Am shocked Meghan said this…

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She said: 'Even when Will and Kate came over and I was meeting her for the first time I remember I was in ripped jeans, I was bare foot, like I was a hugger, I have always been a hugger I didn't realise that is really jarring for a lot of Brits.'

'I started to understand that the formality on the outside carried through on the inside, that there is a forward facing way of being and then you close the door and thing OK we can relax now, but that formality carries over on both sides and that was surprising to me.'

What an utterly horrible thing to say about your sister and brother-in-law. I am done with her now. People are DIFFERENT Meghan. We are not all like you you you you.

Clearly William and Catherine are wise and very good judges of character to not jump to fake embrace.

I don't like Meghan at all but I understand what she's saying here.

What did she say that is so awful? Am I missing something?

All I took from that is that she is a 'hugger' and felt awkward as she didn't realise that the formality of the royals necessitated that they weren't?
She is admitting to a bad call of judgement and a naivete of the situation in which she found herself.
Her husband should really have intervened and explained this to her before she met her prospective in laws.

Would you have met them for the first time in ripped jeans and barefoot?

What is wrong with this? There is a clear cultural clash.
The Royal Family curtest and bow in private. That is a very formal approach that is very different from California culture.

@browneyes35 do you? Every culture is different. British people are more reserved than American people. If you go into another culture and do this and then moan about it then you are utterly ignorant and stupid. I find this grossly insulting. Imagine someone doing this to another culture in asia for instance and then moaning about it. This is such an insult.

What's wrong with that...?

It's not horrible to say, I expected them to be much more 'off duty' seeming when we weren't in public and I then realised that they weren't?

@ThatEdgyFeeling What is the matter with that? Ripped jeans are fashionable amongst the young. Barefoot? So what? I would not dress up to meet my sister in law.

Nothing wrong with Meghan saying that at all.

It's her future inlaws. Assuming they met at home, cos why else would she be barefoot, then... yes? I would have assumed the same as her, that behind closed doors they're entirely normal people and that would include being able to dress normally at home.

In this context it sounds as if the Cambridges were visiting her and Harry.
So, yes I would dress for comfort within my own home if I did t realise that something more formal was required of me. Which she clearly didn't according to her admittedly poor assessment of the social norms.

I'm what many would consider lower class, and the only place I'd be found in ripped jeans and barefooted would be leaving my rubbish out to the bin.

That being said, i cannot stand moaning markle and her pet.

I don't think it's a horrible thing to say

Some people are stuffy and formal. I would also expect W&K to unclench behind closed doors.

If I was in a home environment and happened to be barefoot and wearing ripped jeans, then yes I'd meet them like that. I've never dressed up for my inlaws.

Eh? Megan has not said anything offensive here, only described how differently they approach private social engagements.

There’s no value judgement from her.

Until the Crown I did not realise the Royal Family were so formal in private. I assumed in private they were ordinary. So did Meghan.

Why wouldn't you meet future family members in ripped jeans and barefoot? I don't see that Megan has said anything rude here. She obviously thought they could all be relaxed around each other as families are which isn't odd at all.

When you marry into another nationality you LEARN about that nationality. When you work in a company that interacts with another culture you LEARN about that culture. That she didn’t bother to do that says everything to me. Seriously she was surprised?

What’s wrong with meeting your partners family barefoot and in jeans?

Meghan lives in a lot of peoples heads absolutely rent free.

Exactly. What is so terrible about what she's said here?

Is she off your Christmas card list now?

But its not a British cultural thing at all is it?

It's very specific to the RF and she didn't understand this at all. As I said previously Harry should have intervened ahead of time and explained the expectations to her. Apparently he did not and must never have acted formally nor given an indication that his extended family would intend to act formally within their home.

It's not a cultural issue, far more a disconnect of social class which makes me feel sympathy for Meghab if anything.

This. Presumably Harry might have given her the heads up if this was so important yet it's still somehow all Meghan's fault.

I do too and I think she's probably right. What is so terrible about what she said op? I've heard stories about how formal the Royal Family are behind closed dooors and it surprised me a bit too. It's not unreasonable to think that the formality relaxes once the prying eyes of the press and general public has gone away. It must be uncomfortable to realise that you can't be yourself behind closed doors. (I think that's what she meant anyway)

To be clear I'm neutral of the RF and don't follow the news about them. I have no real interest in M and H either, but I don't understand the obsesssive hatred of them either. It's like people who don't know them and never will are personally affronted by them. It's very strange.

I think she could have just said that she found it challenging rather than name Kate and use this example. I suspect most people wouldn't meet their spouse's relatives wearing ripped jeans and no shoes (she didn't appear to dress like this on social media or anything pre Harry, most people make an effort?)- but she also doesn't say Kate commented on her attire it's just insinuated which is horrible. I also hate to be hugged even by people I know let alone someone I have just met, the differences in culture aren't just down to them being royals and surely it should be meeting in the middle rather than complaining. I'm certainly not about to suggest people should hug even if uncomfortable just as the other person wants to.