too.

She’s a prize bitch throwing another woman under the bus who cannot speak for herself. I find it incredible so many cannot see that.

I'm another one baffled by your extraordinary outrage OP.

M was simply articulating what was obvious to most of us from the start i.e.there was a massive void in culture and expectation.
The person it reflects most badly on is H. I can't understand why he was so woeful in explaining and preparing M.

Throwing your family under the bus fo distract from your own scandals is equally bad

Nothing offensive from her there but why did Harry not warn her what is expected
Im not royal but I wouldn't want a hug of someone either so my dh would of warned wither me if his family were likely to grab and hug me or them that I didn't like it

Really good point. Sure lots of us will have got dress code wrong or dressed up when others are dressing down and vice Versa it’s usually how we feel about it that wounds us rather than other people saying anything. No one likes to feel embarrassed it’s a horrible feeling so if she went in for a hug and Kate sidestepped or stiffened or whatever even if it was involuntary on Kate’s part she will have felt embarrassed/ shame and that’s a very powerful emotion. Easier to rationalise it to yourself as the other being wrong than say oops misjudged there. Difference is most of us would tell our friends about it not the tv!

that comment says everything I need to know about you.

All I can think re most of Megans statements are 'did Harry talk to you AT ALL about what joining his family/being a royal would be like?! '. He seems not to have given her any clue, help or proper warning at all

"Kate and Will’s hugely controlled emotions? Yeah, they leave me cold too. Imagine not being able to just relax when meeting your brothers girlfriend for the first time. Bonkers."

Not really, not when the world would snap up a story from an ex girlfriend like a shot.

She is a gorgeous free spirit in her ripped jeans and bare feet, just wanting to spread love through hugs and hurt that she was rebuffed by the stiff racists who clearly did not want to hug a person whose mother is black.

Bless her. So young on her first time out, pushing 40 and never been kissed- so unprotected-straight outta Crompton via a private school.

She married only for love, she bravely walked down the aisle alone, with no-one to support her and without the tiara of her choice. So, so brave. So brave.

So pleased she is getting her truth out there and look forward to more brave truths, as she faces the storm-reviled and alone- holding her children to her breast

You have a striking name, and you are on every thread about Meghan, always with little digs about her looks, the shape of her body etc, always a drip of poisonous barbs.

So you are hard to miss.

You can dislike the woman all you like. The digs about her looks are unpleasant and nasty, that's why they stand out.

I am sorry to read about your illness and wish you well.

WHY IS SHE TELLING PEOPLE THIS?!

It's private! If my husband's family did things differently, so what?

Why tell the world this piece of info?

She is so up herself. Her way or the highway.

"I am done with her now"

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Be sure to let her know you're done with her OP.

i can guarantee youll keep reading and watching anything she says and does and then back on her to complain about it.

Even if she were the future queen?

I read it as the bit about the ripped jeans and being barefoot was just extra detail. I though the formality bit related to her being a hugger and they are a bit more reserved when meeting someone for the first time and dont hug. Growing up my family did not hug each other so when I got married and my OH side were American it was a real culture shock that I was being hugged by people that I didn't know from Adam. You get used to it either way. Mountain out of a mole hill in my opinion.

Ha! I just spat out my tea! That was gold, thank you